Re: OT Anyone with pre-teens HELP!!

[Guest guest]

, I have an 11-year-old daughter, too. I would talk to her about ways to handle these boys...like ignoring them, for a start. If that doesn't work, then she needs to tell them to leave her alone. If they won't, she should tell an teacher, administrator, etc. If they still don't stop after a school official tells them to stop, then she needs to let you know and at that point I would call the school or go up there and complain. Sometimes they still need our help in handling situations once they have tried themselves and failed. My daughter had a female classmate who verbally bullied her for about 3/4 of last year. She had a stupid teacher who did nothing about it until we went to talk to the principal.

--Leigh

-- OT Anyone with pre-teens HELP!!

Hi all! I am asking for help!! I have 2 children. Chase is 7 years old and is 11. has decided to play sick to stay home from school. Yesterday, I didn't think she was really sick, so I made her go to school. She called 2 hours later and asked to come home. So I picked her up and brought her home. Then this morning, she wakes up and asked me to take her temp. (I have pretty strict rules about staying home from school--throwing up, fever, diareah, some kind of proof) I gave her the thermometer and she went in to her room. She came back a few minutes later and gave me the thermometer. It read 108 degrees!!! I asked her what she did and she told me she put it up against the heater in her room. I was soooooo MAD and told her to get ready for school and that I was so disappointed in her for lying to me. Then I asked her why she didn't want to go go school. & nb! sp; She said, "I don't know." I asked if there was something going on at school that is bothering her and she burst out in tears and said, "yes". She told me that there were a couple of boys that were constantly bugging her and they are older than her. She said she can't just tell them to leave her alone cuz it just makes it worse.

What do I do???? She is in middle school now and I am afraid that I would be wrong to go to the school and nark on these boys. I also think that she should just tell them off, but I am not sure that she would do that, she is pretty shy. Going into middle school has been a hard adjustment for her. A lot of responsibility all at one time. My dh doesn't know about this morning yet, and I am sure he will be furious with her. But how do I handle this situation?? PLEASE help me figure out what to do.

Hugs to you all,

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: Yes you should go to the school and complain about these boy's.. They are bullying her.. and that can destroy a child and cause so many other problem's it is up to the school to handle this.. Just let your daughter know you love her.. and that she can come to you at any time with any thing.. As far as your hubby goes.. Tell him about the boy's.. and then tell him why she did what she did.. she is obviousley very affraid of these boy's. Gentle Caring Hug's Marie Marie A. Roomsburg P.O. Box 346 Ava, IL. 62907 E-mail marieava@... or marieava62907@... Messanger. aol. marieava. yahoo. marieava62907

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Hi ,

I was in a very similar situation with my daughter at the same age. Someone at school had a grudge against her and wrote some very explicit sexual things on the slide at school for everyone to see. To say I was angry is an under-

statement! I was at the school in seconds after finding out. My poor daughter was humiliated.

I think this is something that you need to go to school about. It's bullying (sp)

and should not be tolerated at all. If your daughter is shy she most likely isn't capable yet to handle this by herself. These boys will only get worse if it's not stopped right away.

Just my opinion. Pretending to be sick is most likely the only way she knew to handle the situation. I know your disappointed because she lied to you, but I don't think she knew what else to do. Remember she's scared. It's so hard to be a kid these days. They have so much to deal with that we never did. It's also very hard to be a parent with all these things bombarding our kids.

Kathleen in NC

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--- Krag52@... wrote:

> Hi ,

>

> I was in a very similar situation with my daughter

> at the same age.

> Someone at school had a grudge against her and

> wrote some very explicit sexual

> things on the slide at school for everyone to see.

> To say I was angry is an

> under-

> statement! I was at the school in seconds after

> finding out. My poor

> daughter was humiliated.

>

> I think this is something that you need to go to

> school about. It's

> bullying (sp)

> and should not be tolerated at all. If your

> daughter is shy she most likely

> isn't capable yet to handle this by herself. These

> boys will only get worse

> if it's not stopped right away.

>

> Just my opinion. Pretending to be sick is most

> likely the only way she knew

> to handle the situation. I know your disappointed

> because she lied to you,

> but I don't think she knew what else to do.

> Remember she's scared. It's so

> hard to be a kid these days. They have so much to

> deal with that we never

> did. It's also very hard to be a parent with all

> these things bombarding our

> kids.

>

> Kathleen in NC

>

>

> Hi

never read your letter just seen this reply from

DRag,couldn,t help but feel another sense of pain,

just need to say i agree complety ,i went through this

with my daughter ,who is now in college,thankfull she

is a confident young woman,,,,but ,love,understand, &

very supportive let her know youare with her, it came

to aplace were i moved her from school to another,,,,i

seen that whatever it took she was sick,scared, &

intimated

i feel sad when i har of this,its more difficult now

more action needs to be taken agannist this type of

abuse ,from the schols &

parents,,,,,,,,,,,fudge46@...

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