2 good book recommendations

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I recently read two books I wanted to share. One is If You Had

Controlling Parents by Dan Neuharth, Ph.D. It's about more than just

BPD, but it is a very easy, down to earth read and offers practical

strategies. The web site is http://controllingparents.com.

The other book is more of a psychology book and is more academic.

It's called Leaving Home: The Art Of Separating From Your Difficult

Family by P. Celani. 2 case studies reminded me so much of my

brother who still lives with nada and fada that I went online, bought

it, and sent it to him. Even though it's aimed at those who are

enmeshed in their family life and I have escaped, I still found some

great info about transference, splitting, and the differences between

the wounded self and the hopeful self. Almost every page clicked with

me and I could see why I've reacted in certain ways (e.g., unhealthy

drive to succeed and control, as well as severe fear of authority).

It's helped me put some of my past in perspective and gain a balance

in how I feel and react.

I don't know whether it's the books I've been reading lately or my

therapy, or a combination, but I feel that I've finally got a grasp

on this, can put the past behind me, and can move forward calmly and

proudly. I wish the same for my fellow KOs.