Advice on BP Mom being abused

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There seems to be so much abuse in our family, multi-generational.

Is this the case with most of you?

Anyways, my mother tries to make me her everything, totally consume

me, take up all of my time ( she feels she can't be alone.) So, I

am constantly drawing boundaries with her.

My nephew and his wife are living in the side of my mothers house.

Since they have been there they have been controlling, abusive, taken

over her house, pulled down wallpaper that she wanted to keep, etc.

They don't allow her to have guests she wants including my little boy

who wants to see grandma. I have had to tell them off over this

more than once. He will see his grandmother when he wants to.

They invite people over (other grandchildren) and won't have her come

in to say hello. They lock her out. They give people her things. Loan

out her lawn more. But, won't allow me(of course)to borrow it

because, she wanted to loan it to me. Most recently her expensive

sound system disappeared. and Misti are really the most

obnoxious, manipulative and rude people I've ever met!

My question is how to step in and control the situation without being

completely hoovered in by her as her protector. She will not stand

up to them. I have had it with them. To top it off, they are

supposed to be helping her. IE Taking care of her and not taking her

to the cleaners! And the worse they treat her, the more she is

trying to move in with me! My brother (their father) will probably

not speak to me again after I throw them out. But, he has been a

totally non-existant brother most of my life anyways.

I have equal ownership of her home. So, legally I should be able to

evict them. However, she never required that they sign any kind of

rental agreement. They live there free. So, I've heard that you

can't evict someone who's just been living there free at someone's

request. Is that true?