Guest guest Posted October 31, 2003 Report Share Posted October 31, 2003 Thanks so much Piper and i will certainly raise a glass for us all. Courage Courage >Hi, Courage! > >Before things get completely crazy, I wanted to send you my best for a >wonderful Saturday. I know the events will be wonderful. I will be thinking of you >and Olivia all the while. Have a glass of champagne for me! > >Big hugs, > >Piper > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2003 Report Share Posted October 31, 2003 Thanks so much Donna! We are down to the last few hours now and still have some running around to do. Mom's things are all ready and I'm so glad that she will be able to wear the shoes I show her everyday when she forgets they belong to her. I will post some pics when I get some and thanks to all of you for putting up with my rambling/stressing about this affair. Courage Re: Courage >Courage, > >I say " Ditto " to Piper's wishes for you and your family this weekend. >May the Brides' Mom be the most beautiful and well as her grandma. I >hope your Mom has a good time and you can all sleep for a few days when >this is over. > >Happiness to the Bride and Groom! > >Donna > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2003 Report Share Posted October 31, 2003 Will do and thanks. Here's something I know you'll get a hoot out of. When we went to the rehearsal, the priest was talking about who should line up first to receive the host first and my son-in-law put up his hand and said that while he was baptized a Catholic he hadn't completed all the other sacraments (communion/confirmation)so he wouldn't be able to recieve the host. We all sat there stunned waiting for the priest to call the whole thing off. The priest was stunned too but bless him because he didnt' call off the wedding but fit my son-in-law in to his schedule and has performed all the other cermonies with Rob at 7:30 this morning! I'm a bit of a stinker in that I wouldn't have said anything at all. I don't think that God really goes for all this pomp and circumstances (though I have it on good authority that he does love a good pair of shoes) and would rather that we have good hearts instead. Thanks again. Courage Re: Courage >Courage, i'll ditto that too. >Love and happiness to the bride and groom, here's hoping the mother of the bride relaxes and enjoys herself and grandma has a wonderful time too. >Send us lots of pictures. >.x > Re: Courage > > > Courage, > > I say " Ditto " to Piper's wishes for you and your family this weekend. > May the Brides' Mom be the most beautiful and well as her grandma. I > hope your Mom has a good time and you can all sleep for a few days when > this is over. > > Happiness to the Bride and Groom! > > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2003 Report Share Posted October 31, 2003 Thanks so much Samchigirl! Courage Re: Courage >I'll be thinking of you on Nov. 1!! It'll be good to have that done, >eh? Of course, let us know the results when you know them. With >Love. > > >> Hi, Courage! >> >> Before things get completely crazy, I wanted to send you my best >for a >> wonderful Saturday. I know the events will be wonderful. I will >be thinking of you >> and Olivia all the while. Have a glass of champagne for me! >> >> Big hugs, >> >> Piper >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2004 Report Share Posted February 28, 2004 As I was telling Piper, the LBD fluctuations have returned with somewhat of a sleepy, withdrawn vengeance. For the past two days my dad has been dopey and sleeping almost constantly. To see him today you'd never think that this was the angry man who was so mean- spirited. I spoke to the nurse and his doctor about Seroquel and they both said they'd have to examine him further but I don't think they'll prescribe Seroquel now since my dad is so listless. The last time he had a spell like this it lasted almost a month. Gotta hand it to LBD though - it sure keeps us on our toes huh??? Hope you're enjoying some much=needed Toronto sunshine... Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2004 Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 Abby: I am glad your dad was ok with the MRI. Let us know about the results. Try not to get too anxious until you do know. Sending you peace, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2004 Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 Abby, Looks like the 15th will be big days for both our families. I've decided not to freak out just yet as I know that there are going to be some very painful days ahead. Courage Courage >Also great news Courage!!! When do you get the results? > >Oddly enough, my dad had his MRI on Monday. We find out the results >re: the size of his tumor on Monday the 15th. I don't think my dad >is in any kind of shape to sustain surgery but I'm curious as to >what's been happening re: his brain tumor and how much of his >symptoms are being caused by LBD vs. the brain tumor. > >Although my dad was dreading having his MRI, he said it went really >well. I'm glad for that because he had not wanted to go to have the >MRI but the neurologist and the doctor thought they needed to see >what was happening in his brain. > >Don't know what kind of answer I'm expecting on Monday but I'm sort >of anxious about it. I think it's just the waiting. Do you feel the >same way? > >I hope your dad's results are favorable. Please keep us informed. > >Abby > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2004 Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 Courage: Yup...big day for both of us on Monday. I've been trying not to think about it but it's always there... (I know you know all too well what I mean..) Let's just think good thoughts on both for both our fathers.. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 Thanks Coyote. How is your dad doing? Courage Courage >Dear Courage, >I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. As if you didnt already have >enough on your plate to deal with, now this. I hope all goes well >with your Dad's meds and surgery doesnt have to enter the picture. I >can't even begin to imagine how you are coping with all of this. >Hope you are OK. >I'm sending you some extra strength and positive vibes via psyche! >Hugs, Coyote > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2004 Report Share Posted March 29, 2004 pat caldwell patstan@... Why Wait? Move to EarthLink. Courage Courage, thinking of you and your family as your dad has surgery today. I have been praying everything will be good. LOL Pat,SC pat caldwell patstan@... Why Wait? Move to EarthLink. