Abby Re: Coyote

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OMG, Abby, I forgot to tell ya this! Last time we went to the NH to

see Dad he kissed my Mom goodbye. I mean a real kiss...on the lips.

Mom nearly fell over in shock. She said " Wow! You havent done that

in 49 years!!!!! " When you mentioned about your Dad hugging your son

I thought of that. Neat, huh?

As far as your Dad's surgery goes...March 31st huh? Take a deep

breath, things will be ok. I hope they can figure out something for

anaesthesia that wont cause negative effects. That alone is scary.

I completely understand how you must feel, but we both know that now

that you have expressed those feelings to your family and " lost by 2

votes " , you have to set it all aside. You Dad is the love of your

Mom's life...you dont want to be the one she " blames " for anything.

So accept her decision for what it is and be supportive, thats all

you can do now and your Dad would want you to. There can be great

power in positive thinking. Besides, negative thinking is only

poison to the heart and soul, right?

Stay strong, my friend. Things will be ok.

Hugs, Coyote

> Wow! That is good news about your dad. I know what you mean

about

> how life in a nh can be very fulfilling in a way. My dad was

> recently moved from the third to the second floor and that move

has

> made all the difference in terms of his care and in terms of how

the

> staff in his new ward encourages him to attend the functions and

> activities they have even though my dad tends to sleep through

most

> of the activities. I love how they don't allow him to sleep in

his

> room. When my mom leaves at 5 or 6, my dad is either taken to the

> dining room or to the TV room and after dinner when I call or

visit

> my dad is on the first floor watching a movie (sleeping through it

> really) or tonight there's a St. Paddy's Day party. Like you, I'm

> pleasantly surprised at how much they can offer to the residents.

>

> My dad had a really good day today. I was there early this

morning

> after taking my boys out for breakfast. My dad hasn't played with

> them for so long but today he attempted to embrace my youngest and

> reminisced about how he and my two boys used to go out for

breakfast

> or lunch or ice cream. (Like I told Sandie, he must have been

> hallucinating but he promised he'd take them for ice cream on

> Saturday if the weather was nice...)

>

> Thanks for encouraging me to remain on-side in spite of my

> reservations. In the long run, I've got to think that's what is

> best. My dad's surgery is booked for March 31 and he'll have a

bunch

> of pre-admin tests and a visit to the anaesthesia clinic to do

before

> then.

>

> As I told someone else, " positive thinking - that's all we have

left

> to get us through this " .

>

> I'm trying but keep reminding me.

>

> Abby