Guest guest Posted February 9, 2009 Report Share Posted February 9, 2009 Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, and she will also be there. The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! Hopeful in GA, April --- In LBDcaregivers , > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2009 Report Share Posted February 9, 2009 I'm so glad that you are satisfied with the result of your meeting! I pray for all good things for your mom in her new room, with better-trained staff! His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . ----- Original Message ----- > Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with > the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell > phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call > her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the > spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and > cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's > room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked > me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, > and she will also be there. > > The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, > cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be > able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA > and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be > transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the > future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom > she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. > Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2009 Report Share Posted February 9, 2009 Hi April, I'm so glad the staff was as concerned as you were. And to give the staff more info on LBD will help your Mom and maybe others too. Good for you April. Sherry in Colorado > > I'm so glad that you are satisfied with the result of your meeting! I > pray for all good things for your mom in her new room, with better- trained > staff! > > His, > Sherry s > www.owly.net > daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March > 2008 > Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with > > the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell > > phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call > > her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the > > spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and > > cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's > > room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked > > me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, > > and she will also be there. > > > > The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, > > cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be > > able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA > > and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be > > transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the > > future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom > > she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. > > Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2009 Report Share Posted February 10, 2009 April, This is excellent news and I am so happy for you both. You did an excellent thing for your mom. Best, Courage Re: NH / Caregiver ??? Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, and she will also be there. The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! Hopeful in GA, April --- In LBDcaregivers , > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2009 Report Share Posted February 10, 2009 Wonderful news, April!!!! Sending hugs, Helene Subject: Re: NH / Caregiver ??? To: LBDcaregivers Date: Monday, February 9, 2009, 11:21 PM Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, and she will also be there. The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! Hopeful in GA, April --- In LBDcaregivers@ yahoogroups. com, > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2009 Report Share Posted February 10, 2009 Congratulations April! And when the time comes to train staff; don't forget to use the Inservice by Janet Colello - you can print out from our Files section: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/LBDcaregivers/files/ in the folder marked: Inservice by Janet Inservice by Janet Colello > > Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with > the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell > phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call > her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the > spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and > cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's > room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked > me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, > and she will also be there. > > The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, > cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be > able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA > and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be > transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the > future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom > she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. > Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! > Hopeful in GA, > April > > --- In LBDcaregivers , > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2009 Report Share Posted February 10, 2009 April, You must have really done a good job. I would go in and not get the results you have gotten. It is good they are doing a training for the staff. And I bet some heads are rolling. Good going.! Hugs, Donna R Caregiver for Mom for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. (In MI) She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Re: NH / Caregiver ??? Thank you