RE: Re: Need to explain and give detail to others

December 26, 2007

I do to! anyone have any idea as to why this is?

kelley ward wrote:

That's a good point. The scary thing is I sometimes find myself doing the same

thing!!

Kelley

To: WTOAdultChildren1@...: writermanque@...: Mon, 24

Dec 2007 13:48:42 +0000Subject: Re: Need to explain and give

detail to others

This is exactly something my nada does. She can't just go to a store and buy

something, she has to explain to the salesperson who she's buying it for and

why. It's absolutely maddening. Personally, I think it's her way of trying to

prove her worthiness, of receiving the external validation that she doesn't

possess internally.>> I read Kyla's post on the need to explain and give so much detail > and

it is something I also deal with. My Nada is always giving > detail to everyone

around like the waiter, a shopper nearby etc. I > always thought she was just

bragging but she told me during our > conversation Sat. that she felt she needed

to explain herself since > they asked a question about something she was doing.

For example, > she has a ministry to support the soldiers and she is constantly

> going to Bath and Body works and asking for samples so she can send > them

overseas. Instead of just asking and waiting

for their response > she automatically starts to describe her ministry and how

she sends > all this stuff overseas. To me and my sister this appears to > be

" bragging " . When I told her this she said she just feels she > needs to explain

what she is doing and that the samples are not for > her individual use. She

also said she has had many ask her about the > website she uses to send things

to soldiers. In her mind she > believes she is doing this out of necessity;

however, she never > sends a box twice to a soldier who doesn't reply and tell

her how > wonderful she is. What do you guys and girls think?> > Kelley>

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