I can't believe this. My uncle called me about NADA...

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So I got a text message tonight from my uncle saying " give me a call

if you want to talk about your mom " .

I didn't know what to think, a small part of me thought he was trying

to open the door for talking out of concern. I was wrong.

I called him when I got the text message. and although it was a calm

conversation, he was doing it all to defend NADA. He made a point to

tell me that he was just giving me his opinion, and he knows i won't

agree with him, but that my feelings about anything should NOT matter

and that i should put everything aside if i want a relationship with

my mom. I tried to tell him about how she makes me feel, how she puts

me down all the time. he just kept saying " that is beside the point,

sara. none of that should matter " .

he kept taking up for her. saying how she didn't have help raising us

kids because my dad wasn't around and she was a single mom.

the thing that pissed me off the most is that he kept referring to my

grandfather. saying how grandpa didn't always agree with everything

he did but he respected him anyway...blah blah blah. i wanted so bad

to tell him about what my grandfather did to me, but i couldn't bring

myself to do it. i don't want to use that terrible experience as

a " weapon " to try and prove my mother wrong. but it just hurts me so

freaking much to hear everyone tell me how much good influence my

grandfather had on us, and how i should treat my NADA how he was

treated.

the conversation was ridiculous. i shouldn't have called him when he

sent me that message. but i thought he wanted to talk because he

loves me and was concerned. not to tell me what his opinion is on

how i should handle my mother.

i am really upset tonight. i know this is only a minor set back...but

that phone call hurt me so much. i can't get through to anyone. i

really have no support from my family. they are all enmeshed with

her. it makes me sick.