Guest guest Posted December 30, 2007 Report Share Posted December 30, 2007 I think calling and leaving a message is the lesser of the bad choices you have before you. I also wouldn't consider it resuming contact, as long as there is no other contact afterwards. I agree that leaving the house is putting yourself in a position where you have to do something you don't want to do just in order to avoid them. I remember your situation, but not if you presented them with requirements for resuming contact. If you have said anything to them regarding why you are no contact, then just repeat that in your message. Another option is to do nothing at all - including not answering the door when they arrive. I know if my parents arrived unannounced at my house, that is what I would do. But I don't have children to content with while the doorbell is ringing. Good luck today - let us know how it all turns out. sylvia > > Hello! > > Gotta vent. Been NC for two months--some of you may recall the > situation--nada called my kids names, and when I called her on it > dad stepped in and tried to pretend it never happened, yada yada > yada. Anyway, I skipped Thanksgiving, skipped Christmas, not ready > to talk to them yet, or at least not the way they want to talk, > meaning like nothing ever happened. So today Dad leaves a message > on my answering machine, saying that he and nada are going to stop > by our house tomorrow at 2pm to drop off gifts for " our > grandchildren and their parents " , and that if we already have plans > he understands, but if we don't and we're just deliberately avoiding > them then " I don't understand, because there's no rational reason > for doing so. " He then threw in that if I wanted to call back, I > could leave a message between 10:30 and 11:30 am tomorrow because > then he and nada would be at church. > > % & #%(@#$)%#^ & @#(%@#$)#$)^*^!(#$%@#*!$()$!!!!!!!!!!! So, my options > are: 1. ignore message and act surprised when they show up, but > then I see them and they've re-established contact; 2. call them > and tell them not to show up (thereby re-initiating contact, which > is probably what they want); 3. find something to do away from the > house at 2 tomorrow, which I don't want to do out of principle, > because then I'm just reacting to their craziness. > > Ack! I want to move to Nepal! Why the %$ & ^*^$ & did I move back > within driving distance?!? Please help! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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