Re: Hey, I need a little advice-Cheryl in TX

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Cheryl,

You can point out to him that going to therapy is not actually airing

your dirty laundry in public. It's actually very private-you, the

therapist, and walls that can't talk. As for that fact, the

therapist can't either. Unless you are a direct threat to yourself

or someone else, he or she is bound by law to not repeat anything

that is said by you.

A therapist can not only help you with depression, but if you find

one who has worked with pain patients before, or even not, they can

teach you coping techniques such as guided imagery, biofeedback,

meditation, etc. Since a big part of your depression stems from your

pain, learning how to cope with it would be just as invaluable to you

as an anti-depressant. Perhaps if you pointed it out to your

boyfriend in this manner, he may be more receptive.

Could it be, perhaps, that he is harboring fears that you are going

to discuss him rather than your pain and the depression it causese if

you go to see a therapist? You might want to dig a little deeper to

see if he has these doubts, and reassure him that your relationship

isn't the problem at all. Let him know what you have been telling

us, that you feel bogged down by your pain, and that you need a

professional to help you sort it all out.

Hope this helps some!

Jen Z.