Re: Re: be the pack leader - math tangent

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Now that you have this year under your belt, you can handle it so that you get

ahead of the witch. As for their evaluation of you, keep pushing them to tell

you exactly what it is that you seem to be lacking in. Don't let them get away

with this passive agressive sh**. I had a supervisor that was (now I know) an

over the top Narc. He pulled this stunt on me and it ended up with me getting

laid off. Everytime I asked him what I needed to improve on he would put me off

and keep a record of it on the side. My mistake was in not pushing HR hard

enough to hold him accountable for his behavior. Ask for specific examples in

writing and let them know that if they expect your performance to improve that

this is the best way to help you do it. Don't let them roll you.

Re: be the pack leader - math tangent

this is the problem i've been having all year. she's not doing a good

job. the administration targets me...and by all accounts, i can now

assess myself as having done a GOOD JOB. everything is so vague. i'm

doing something wrong, but they want me to figure it out instead of

TELLING me what it is. all i can figure is that i wasn't doing that

much wrong at all and it was a totally dysfunctional situation. next

year will be completely different. i'll be all, i'm sorry. what

exactly is your problem? and not accept any of that vague crap.

we have basically NO parental involvement at our school, which is

unfortunate. it makes me really angry because most if not all of

these kids are completely capable of learning math! GRRRRRR!!! and

if you lose it in 7th grade, you've got a HUGE almost insurmountable

problem on your hands.

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> > this is brilliant, bink:

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> > " the male reaction seems to be to compete with you based on

> > skill. the female reaction seems to be to undermine you socially

> > because you are a threat. "

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> > absolutely, that is my experience as well. I went through this with

> a

> > female 'friend' a while back and the odd thing was I didn't see it

> > coming until I made her mad but the moment I did she went on

> a 'seek

> > and destroy' mission vs. me, that was almost frightening.

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> > Another thing that I've noticed is that some NPD males use

> relational

> > aggression techniques. My dad does this...sometimes I want to say

> he

> > is 'such a girl' because of the character assassination and all of

> > that that he does. It's bizarre how 'traditionally feminine' his

> > tactics are...they are typical NPD tactics but the lying and

> > gatekeepering and character assassination are hallmarks of a really

> > desperate person I guess. It's very strange. And I've worked with

> men

> > like this alot, to the point where I almost feel those traits

> > shouldn't be assigned to gender, because so many of my male

> coworkers

> > have used relational aggression, gossip, etc to hurt women they

> worked

> > with, including me, that it feels like they aren't gender specific.

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> > I have heard what you are saying about the math...it's odd because

> my

> > verbal skills test very well on standardized tests, in the upper

> range

> > of scoring. This last time I had to study math for that entrance

> test

> > I tried to look at it as a language, because I love languages and

> > would like to study linguistics one day. I still made mistake after

> > mistake after mistake though...I mean in simple things like

> addition

> > and multiplication. I actually do better in algebra where unknown

> > quanties (xy, etc) are used than with actual numbers. And it's an

> > emotional thing, every time I have to deal with it I feel hate,

> > loathing, disgust, coming up from the depths of my being for those

> > numbers, I mean, I think they represent everything evil on this

> planet

> > because they are related to nothing and lead to things like poison

> gas

> > and atomic bombs. I think to me they represent science without a

> > conscience or something. Plus I was humiliated by teachers in math

> > classes growing up because I was so inept at making the problem

> come

> > up with the right answer, so that's probably where the resentment

> > comes from. I always felt in math classes that the teachers didn't

> > have time for anyone who was struggling, just for the people that

> > picked it up quickly, and if you didn't you were left behind...and

> I

> > sensed that they couldn't 'understand' why you didn't learn it. If

> you

> > didn't 'get it' they looked at you as dumb, and I knew I wasn't

> dumb.

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