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2004 Report Share Posted March 29, 2004 Thanks for welcome back! Also the encouraging words about my trip. I'm really excited to go but this will be the longest i've been away from mom since Aug. but i know my " real " mom would want me to go and this LBD that has taken her my confuse her with it now but she seems okay about it. Keep humming that school song with your kids and having the good times with them. I just love to watch my girls in their sports. Was hard this year with my youngest without mom being able to watch her games. She would always say after the games, i wish Grandma could of been here, then she would call her and tell her all about it and then tell her again when she would go with me to see her. Mom doesn't handle the car very well and isn't comforable in crowds. So sad because she loved to watch the girls playing their sports. I read some post that you have been going through some hard times lately. I'm sending you prayers and wishing you and your family better days ahead. It's good to be back. Hugs- Sharon > Welcome back Sharon. > Please don't feel bad about not being a regular poster....its important to > take some time for yourself and your new hubby. Absolutely you should go to > Vegas to celebrate your second. I think its very important not to let these > life events slip by just because of LBD as you can't get them back later. > Your post reminded me of all the baseball games and school music concerts I > attended for my daugther and son. When the three of us are together I will > start to hum the first few bars of song my daugthers school band would play > at every concert and my son will immediately join in the humming and we both > instictively move our bodies from side to side as we did when we sould sit > together in the audience. > Courage > > > Been gone too long...... > > > >Hi Everyone- > >Sorry i haven't been any support to anyone for the last 2 months i > >think it's been???? > >I needed to take a break but didn't think it would end up this long. > >Time is just not on my side but i've really missed talking with the > >people who understand my life so well. > >You all have still been in my prayers day and night. > >I have read some posts but am way behind and don't think i will ever > >beable to catch up. > >Abby, i have read your dad will be going in for surgery on Wed. I > >will be saying some extra prayers for him and you and the rest of > >your family. I'm so sorry....this disease takes enough out of us and > >our LO's and then to have to go through surgery is so sad. > >I see we have what sounds like love in bloom with and Sandie. > >It's nice to see this horrible disease had one good thing happen with > >it. I love love stories and it brought a smile to my face when i read > >about you two together. > >Like i said before, i'm sorry i haven't been a support and i hope to > >be on here more now. You have all been wonderful to me and i > >disappeared when i need you all most. > >Mom was doing pretty good the last time i was on here but the > >confusion has gotten worse. She is having alot of trouble with pain > >in her right leg (the one with her foot that is turned in) and also > >her right hand. Very stiff. She use to be able to try to stand up > >which she wasn't to do on her own but did, now she can't without help. > >On a good note....a private room opened up at the nh and we got to > >bring more of her own things from her home. She loved when we fixed > >her room and everybody at the nh would come in and say...Arlean, I > >love your room, it's so homey and nice. She had gotten new furniture > >and had 2 big comfortable chairs that we brought in and the nurses > >and aids always tell her the chair is going to get then in trouble > >because they just want to curl up in it and visit with her. > >She a an aide that didn't have her in her wheelchair right and went > >to back her out of the bathroom and she fell forward and got a nasty > >black eye. She told the head nurse and us that he was rough getting > >her to the bathroom and i guess there were others that said things > >because he is no longer there. Really shocked us that someone like > >that was there. Most all the people are so wonderful there and love > >the residents but we are thankful he is gone. My sister or i are > >there everynight and have only missed 2 days/nights since August > >because of weather and they tell us, if we can't make it just let > >them know and they will give her extra attention since she is so use > >to someone always being there. She does call it home now but says she > >misses her old home. That kills me! > >My youngest daughter was in traveling basketball which also took up a > >lot of time. That season is over and now my oldest daughter starts > >school softball hoping to make varsity this year and that ends and > >she goes right into traveling softball. This may make my posting not > >as often as i'd like too but i really need to get back with you all. > >I've missed everyone and posting!!!!! I'm excepting a little more now > >that things are never going to be the same and it's okay to get > >frustrated and angry. I was way too deep into depression these last 2 > >months and that doesn't help me or my mom or my family! So i'm back > >here and feeling good about posting again with wonderful people. > >My sweet husband has talked me into going back to Vegas April 4-8 for > >our 2 year anniversary. Talk to mom about me feeling guilty about > >leaving her and she does not want me to feel guilty and to go.