surviving the borderline parent book

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Well I went out and bought the book today and have read a bit of it. I

am taking notes on it too. All I can say is its awesome. There were a

couple parts that have really hit home, one is that the BPD parent

projects thier thoughts or feelings onto you. What is amazing is the

example they used about a man not wanting kids but figured out it

wasnt because he didnt like them. but because his mother didnt. OMG

that is my story I have always said I didnt like kids, didnt want

kids. But a few years back realized that it was from my mom she always

said she didnt like kids! And so have wondered is it really my own

thoughts or hers? I have also in the past few years started looking at

children a little different, Now I observe and actually think some are

cute. Never did before.

only had my dog children.

Another part is the parent being jealous of other relationships. My

mom was always jealous of my grandparents they loved me and spoiled

me. They would give me something and my mom would ruin it by saying

they shouldnt have because they didnt give my brother something. Well

that wasnt my fault she should tell them not me. She told me how awful

a woman my grandma was blah blah. Was my dads , mom. but I only saw

the good side on my grandma.

Well back to reading wanted to share, this is a good book.