Kerrie: Re: Return to this group...

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Kerrie - thanks for the input. Glad you remember me. :-)

You're right... if she has really changed, she'd be contacting me and

letting me know that she's ready to sit down and talk. She wouldn't be

resorting to her old bp behavior by bringing my SIL along for the ride!

Thanks... I'll be in touch. It's been busy w/ two little kids now, but

I'm here.

Grace

> >

> > Hello!

> > I recognize a name or two from when I used to post. I joined this

> > group about a year and a half ago, but stopped posting around

> > Christmas because things were getting too hectic. I was pregnant

> with

> > our second child, and lost touch with this group. Things have

> stirred

> > up again with my nada (sort of...) and I thought maybe I'd look into

> > posting again and reading all of yours. I found this to be very

> > helpful when I was active here.

> >

> > Here is the short version: my name is Grace, and I am married with

> two

> > very young daughters. My nada and I have been NC for just over a

> year.

> > Things had gotten worse (but still manageable) with her, until one

> > fateful night last December when my husband and nada's husband (my

> > stepdad) spent three hours on the phone. My husband (DH, right?)

> and I

> > had decided that unless nada and my stepdad would sit down with us

> and

> > talk about things, set boundaries, etc, we would have to go NC. My

> DH

> > and stepfather argued for three hours! This one simple thing, nada

> > would not do. She refused to sit down with us and talk about some

> > things that had happened to upset us (I can fill you in on that

> > later... but it would be too long right now and I have go to make

> mac

> > and cheese for my kids and hubby). As a result, they said they will

> > never sit down and talk, we said we have to in order to have a

> > relationship, and when we hung up... we were flat out NC.

> >

> > Recently my aunt has tried to initiate a reconciliation between us.

> > Not sure if it'll happen... I don't have much hope. She insists nada

> > has changed. I figure, if nada had changed, wouldn't she be banging

> > down my door and ready to do whatever it takes to have a

> relationship

> > with her only daughter???

> >

> > This is the super short version. I may post more later. I thought

> > maybe starting this group up again will help. We'll see. Everyone

> here

> > was so supportive last year when I was involved here... I thought

> I'd

> > reach out again.

> >

> > Hope you all are well... I haven't had time to read these posts.

> It's

> > hard to get caught up.

> >

> > Grace

> >

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