Thanks!

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Hello,

I posted a message a few weeks ago asking for advice regarding my

situation of moving back into my bp mother's house after my father

passed away. I just wanted to thank all of you who responded with

all your advice, suggestions, and support. It definitely has helped

me to realize that I am not alone in this situation and that there

are so many other people out there who actually understand what I am

going through. I have tried talking to friends about this, but

unless they understand bpd, they just don't get it. One of you

asked me if I have had a chance to grieve for my father yet. It was

a great question because it is one of the things I am most bitter

about. My mother has yet to ask me or my siblings how we are

handling the loss. She is only consumed with her grief which she

feels is so much worse. My sister and I try not to show any grief

around her because she makes it all about her loss. My father was

just a truly good person and it horrifies me now to realize what

kind of situation he was living in with her. There is no doubt in

my mind that the stress of her contributed strongly to his death. I

don't know how to feel better about that. My older sister and I

were living together at the time of my father's death and moved home

together. It has been good to not be totally alone in all of this.

There were things we needed to get settled here, for my father's

sake. We have both agreed that after everything is done, if she is

has become too hurtful and harmful for us, that we will leave for

good. There has always been a part of me that has known that there

would be a very good chance that I would have to sever all ties with

her at some point. I am hopeful it won't come to that, but at the

same time realistic. I won't let her destroy my life anymore than

she already has.

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