Re: I couldn't believe my ears

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Jen,

I'm so sorry you had to endure that. How old is your daughter? I have a 14 year

old and its tough. She has friends who abuse drugs, and these friends families

also abuse drugs, prescriptions too.

Even if she is being downright mean, you may want to wait until you've had a

positive day with her, and then approach her with it something like this:

" Hey, I know you've been worried about the oxycontin I take, but don't worry, I

talk to the doctor about it all the time " . This way you aren't defensive, and if

she really is worried about it (or even just embarrassed because of the other

girl's cruel statements to her and the rest of the family), it will give her a

chance to express that and get real and true information.

There is a lot of misinformation out there for kids because of the " war on

drugs " , celebrity stories about prescription abuse, and there ARE kids and

families that abuse it, and she probably knows some people who do. It makes it

hard for our kids to sort out who is legitimately using pain medication and who

is a junkie.

Just keep listening to her, let her talk and vent, and treat it as though she is

worried and embarrassed.

I've found that the more I listen and the less I talk, the more my daughter

confides in me and the less angry she is.

>Jen Z. wrote:

>After taking Oxy for almost 4 years now (Feb. will make 4), my

>oldest, Keeley, has just started making comments about it, and they

>aren't pleasant ones, and I have a fairly good idea where she's

>getting her information.