everybody for your suggestions and support. I did speak with the DON today. She took notes, apologized, and then gave me her cell phone #. She told me if ever anything like this happens again, to call her and she will meet me at the NH to take care of it right on the spot. She assured me that this would be addressed with the nurses and cna's. After our meeting, the doctor (actually the PA) came by mom's room and apologized also. She also gave me her cell phone # and asked me to call her immediately if anything like this should happen again, and she will also be there. The DON is going to have an training session on LBD for the nurses, cna's, etc. so that they will understand mom's condition better and be able to provide better care for her. (I gave her the website for LBDA and printed information from this site.) I also asked for mom to be transferred closer to the nurses station in case she falls in the future. They came by about 1 1/2 hours after our meeting and told mom she would be moving to a larger room closer to the nurses station. Yay!! Hopefully this will be the beginning of better things!! Hopeful in GA, April --- In LBDcaregivers , > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2009 Report Share Posted February 11, 2009 Good for you and your Mom, April! Love, Raquel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Sherry, It isn't the alarms that aren't worth the money. LOL It is the staff that doesn't respond that isn't worth the money they pay. But the State get unhappy with physical restraints. The restraints are illegal in MI. I told the State I didn't care and did use the tray/pillow across the front of Mom's chair. Hugs, Donna R Caregiver for Mom for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. (In MI) She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Re: Re: NH / Caregiver ??? My mom is very active and agile, walks better than I do, and when she hears the alarms go off she always tells the resident to sit back down, then goes to get a staff member - lol! But I still don't see how the alarms can take the place of comfortable devices that actually keep the people safe? Not the same thing at all. If my mom ever gets to the place where she needs one (well, she's been in that place before, when the hospital put her on Ativan - but they did restrain her into a chair with a tray across the front, where she tried to deck anybody that got within reach) I'm not sure what we'll do about that because, frankly, the alarms aren't worth what the NHs probably pay for them. His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . ----- Original Message ----- > Oh my goodness! After reading from many of you that these are used > in care facilities and that the alarms go off with little or no > response, not enough caregivers or what ever, my heart just broke! I > am living in my own little world here at home with my LO and I really > don't know what is going on out there. I am feeling really angry at > this situation that all of you are going through and helpless too. I > am so sorry for all of you who have LO's in care facilities and have > to go through these things happening to them. I hope I have not hurt > anyones feeling, after reading the responses I realized, OF COURSE, > all of you have already thought of this and explored so many > options. Being home for so long and focusing on my husband and me > has put me so out of the loop. What a wakeup call. All of you are > so special and such good people. Hang in there and you are always in > my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 I don't know what aides get paid these days but it isn't enough. When I was one it was minimum wage but even if it was $100/hour I still couldn't be in 2 places at once. That's why I don't see how the alarms can be considered as safe as physical restraints (which doesn't mean tying people down necessarily of course). Homes that use the alarms need to have enough staff to run around and see to them all, or why bother? When my mom was in the hospital they did the chair-with-a-tray " restraint " and it worked well. Of course after they made her combative and violent with the ativan and then zombie'd her out with the haldol, they could have " restrained " her with a shoelace... His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . ----- Original Message ----- > It isn't the alarms that aren't worth the money. LOL It is the staff that > doesn't respond that isn't worth the money they pay. > > But the State get unhappy with physical restraints. The restraints are > illegal in MI. I told the State I didn't care and did use the tray/pillow > across the front of Mom's chair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Sherry, I so agree with you. What good is an alarm when the person is already on the floor? And how those Aids do it for minumim wage is beyond me? During certain times of the day the odor is atrocious around some rooms. The aids work at cleaning that up all the time. It takes a special person to willingly and lovingly clean up old people. Two times now I have brought Don to the Apartment, and he has done marvelously. I told him if he remains nice that I will continue to do that for him. He needs an outing a few times a week. The first thing he does is head for the window with my plants. He looks at each plant, and talks about them. He has always loved plants. He slept 1 1/2 hours, and then went to the bathroom, after which I gave him some cranapple juice and a big cookie. He wanted to come back with me when I was leaving him off, and I reminded him of our agreement, and he hushed right up. As long as he is good I will bring him home. I keep trying him out from time to time to see if he is ready. If he isn't I stay away a day or two, and that is such a jolt that he would rather stay quiet and accept my terms. All of