Guest guest Posted May 14, 2008 Report Share Posted May 14, 2008 Awesome. Good for you. I hope it helps take back more of your life. Be strong Codependency I am a codependent. ..I know it and I have been told by several therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is not covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am ready to release more demons in my life. If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron Foundation.. .I would so appreciate that. So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes.. I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. Malinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 There is also CoDA ( co-dependents Anonymous ) here is the website: http://www.coda.org/ And Al-Alanon: http://www.alanonfamilygroups.org/meetings/meeting.html They are both 12 Steps programs, free and self supportive. I found great recovery ( I'm a perpetual member ) in these rooms. If we can't change them, we discover we have control over our own lives by changing us and putting " them " in the hands of a Higher Power. We are not their HP. My Nada is still the same... doesn't want treatment, ex-h, is just that, ex boyfriend didn't want couples counseling and now my youngest son is in re-hab. I cannot give another ounce of blood to these people. I had to become selfish and detach myself from their " insanity " . Good wishes to your well being. MJ > > I am a codependent...I know it and I have been told by several > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is not > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > ready to release more demons in my life. > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > Foundation...I would so appreciate that. > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes. > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > Malinda > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 ---Subee, Thank you so much for your support and kind words. I feel like that validation I have gotten here as been amazing. I feel blessed by all of you. Tools are what I seek to have as my resources to implement in my life. I must say my husband and daughter have been extremely supportive about this, which has been so nice. Thank you again and I am so glad the FOG has lifted in your life. My cats would also be upset to lose their couch buddy, but you knew it was time. Malinda In WTOAdultChildren1 , " overtheborder1st " wrote: > > Hi malinda, > 100 cheers to you, you are very couragous. I have heard wonderful > things about the Caron foundation from a few different sources that > are quite reliable. Along with getting some awareness and tools for > your situation you will get some long over due validation and be held > with safe arms. Many many blessings on your journey. > Suebee > > > -- In WTOAdultChildren1 , " maparise17 " <malinda024@> > wrote: > > > > I am a codependent...I know it and I have been told by several > > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is not > > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > > ready to release more demons in my life. > > > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > > Foundation...I would so appreciate that. > > > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes. > > > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > > > Malinda > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 Girlscout, From the bottom of my heart I thank you for your insight and the hope you have given me. I am trying so hard to become healthier and for you to say you see the change---well bless you!! You have such courage and you have given such great advice to so many people here, I feel honored by your words to me. I hope to keep getting stronger and grow in my relationship with me. Thanks again, Malinda > > > > > > I am a codependent...I know it and I have been told by several > > > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > > > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > > > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is not > > > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > > > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > > > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > > > > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > > > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > > > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > > > ready to release more demons in my life. > > > > > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > > > Foundation...I would so appreciate that. > > > > > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > > > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes. > > > > > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > > > > > Malinda > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 , That is what it all about getting back a huge part of me that has been lost for a long time. Thank you for your supportive words. You are always so kind in your post...your goodness shines through. Blessings, Malinda > > Awesome. Good for you. I hope it helps take back more of your life. > Be strong > > > > > Codependency > > > I am a codependent. ..I know it and I have been told by several > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is not > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > ready to release more demons in my life. > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > Foundation.. .I would so appreciate that. > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes.. > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > Malinda > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 MJ, Thank you for sharing your story. Oh my our journeys sound so similiar. I do need to deattach from the insanity....and like the 12 step program...it is a step at a time. I have attended Al-anon meetings-I always found good people there. I do believe in a higher too. Your insights were great. Thanks for your support! Keep away from your insanity too.... I like- you can't give another ounce of blood to these people in my lives. Blessings, Malinda In WTOAdultChildren1 , " jojojul2000 " wrote: > > There is also CoDA ( co-dependents Anonymous ) here is the website: > > http://www.coda.org/ > > And Al-Alanon: http://www.alanonfamilygroups.org/meetings/meeting.html > > They are both 12 Steps programs, free and self supportive. I found > great recovery ( I'm a perpetual member ) in these rooms. > > If we can't change them, we discover we have control over our own > lives by changing us and putting " them " in the hands of a Higher > Power. We