How do we know we are right?

[Guest guest]

Hey all, if you cannot tell i do suffer from anxiety so i worry a

lot, and all this crap is really hard on me. I read through all

these responses to and from everyone, and I am wondering, how do we

know we are right. I feel like there are so many variables in all of

our situations, and it is mind blowing when you think about it. How

do we know we are not bad kids causing this, and blaming it on our

parents? In some cases yes we have some evidence such as emails,

letters, remarks and so on, but how do we know they are deserved, how

do we know what is normal and not normal. I am really struggling in

thinking about my parents this way, like i have been dilusional all

this time as to them being good parents, when all this stuff has been

going on in the background. How do I know that the email I got from

my mom, although it is obvious there was a lot of anger in it, but

that I and my wife some how instigated it, and she just handled it

wrong. How do I know if I am percieving things correctly. I feel

like the room starts spinning when i start thinking about all this,

but it has always been a concern of my about whether my perception of

things are accurate, or how can you judge ones perception of things.

Two people could percieve things entirely differently, but who is to

say which was the right way that things happend. I think that is a

little confusing, and I confused myself there

I am just saying, people keep making reference to us being " bad

kids. " How do we know that we aren't? that we arent making

mistakes? that by having NC with are parents, we are making things

worse? i just feel like i am questioning everything right now. i

feel like i used to be such a great person, everyone told me that.

and now i no longer feel that way, and i am questioning a lot of

things.

sorry if this was rambling or didnt make much sense. i am trying to

make sense of a lot here and just get by these holidays:)

Thanks again to everyone.

T