this is very lovingly handled. He is getting the message without any ugliness. I am doing his laundry now. He has pants that have been ruined with their hot washers and dryers, and they don't have the time to lovingly be particular like I always was in handling his clothes. I hope I can salvage his pants and keep them nice with no wrinkles and a nice crease. The same with his shirts. I ironed five for him yesterday. I want my man to look nice. I don't think he'll keep changing three or four times every morning if he can put on something nice the first time. He was always particular with his dress, and I want to keep his morale up by doing them for him, when I can. Love a lot, and be happy, Imogene In a message dated 2/12/2009 9:12:24 AM Central Standard Time, upnorth@... writes: I don't know what aides get paid these days but it isn't enough. When I was one it was minimum wage but even if it was $100/hour I still couldn't be in 2 places at once. That's why I don't see how the alarms can be considered as safe as physical restraints (which doesn't mean tying people down necessarily of course). Homes that use the alarms need to have enough staff to run around and see to them all, or why bother? When my mom was in the hospital they did the chair-with-a-tray " restraint " and it worked well. Of course after they made her combative and violent with the ativan and then zombie'd her out with the haldol, they could have " restrained " her with a shoelace... His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 **************The year's hottest artists on the red carpet at the Grammy Awards. AOL Music takes you there. (http://music.aol.com/grammys?ncid=emlcntusmusi00000004) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Hi Sherry P. Everything you write is right in line with my thinking, except you seem to word yours better. Way to go lady! You did comment about my good test results, and was glad for me, and I thank you very much again. I do wonder what happens down the road and I may have to have surgery? I guess cross that bridge when I come to it. I am less than four years away from 80, and my nerves are acting up. The Doctor said my spine and neck was why they were acting up. But, he knows my situation with Don and is trying to hold off for us for now. He said if I have changes to let him know and they will go from there. I let the NH do Don's laundry for months now, and he walks around looking like a rag bag was emptied onto the floor and he picked something out of it to wear. I am just not used to seeing him look so bad. He never had expensive clothes, but his clothes fit well and were always ironed, with using starch. If I press the bad wrinkles out maybe in time I can get the wash and wear to looking like wash and wear again, instead of a crumpled mess. I'll be back on in a little while. Love a lot, Imogene In a message dated 2/12/2009 6:48:36 PM Central Standard Time, upnorth@... writes: Definitely things are different with a spouse than with a parent . But speaking of laundry...I was doing my mom's because her clothes are so expensive and beautiful - so many linen suits and hand-wash-only soft sweaters. Then she went on a rant about how I never go see her, never do anything for her, etc. and told them that she didn't want to be beholden to me so she wanted the NH to do her laundry. I was flabbergasted, especially considering the great care that I took, and how she instructed me on each garment...but what the heck, she has few enough decisions to make for herself. Now of course all of her clothes are getting ruined (and lost!) and she rants about that. Sometimes we just can't win! But since she hasn't bathed in over a month, and she hasn't had her hair done (they told her that she has to shower before they will do her hair there, and to go with the program I've told her that I haven't had the time to take her out), I guess it doesn't matter what kind of clothes she's wearing either. This is an absolutely AWFUL disease! But on a happier topic I'm glad that Don is being nice about going to your apartment, and then back. He can have you all to himself that way, and you can spend time with him away from the commotion. I really am happy to hear that, and hope that he will continue to remember his manners and your agreement! (My mom wouldn't.) I'm thrilled that you don't have to have surgery on your neck also, did I already write and say that or not? I can't recall...but I know how worried you were about leaving Don especially, to say nothing of the other fears and the pain and healing time. It is so much better this way and I'm happy for you! His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . **************The year's hottest artists on the red carpet at the Grammy Awards. AOL Music takes you there. (http://music.aol.com/grammys?ncid=emlcntusmusi00000004) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 , Don had been taking 200mg of Zoloft long before he went to the nursing home. Then when there his new doctor tried the Execelon patch. Don got worse. So he took Don off Excelon and 100 mg of Zoloft at the same time. Don has had a time of it for a long time. So the other day I told his daughter to tell the Doctor to up his Zoloft by 50 mg. Today, I learned he is taking 300 mg. That startled me. I was totally unaware that he was on so much. Tomorrow, I am going to get a paper telling me how much of what medicines Don is on. One nurse did call me to tell me that Don fell this morning. I was by the car getting ready to go see him. But, keeping me informed of his medicines is not being done. So back to the DON. Yes, the Zoloft is helping him, yet, today, he turned and looked at the other man in his room and proceeded to chew him out. I said Don come on leave poor Albert alone. Then I apologized to Albert. Well, to think of it, how would Don be without