What Other People Think

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The Riordan Channels Excerpts from " What Other People Think " Book 2

Section 21: 7/24/96

© Copyright 1996 Riordan All rights reserved

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Many of you spend a great deal of time worrying about what other people think of

you, worrying about what is important in relationship to other people. For every

time that you worry about what another thinks, you are creating a reality where

you are giving away your power to that other person. As well, you are seeing

yourself as a victim. When you accept the idea that you create your own reality,

and that other people are mirrors of the beliefs that you hold about yourself

and the world, then you begin to separate yourself from what other people think

of you and begin to evaluate your life differently.

Money is reflection of what you believe that other people believe about you. So

for example, let us say that you are concerned about what your boss thinks of

you, you spend a great deal of time obsessing about whether your boss thinks

that you have on the right clothes or have on the right XXXXX. We have done a

section on money before, but generally money reflects what you think of

yourself. If you think that you are worth 20,000 a year, then you will make

20,000 dollars a year. If you think your work is worthless, then you will have

trouble getting anyone to give you a job or to sell your products. If you think

that you are worth a million dollars a year, then sure enough you will make a

million dollars a year.

You give away a lot of your energy by being concerned about what others think of

you. Let us say that you are called into an interview with your boss, and he

criticizes you. Many of you would beat yourself up for it or get angry at your

boss. Instead, the way to approach the situation would be to ask yourself what

beliefs your boss is reflecting about yourself and your vision of reality? When

you work in a corporate culture there is an underlying belief in the dog eat dog

world. Now, there are actually corporations that do NOT have that underlying

belief, but they are few and far between. Many times if you do not fit into the

culture of the people you work with or you have radically differing belief

systems, you will find that you have trouble working there and will find that

you will get fired or quit very quickly. Primarily, if you have a job at a place

that you have worked for a long time, you have similar beliefs of those who are

the owners and/or managers of that corporation/company. Either that or you are

looking at changing your beliefs in such a way as to challenge your beliefs or

the beliefs of those working for you.

Your relationships with other people are directly related to the beliefs again

that you hold about yourself and the world. If you are NOT respected, then you

do not respect yourself. If your work is criticized then you are criticizing

your own work.

Now these are very simply ways of looking at things, but a good rule of thumb is

that whatever someone is doing to you, you have or are doing to yourself. There

are other situations in relation to other people. For example, you could be

involved with people to fulfill your purpose. It might be that you are there to

be a healer, for these individuals. It might be that you are involved with them

in order to be a catalyst of some sort. Relationships can involve purpose, they

can involve deep unresolved situations within yourself, but as a whole they are

mirrors of your beliefs to some extent always. If you are a victim of other

people, it is because you choose to believe that you are victim of them.

When you begin to truly accept the idea that you create your own reality, then

your world must totally change focus. This is why so many people fight the

concept. It is radical. First and foremost, you cannot have the luxury of being

victim. Secondly, you must accept in your life what you do not like. Third and

most important you cannot blame another. The idea that everyone is responsible,

but no one is to blame is certainly related to this idea. If you are involved in

a dangerous or uncomfortable relationship, for some reason you have drawn that

into your life. If you do not deal with this underlying issue then it will come

back to haunt you in another form.

Now, let us talk about these ideas in relation to business. First and foremost,

many of you believe that your value is directly proportional to how much money

you make. You define yourself by what job that you do. So that when someone

makes more money then you do, then you begin to feel intimidated by that person.

As well, if someone makes less then you do, you think them " less " then you. Your

culture chooses to develop the logical, outward view and therefore materialistic

view of the world. By doing this you created a great many inventions. However,

you judge yourself and the world around you through material eyes. Money is a

reflection of what you think of yourself. If you are creating a product that is

NOT making money, most of the time it is because you do not believe in it or

yourself in regards to the product line. If you have a job where you are not

making enough money, again it is because you do not believe in yourself. In

essence when someone hires you to do a job, you become the product.

Learning to NOT take other people versions of you seriously is a very important

lesson in becoming a wizard. Basically, look at the beliefs they are reflecting

and reflect upon those beliefs. Many of you judge yourselves in relationship to

other people. If someone thinks you are bad, then you are bad. If someone thinks

that you are a gossip, then you are a gossip. If someone thought you were desk,

would that make you a desk? If someone thinks you are a gossip, maybe it is time

for you to look into yourself and think for yourself what makes a gossip and

what you believe about gossiping etc.

If you believe that your work is wonderful, then sure enough you will find many

people to pay you a lot of money for it. If you believe that you work is

mediocre, then sure enough you will find a job where you make a mediocre income

and " just get by " . Now, we have said all of this before in some form or another.

However, many of you do not apply these ideas on a deep level in your daily

life. You may accept the concepts intellectually, but when you boss calls you in

to rip your work apart, you are very upset.

<snip> When you boss criticizes you, where is your boss coming from? Are you

proud of your work? Do you agree with the assessment that you do " fit " in the

culture of the company? Is your hair an inch too long? Do you actually follow

the dress code? What does that mean that you work for a company with those

beliefs? Where do your beliefs match with your companies and what beliefs do you

have that don't match with your companies? <snip> What beliefs are you

challenging in your company about yourself and about other people? Do you wish

to continue to work for a company that has the above beliefs about you?

What about the best friend who criticizes the new dress you bought? Is it a

different style then what you are used too? Are you trying to play with your

image and " be someone new " ? Is it a similar style and if so why does you best

friend not like the style that you normally hold? Do you like your sense of self

and your sense of style?

And what about the husband? Have you both bought into beliefs of looking like a

model as a beauty ideal? Have you bought into the beliefs that when you are, you

look like your overweight mother? What beliefs are being reflected here by your

husband and which of those beliefs do you hold?

When you create your own reality, then the other " buys " into your broadcast of

selfhood, and you " buy " into their broadcast. So whatever they are doing to you,

you must realize that it has something to do with your belief systems. If you

had absolutely no negative beliefs about yourself and about the world, you

literally would have no problems with another person. You would live in a world

where everyone who was in your world would like you and treat you as you wished

to be treated. As well, you would make as much money as you wished and have

working environment and love life that was great and fulfilling. Your problems

with people reflect your beliefs, that is all. Stop hurting yourselves over what

other people think of you and begin to take power over your own beliefs and

thereby over yourselves and your world.

Now, if you change your broadcast, i.e. change your beliefs about yourself and

about your situation. One of two things will occur in your troubled

relationships. First and foremost, the person involved may simply change how

they react to you. Literally, you have moved into another probable reality and

that person has moved with you. So the boss that one day was criticizing you,

may walk into your office and suddenly applaud a similar type of work you have

done. It will appear seamless and suddenly your co- workers etc. will look at

your differently etc.

The second thing that could occur is that you simply leave the situation in some

form. Either you are fired as in the above example, or you quit and find another

place of employment that suits you much better. That means that the other people

involved simply do not wish to " match " your " new " broadcast of beliefs.

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