are not their HP. > > My Nada is still the same... doesn't want treatment, ex-h, is just > that, ex boyfriend didn't want couples counseling and now my youngest > son is in re-hab. I cannot give another ounce of blood to these > people. I had to become selfish and detach myself from > their " insanity " . > > Good wishes to your well being. > > MJ > > > > > > > I am a codependent...I know it and I have been told by several > > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is > not > > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > > ready to release more demons in my life. > > > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > > Foundation...I would so appreciate that. > > > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes. > > > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > > > Malinda > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 MJ, Thank you for sharing your story. Oh my our journeys sound so similiar. I do need to deattach from the insanity....and like the 12 step program...it is a step at a time. I have attended Al-anon meetings-I always found good people there. I do believe in a higher too. Your insights were great. Thanks for your support! Keep away from your insanity too.... I like- you can't give another ounce of blood to these people in my lives. Blessings, Malinda In WTOAdultChildren1 , " jojojul2000 " wrote: > > There is also CoDA ( co-dependents Anonymous ) here is the website: > > http://www.coda.org/ > > And Al-Alanon: http://www.alanonfamilygroups.org/meetings/meeting.html > > They are both 12 Steps programs, free and self supportive. I found > great recovery ( I'm a perpetual member ) in these rooms. > > If we can't change them, we discover we have control over our own > lives by changing us and putting " them " in the hands of a Higher > Power. We are not their HP. > > My Nada is still the same... doesn't want treatment, ex-h, is just > that, ex boyfriend didn't want couples counseling and now my youngest > son is in re-hab. I cannot give another ounce of blood to these > people. I had to become selfish and detach myself from > their " insanity " . > > Good wishes to your well being. > > MJ > > > > > > > I am a codependent...I know it and I have been told by several > > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is > not > > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > > ready to release more demons in my life. > > > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > > Foundation...I would so appreciate that. > > > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes. > > > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > > > Malinda > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 Mayalisa, Thank so much for the hugs and support...these means a lot to mean. I know the wonderful on this board understand the importance of experience to help me get healthier. This investment is finally for me. Blessings, Malinda In WTOAdultChildren1 , " mayalisa728 " wrote: > > congrats to you for making this decision for yourself, that is a great > investment in You. ((((((hugs)))))) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2008 Report Share Posted May 15, 2008 ---JJfan, I do need to work on my boundaries, this is hard for me. I have spent my life trying to make my parents, grandparents, daughter and husband happy. I am exhausted....just can't do it anymore. I did read the books you recommended..they are excellent. I have such a collection of self-help books. They have opened my eyes and heart. It sounds like your journey wasn't easy...but you are strong and you are learning to take care of you- and that is wonderful. The problem was not you and at least you saw that and valued yourself enough to make boundaries and take care of you. Lessons I am still learning. Blessings, > > Malinda- > > I don't know about the Caron Foundation, but I do know of two books > on Co-dependency that were helpful... > > Co-dependent No More and Beyond Co-Dependency. > > I used to think my co-dependency started when I was married to my Ex- > husband...but really, I just perfected the craft I learned at home > and didn't realize it. Spending your life trying to " make " someone > happy will do that to you. It's funny that until I had to deal with > it with my ex-husband, I didn't realize how much I needed boundaries > in my life and just how co-dependent I have a tendancy to be. > Another good book is: " Boundaries " by Cloud/Townsend. > > On BPs not seeking professional help...when I was going through my > divorce, Nada was positively making me nuts. She was so concerned > about ME getting therapy...which I was...but when I suggested that if > everything was bothering her so much, maybe she would benefit from > therapy. Her response, " I'M NOT CRAZY. " O.k. then...that means you > think what about me exactly since I am in therapy? She would have > hated to know that after one session the " Christian " therapist that > everyone insisted that I see recommended a book called " Toxic > Parents. " Further my therapist went on to say that I had an amazing > grasp of the situation I was dealing with (in regard to my Ex- > husband) and an appropriate outlook for the future. This was not > what anyone wanted me to hear...they ALL wanted the problem to be > ME. But at that point, enough was enough for me. > > Anyhow...Good for you for taking care of you! > > JJFan > > > > > > I am a codependent...I know it and I have been told by several > > therapists this is a struggle for me. My current therapist has been > > suggesting I go to a week program for codependency at the Caron > > Foundation. Money is NOT flowing easily in my life, and this is > not > > covered by my insurance, but I am doing it. I am calling them > > tomorrow, I want to do it this summer, when I am off school. It has > > just become too much having a bp mother and husband in my life. > > > > So,I feel like you are all extended family in my life and I have > > shared so much...so I wanted to share this. I am so tired of the > > codependency issue and the pain it has brought into my life. I am > > ready to release more demons in my life. > > > > If anyone can share anything they know about the Caron > > Foundation...I would so appreciate that. > > > > So funny did you ever notice we go for professional help and yet > > rarely does the BP in our lives?....I think that speaks volumes. > > > > I am finally becoming a priority in my life and it feels good. > > > > Malinda > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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