Re: Lynn from South Carolina

[Guest guest]

Its cold here to. I take hydrocodone to for back pain but it knock me out

completly there for I can only take it at night and when the kids are in school

snices i can't work due to my condition. I have server sciatica in my left leg

and bad shoulder pain.

I tack flexarill for that. I also tack 2 differnt kinds of depression meds as

well as a anianzity pill and noroton. Its a lot but I tack it one step aty a

time and it seems things are looking up for me. I hope and wish you the best

with your recovery. tack care and god bless.

Connie

[Guest guest]

Lynn,

I am so sorry that your husband treated you with such indifference! Is this

the first time he's said or done something like this, or has his attitude been

this selfish for a while now? I would sit that man down and give it to him

straight: This is part of who I am. I'm the same woman you married on the

inside, just my body has changed. Yours has changed, too [i'm guessing here].

You've lost some hair, gained some weight. But I still love you for who you are.

What you said to me yesterday hurt me very much. I'd be proud to be seen with

you even when you're a shrivelled old man, because I love you. I expect the same

from you.

Kudos to you for going to the store on your own and braving the rude comments

and stares of other shoppers. I find that the " holiday spirit " ends at the

entrance to WalMart or the mall. I would suggest this to you though. Go shopping

on a weekday, not on a Saturday or Sunday. That's what I do. The stores are less

crowded, as are the parking lots. It's easier to get around without the masses

of other shoppers.

I hope that your husband was just having a moment of temporary insanity and

comes around and comes through for you.

a

[Guest guest]

I agree with that. I know my son, who just turned 20, is really angry with me

for not being the " supermom " I used to be. He doesn't realize that is what it

is but I know that is what it is. He can be very mean and thoughtless at times

and act as if he doesn't care that I am in pain.

He tells me he is my slave and always has to do everything for me. The fact is

I do a lot for myself and still do a lot for him but he really can't deal with

it all. My daughter has finally gotten past that for the most part she is two

years older so I am hoping it will happen for him as well.

I am a single mom and have been for 16 years and I am the most important person

in their lives so when my body started falling apart I think it really hit my

son the hardest. It made him start thinking about my mortality and he is

dealing with it with anger. It has caused me a lot of tears but I am trying to

cope with it.

Soupy

Lyndi wrote "

Moderator Note: Please remember that sometimes what we think is

denial or indifference from friends or family, is not. It is fear.

Fear that they can't help, fear that they'll hurt us accidentally, or

worst of all, fear that we will die.

--

Lyndi

[Guest guest]

Lynn,

sorry to hear of the lack of support from hubby I too have gotten " shabby "

treatment from family members.

I'm always amazed that people whom you've always been there for and gone out of

your way to help ,can turn their back on " loved ones " over something at a time

like that.

but remember you've always got a big group a supporters here tho

I hope your looking at a pain free day

Jim