Re: Re: medications/Elaine

[Guest guest]

Elaine, I strongly suggest that you show them a copy of the post I

wrote. Is it their goal to get you to stop the opiates? You cannot

allow yourself a moment's doubt. I have read too many posts from

cpers who stopped taking narcotics only because of a relative's

complaint. And the move was regretted immediately.

Originally, my wife was strongly against me taking narcotics because

her mom was ill, and on narcotics and she was always out of it. My

wife's fear was that I would be unable to be there for her because of

the meds. For example, if I was in pain and I had a script waiting at

the drug store, she would make sure that we ran all of our errands

first before I got relief.

That was a long time ago. After my MRIs revealed severe back problems

and blood tests revealed severe arthritis, she now does not make the

hurtful comments she used to. She is extremely supportive, especially

as I have proved that 100 mcg of fentanyl and 120 mg of oxycodone does

not make me out of it at all. All I get is relief.

--

Alan

[Guest guest]

In everyone of the things you noted, you were not the person who initiated the

action. You did not spend all your money on drugs. You did not screw up at work

because you were high which would have led to your dismissal. You did not act in

a manner that put your drugs ahead of a relationship.

All of these things happened because other people were reacting in an

unappropriate manner to your proper use of medication.

Alan

[Guest guest]

--- Alan wrote:

> All of these things happened because other people

> were reacting in an ununappropriateanner to your

> proper use of medication.

Alan

Sometimes peoples' reactions can stem from fear or

emotional pain that were caused by an addict or

alcoholic in their lives. My father and ex-husband

were out of control alcoholics. They were loud and

obnoxious. I still to this day after a lot of therapy

have problems when people start getting too loud and

rambunctious.

If this is the case for someone who is truly concerned

about you and you know of a person in their life that

was an alcoholic/addict they are probably scared. If

you address this with a short statement about

understanding where their concern comes from, it will

give you a chance to work towards a real relationship.

That is if their is any energy left to do this.

Sometimes we need to just not deal with things.

Jerri