Zoloft? He isn't able to take many medications. I show Don a great deal of affection, along with a hug every now and then, and I talk nice to him with respect. That is how I can usually get good results. But, there are times nothing will work. Love a bunch, Imogene In a message dated 2/12/2009 8:37:52 PM Central Standard Time, stim@... writes: Imogene, how sweet to get such a positive sharing. You are so good with Don, know how to get through to him. Is he on a bit more Zoloft I think it was now to help him cooperate? Something's working for you. **************The year's hottest artists on the red carpet at the Grammy Awards. AOL Music takes you there. (http://music.aol.com/grammys?ncid=emlcntusmusi00000004) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Sherry, if I find it too difficult to do Don's laundry, then I will tell them so. I thought I would give it a try for a while, because everything look so awful. I don't have a daughter with health problems like you have. Nor, a beloved husband at home. You owe your time to them first after you. Have you heard the comment I'll be first after you? That's why I worded that last sentence that way. Love you dear, Imogene In a message dated 2/12/2009 8:44:40 PM Central Standard Time, upnorth@... writes: This is something that bothers me a lot, apparently more than it bothers my mom, is that she was always so meticulous in her appearance. She purchased expensive clothes, and everything was always freshly ironed. She had her hair and nails done every single week. She took a bath every night. Her makeup and jewelry (which she had a small fortune in) were perfect in every way. Now, she doesn't care. Her hair is awful, having not been washed, and her clothes are being ruined and she smells terrible. My daughter's baby shower is on Saturday (my first grandchild will come in April!) but I won't take my mom as she is. I thought it would be something exciting for her, something that would encourage her to take interest in her appearance...but she hasn't. I feel such a strong responsibility as her guardian to see that things are done as she would have done them - and she would have NEVER left the house looking as she does now...it will be sad for both me and my daughter that my mom won't be there... Anyway, I didn't mean to hijack the discussion but things have been on my mind, and when you mentioned Don's laundry it was like the starting gate flying open, and my fingers were off and running - lol! His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . **************The year's hottest artists on the red carpet at the Grammy Awards. AOL Music takes you there. (http://music.aol.com/grammys?ncid=emlcntusmusi00000004) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Definitely things are different with a spouse than with a parent . But speaking of laundry...I was doing my mom's because her clothes are so expensive and beautiful - so many linen suits and hand-wash-only soft sweaters. Then she went on a rant about how I never go see her, never do anything for her, etc. and told them that she didn't want to be beholden to me so she wanted the NH to do her laundry. I was flabbergasted, especially considering the great care that I took, and how she instructed me on each garment...but what the heck, she has few enough decisions to make for herself. Now of course all of her clothes are getting ruined (and lost!) and she rants about that. Sometimes we just can't win! But since she hasn't bathed in over a month, and she hasn't had her hair done (they told her that she has to shower before they will do her hair there, and to go with the program I've told her that I haven't had the time to take her out), I guess it doesn't matter what kind of clothes she's wearing either. This is an absolutely AWFUL disease! But on a happier topic I'm glad that Don is being nice about going to your apartment, and then back. He can have you all to himself that way, and you can spend time with him away from the commotion. I really am happy to hear that, and hope that he will continue to remember his manners and your agreement! (My mom wouldn't.) I'm thrilled that you don't have to have surgery on your neck also, did I already write and say that or not? I can't recall...but I know how worried you were about leaving Don especially, to say nothing of the other fears and the pain and healing time. It is so much better this way and I'm happy for you! His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . ----- Original Message ----- > Sherry, I so agree with you. What good is an alarm when the person is > already on the floor? And how those Aids do it for minumim wage is beyond > me? > During certain times of the day the odor is atrocious around some rooms. > The aids > work at cleaning that up all the time. It takes a special person to > willingly > and lovingly clean up old people. > > Two times now I have brought Don to the Apartment, and he has done > marvelously. I told him if he remains nice that I will continue to do that > for him. He > needs an outing a few times a week. The first thing he does is head for > the > window with my plants. He looks at each plant, and talks about them. He > has > always loved plants. > > He slept 1 1/2 hours, and then went to the bathroom, after which I gave > him > some cranapple juice and a big cookie. He wanted to come back with me > when I > was leaving him off, and I reminded him of our agreement, and he hushed > right > up. As long as he is good I will bring him home. > > I keep trying him out from time to time to see if he is ready. If he > isn't I > stay away a day or two, and that is such a jolt that he would rather stay > quiet and accept my terms. All of this is very lovingly handled. He is > getting > the message without any ugliness. > > I am doing his laundry now. He has pants that have