Does anyone feel anxiety about inheriting a trait your nada or fada had??

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I really did not know how to word this question. I 100% do not want to

inherit any traits from my nada but, what happens if one day I wake up

and my brain chemistry has absorbed so much from her, that I start

doing some things like her? Does that make sense? My husband and even

my husband's family say I am nothing like her and never will be like

her. My grandmother was a positive role model and people say I take

after her, god I pray so! The anxiety level is huge, I often catch

myself double checking my sense of self, to make sure not even a hint

of her has come through in me. Will therapy help? Because I was

diagnosed with cancer at age 13, I have experienced therapy but, never

really to focus on issues about my mother. Isn't that strange? It was

like I thought she could her me. All my life she guilted me into

sharing every detail about my life, my conversations, everything with

her. Therefore, maybe by avoiding talking about her in therapy I

wouldn't have to talk to her about it. Just wondering if anyone felt

this way or how to work on these feelings. Thank you.