Any ideas on the best way to re-draw boundaries..yet again...

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I am very LC with nada - extended family events only contact with my

parents. In the last year or so, nada has been pretty well behaved but

for some reason our last extended family visit for lunch at a

restaurant for Easter started her up again. She acuatually stalked me

when I was picking up my son from preschool and now she has dropped

several things off on our front porch and yesterday she dropped off my

son's birthday present at the back door totally unannounced.

She is pushing the boundary and I need to redraw it. Does anyone have

good ideas on how to word this? I usually write a " this is what I

really want to say " letter and send that to myself. Then I write

a " this is the only way I need to deal with her " letter. Writing these

separate letters usually helps my need to say " WTF is wrong with you

that you still don't get this? " so I can be more mature but I will

probably always have the desire to just want to shake some sense into

her. I communicate almost exclusively by email with her.

I would love some words of wisdom/experience here. Thanks!

Karin