been ruined with their > hot washers and dryers, and they don't have the time to lovingly be > particular > like I always was in handling his clothes. I hope I can salvage his pants > and > keep them nice with no wrinkles and a nice crease. The same with his > shirts. > I ironed five for him yesterday. I want my man to look nice. I don't > think > he'll keep changing three or four times every morning if he can put on > something nice the first time. He was always particular with his dress, > and I want > to keep his morale up by doing them for him, when I can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 Imogene, how sweet to get such a positive sharing. You are so good with Don, know how to get through to him. Is he on a bit more Zoloft I think it was now to help him cooperate? Something's working for you. > > > > Sherry, I so agree with you. What good is an alarm when the person is > already on the floor? And how those Aids do it for minumim wage is beyond me? > During certain times of the day the odor is atrocious around some rooms. The aids > work at cleaning that up all the time. It takes a special person to willingly > and lovingly clean up old people. > > Two times now I have brought Don to the Apartment, and he has done > marvelously. I told him if he remains nice that I will continue to do that for him. He > needs an outing a few times a week. The first thing he does is head for the > window with my plants. He looks at each plant, and talks about them. He has > always loved plants. > > He slept 1 1/2 hours, and then went to the bathroom, after which I gave him > some cranapple juice and a big cookie. He wanted to come back with me when I > was leaving him off, and I reminded him of our agreement, and he hushed right > up. As long as he is good I will bring him home. > > I keep trying him out from time to time to see if he is ready. If he isn't I > stay away a day or two, and that is such a jolt that he would rather stay > quiet and accept my terms. All of this is very lovingly handled. He is getting > the message without any ugliness. > > I am doing his laundry now. He has pants that have been ruined with their > hot washers and dryers, and they don't have the time to lovingly be particular > like I always was in handling his clothes. I hope I can salvage his pants and > keep them nice with no wrinkles and a nice crease. The same with his shirts. > I ironed five for him yesterday. I want my man to look nice. I don't think > he'll keep changing three or four times every morning if he can put on > something nice the first time. He was always particular with his dress, and I want > to keep his morale up by doing them for him, when I can. > > Love a lot, and be happy, > Imogene > > > In a message dated 2/12/2009 9:12:24 AM Central Standard Time, > upnorth@... writes: > > I don't know what aides get paid these days but it isn't enough. When I was > > one it was minimum wage but even if it was $100/hour I still couldn't be in > 2 places at once. That's why I don't see how the alarms can be considered > as safe as physical restraints (which doesn't mean tying people down > necessarily of course). Homes that use the alarms need to have enough staff > to run around and see to them all, or why bother? > > When my mom was in the hospital they did the chair-with-a-tray " restraint " > and it worked well. Of course after they made her combative and violent > with the ativan and then zombie'd her out with the haldol, they could have > " restrained " her with a shoelace... > > His, > Sherry s > www.owly.net > daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March > 2008 > > > > > **************The year's hottest artists on the red carpet at the Grammy > Awards. AOL Music takes you there. > (http://music.aol.com/grammys?ncid=emlcntusmusi00000004) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2009 Report Share Posted February 12, 2009 This is something that bothers me a lot, apparently more than it bothers my mom, is that she was always so meticulous in her appearance. She purchased expensive clothes, and everything was always freshly ironed. She had her hair and nails done every single week. She took a bath every night. Her makeup and jewelry (which she had a small fortune in) were perfect in every way. Now, she doesn't care. Her hair is awful, having not been washed, and her clothes are being ruined and she smells terrible. My daughter's baby shower is on Saturday (my first grandchild will come in April!) but I won't take my mom as she is. I thought it would be something exciting for her, something that would encourage her to take interest in her appearance...but she hasn't. I feel such a strong responsibility as her guardian to see that things are done as she would have done them - and she would have NEVER left the house looking as she does now...it will be sad for both me and my daughter that my mom won't be there... Anyway, I didn't mean to hijack the discussion but things have been on my mind, and when you mentioned Don's laundry it was like the starting gate flying open, and my fingers were off and running - lol! His, Sherry s www.owly.net daughter of , (mis?)diagnosed with AD in 2005, diagnosed with LBD March 2008 Find me on Facebook - let's be friends . ----- Original Message ----- > I let the NH do Don's laundry for months now, and he walks around looking > like a rag bag was emptied onto the floor and he picked something out of > it to > wear. I am just not used to seeing him look so bad. He never had expensive > clothes, but his clothes fit well and were always ironed, with using > starch. If > I press the bad wrinkles out maybe in time I can get the wash and wear to > looking like wash and wear again, instead of a crumpled mess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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