Re: Does anyone feel anxiety about inheriting a trait your nada or fada had?

December 31, 2007

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Thanks again for another great post/reply. I like what you said about

something being " just a thought. " A big flea that I have is giving

things too much weight, and seeing those thoughts in black and white.

I let fear rule me sometimes. You are right - a thought is just a

thought, and I need to be in charge of them.

Thanks!

Grace

>> I really did not know how to word

this question. I 100% do not want to > inherit any traits from my nada

but, what happens if one day I wake up > and my brain chemistry has

absorbed so much from her, that I start > doing some things like her?

Does that make sense? My husband and even > my husband's family say I

am nothing like her and never will be like > her. My grandmother was a

positive role model and people say I take > after her, god I pray so!

The anxiety level is huge, I often catch > myself double checking my

sense of self, to make sure not even a hint > of her has come through

in me. Will therapy help? Because I was > diagnosed with cancer at age

13, I have experienced therapy but, never > really to focus on issues

about my mother. Isn't that strange? It was > like I thought she could

her me. All my life she guilted me into > sharing every detail about

my life, my conversations, everything with > her. Therefore, maybe by

avoiding talking about her in therapy I > wouldn't have to talk to her

about it. Just wondering if anyone felt > this way or how to work on

these feelings. Thank you.> > >

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