Cheryl from Jen Z.

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Cheryl,

I go by Jen Z. since there are 2 Jen's here from Ohio. I'm glad you

made it through your first cessation class, and although they charge

for the patches, $5.00 is a lot better than what they charge even at

Walmart!

Ahhh, don't you just LOVE teenagers?? I have 2 of them myself.

Although they are my natural children, blended families are even

harder. I remember that from my own personal experiences from being

IN blended families.

It sounds to me that Glen is actually more to blame here than .

He has let her get away with so much, and has defended her and

covered for her so much, that she sees that there are no

repercussions for whatever she does. ANY teen is going to run with

that opportunity. But wait, in the long run, she is going to resent

her dad for not being the strong parent she needed at a very crucial

time in her life. Either that, or she's going to end up a seriously

messed up adult!

Good for you for sticking to your guns about getting rid of the

ashtrays and expecting Glen not to smoke in front of you...keep

standing firm, because they are YOUR lungs that you are protecting!

And I also think that sat there and waited til you got home

from the hospital merely out of spite. Just to thumb her nose at you

and say " I don't need you! " So try not to take that too personally,

okay? It' a child acting out. Believe me, I know. I have a 16 year

old with ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), so I know all about

drama, rages, temper tantrums, tears, " deals " , the " I hate you's " ,

all of it.

I have to say, it doesn't sound that you are being validated in this

relationship at all. If Glen is looking at pornorgraphy all the

time, and you have no love life to speak of, then it seems to me that

he has a problem with his pornograply problem. If and when he is not

home, you can actually password set your computer to not allow sites

that show this type of thing. Check into cybernanny or I think it's

called Netmommy. It will immediately filter out any pornorgraphy

site he tries to go to! Just type in filtering programs in your

search engine.

And you are not " dumping " on me. We consider ourselves one great big

family, skeletens and all! OH no!!! I can't believe one of Glen's

adopted children stole your hydrocodone! How much did you have left,

and how much did you depend on it? Is there any way you can " tweak "

your morphine dosing schedule to make it work out better for you?

After that, I honestly say, I can't blame that you for wanting to

look for a roommate.

I'm assuming you aren't married? Make sure you make your plans

quietly, and in the meantime, keep your meds PROTECTED. Lock them

up, keep them on you at all times, do whatever it takes so that she

cannot get to them again. You aren't the first, and definitely won't

be the last! You just get smarter next time!

> Sorry to dump on you like that. Im very depressed tonight. Oh,

and to make it all worse, my Hydrocodone got stolen yesterday. He

has 2 other adopted daughters (he helped raise them, and one of them

is a pill head), but, If I bring it up, he'll say I took them all.

I know damn good and well what I had left yesterday, and today the

whole bottle is gone. So, guess who will suffer. I still have my

morphine, I ll just have to make do. Its just not worth it. Im going

to look for a roomate, so, I won't have to pay the whole rent, and

move no later than Feb. Thats all I can do.

No, a bar isn't a place of a CP'er, much less one on heavy duty pain

meds! And yes, it would definitely make you want t0 smoke! So enjoy

your time alone. Take a bubble bath (champagne scented of course)

have some sparkling white grape juice, and toast a NEW YEAR to

Cheryl. A year of new beginnings, hew hopes, and most of all, a NEW

YOU!

All my best and blessings,

Jen Z.