Anyone reading Surviving A Borderline Parent by Roth & Friedman

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I began reading this book and would enjoy your feedback. What are

your thoughts about the authors' suggestions?

I have only finished reading the preface and first four chapters. I

am

I found the activities to be very challenging. Today I completed

the activity on eulogies as suggested on page 51. That was tough,

but nonetheless cathartic.

Here's what is suggested in the book, " You're asked to write the

eulogy for your parent's funeral (you can do this exercise ever if

your parent is alive). Without regard for diplomacy or reprisals

from other relatives write YOUR truth. " My mother's eulogy (as

written by me) painted a poignant picture of her influence in my

life. It would certainly not be printed in the newspapers because

it is real and we all know that eulogies are meant to paint a rosy

picture of the deceased. God forbid we speak the TRUTH!

Another suggested activity: " You're asked to write a eulogy for your

ideal parent's funeral. Write about the feelings associated with

the loss of your expectations, hopes and wishes. "

I am thoroughly impressed with the list of " ways in which adult

children of parents with BPD may come to feel overly guilty and

responsible " It really helped me to see how I accept responsibility

for my mother's actions and take guilt/shame upon my shoulders.

GREAT SUGGESTIONS on p. 73 for how to explain yourself in adverse

situations where you are accused or criticized by a BPD parent.

Would anyone like to discuss this book and the tenets within? I

would love to have someone to discuss the activities with, because I

find unbelievably challenging. It would be nice to have some

feedback from others who may have read the book or completed the

suggested activities.

THANK YOU,

Dolly