Re: Anyone reading Surviving A Borderline Parent by Roth & Friedma

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I'm going to pick up my book again. I read it a while back but never

wrote down the exercises. I think it's a great idea to discuss part of

the book while we're reading, with this group.

> I began reading this book and would enjoy your feedback. What are

> your thoughts about the authors' suggestions?

>

> I have only finished reading the preface and first four chapters. I

> am

>

> I found the activities to be very challenging. Today I completed

> the activity on eulogies as suggested on page 51. That was tough,

> but nonetheless cathartic.

>

> Here's what is suggested in the book, " You're asked to write the

> eulogy for your parent's funeral (you can do this exercise ever if

> your parent is alive). Without regard for diplomacy or reprisals

> from other relatives write YOUR truth. " My mother's eulogy (as

> written by me) painted a poignant picture of her influence in my

> life. It would certainly not be printed in the newspapers because

> it is real and we all know that eulogies are meant to paint a rosy

> picture of the deceased. God forbid we speak the TRUTH!

>

> Another suggested activity: " You're asked to write a eulogy for your

> ideal parent's funeral. Write about the feelings associated with

> the loss of your expectations, hopes and wishes. "

>

>

> I am thoroughly impressed with the list of " ways in which adult

> children of parents with BPD may come to feel overly guilty and

> responsible " It really helped me to see how I accept responsibility

> for my mother's actions and take guilt/shame upon my shoulders.

>

> GREAT SUGGESTIONS on p. 73 for how to explain yourself in adverse

> situations where you are accused or criticized by a BPD parent.

>

>

> Would anyone like to discuss this book and the tenets within? I

> would love to have someone to discuss the activities with, because I

> find unbelievably challenging. It would be nice to have some

> feedback from others who may have read the book or completed the

> suggested activities.

>

> THANK YOU,

> Dolly

>

>

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I haven't seen my copy in awhile -- going to tear the house apart

looking for it today!

-Kyla