(Just > >hope she remembers she told me that!) So i am looking forward to > >going. No actually i'm so excited i can't stand it!!!!!!!!! We are > >not big gamblers but love the fantasy world there. We both had the > >big to do wedding our first marriages so we did the stress free Vegas > >thing 2 years ago. So it's not just a gambling place, there is so > >much to do but i'm really looking forward to laying by the pool with > >a waterfall relaxing in warm weather. This Wisconsin weather right > >now is teasing us with warm 1 day cold the next, snow one day rain > >the next. AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH drives me crazy. Oh wait i think i'm > >there all ready! > >Okay, enough rambling........and glad to be back here! > > > > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 29, 2004 Report Share Posted March 29, 2004 Thanks so much Pat. Courage FW: Courage > > >pat caldwell >patstan@... >Why Wait? Move to EarthLink. > > > Courage > > >Courage, thinking of you and your family as your dad has surgery today. I have been praying everything will be good. LOL Pat,SC > > >pat caldwell >patstan@... >Why Wait? Move to EarthLink. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2004 Report Share Posted March 31, 2004 Courage- Thank you for sharing your stories. We seem to relate so much with our kids. It just doesn't seem to matter how old they are, to our hearts they never grew up and are still our 'babies'. So very glad your son is alright. Yes indeed, we are living in strange times, and with all given, your son came out shining. He is a trooper, for taking the brunt of the catch!! You must feel so very proud!! Take Care- Sandie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2004 Report Share Posted April 1, 2004 Wow Abby, the place you went in the Azores is just a hop skip and a jump from where my mom and dads small village is - mind you all the islands are so small that one needs only a small boat to get from one to the other. Glad you had a good time and that people were nice to you. I'm also hoping that in the near future both you and your husband will have many opportunities to travel. Courage Re: Dad's day at the Doctors >> >> >> >Wow!! That sounds like an exhausting day. >> > >> >So far, so good with your dad but I wish he would eat if only so he >> >could keep his strength up. I know it's an uphill battle. Hey, >> >Portugese people make the best fish - we had loads of it while we >> >were honeymooning in Portugal. Is your dad a fish eater? I'm not >> >but I still loved fish in Portugal. >> > >> >Abby >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. >> > >> > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2004 Report Share Posted April 2, 2004 You asked in your message, when do you get to hold someone's hand and how can anyone even get to hold your hand since your hands are full. I know just what you mean....and it's tiring. You and I can at least join forces based on our shared difficult sisters. For two months when my dad was home after his first surgery, my sister was living there while waiting for her townhouse to be completed. Like your sister, while my dad sundowned and drove my mom nuts, she slept. My mom didn't want to bother her. Then, she'd say, " Ah mom. She's such a martyr. I can't stand it!! " Meanwhile, my mom was trying to make her life easier since she had to go to work the next day and she was attempting to make life easier for herself since my sister spends a great deal of time getting pissed off at my mom!!! Our sisters are prizes, huh?? Yours doesn't sound half bad but I'm guessing this is because I'm experiencing it from this end. Her anger sounds like it's a relatively new thing. My sister has been angry for a lifetime. Most people in our family just don't get her and I can't say that I blame them... Hope today is better for you and that your sister's misery is relieved soon for everyone's sake. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2004 Report Share Posted April 3, 2004 It is difficult isn't it, trying to keep the communication going especially during this difficult time when past problems in a family become magnified. I'd love to know if my sister feels the same way about me? So how are you doing ? How are you holding up? Courage Re: Courage >>Date: Fri, 02 Apr 2004 11:25:19 -0000 >>MIME-Version: 1.0 >>X-Originating-IP: 69.197.40.8 >>X-Sender: BBagam@... >>Received: from n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.83]) by >>mc10-f28.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Fri, 2 Apr 2004 >>03:27:48 -0800 >>Received: from [66.218.67.195] by n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 02 Apr >>2004 11:25:58 -0000 >>Received: (qmail 63312 invoked from network); 2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 >>Received: from unknown (66.218.66.218) by m2.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP; >>2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 >>Received: from unknown (HELO n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com) (66.218.66.99) by >>mta3.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 >>Received: from [66.218.67.144] by n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 02 Apr >>2004 11:25:20 -0000 >>X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jHcZkV7sbCt0nktOxjqtfRg >>X-eGroups-Return: >>sentto-2141318-27944-1080905156-cat86443=hotmail.com@.... com >>X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >>Message-ID: <c4jiiv+kakbeGroups> >>In-Reply-To: <010301c41876$a0111c60$864fefd8@gaat> >>User-Agent: eGroups-EW/0.82 >>X-Mailer: Yahoo Groups Message Poster >>X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 66.218.66.99 >>X-Yahoo-Profile: abbybb1 >>Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >>LBDcaregivers-owner >>Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >>Precedence: bulk >>List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >>Return-Path: >>sentto-2141318-27944-1080905156-cat86443=hotmail.com@.... com >>X-OriginalArrivalTime: 02 Apr 2004 11:27:48.0843 (UTC) >>FILETIME=[8718B3B0:01C418A5] >> >>You asked in your message, when do you get to hold someone's hand and >>how can anyone even get to hold your hand since your hands are full. >>I know just what you mean....and it's tiring. >> >>You and I can at least join forces based on our shared difficult >>sisters. For two months when my dad was home after his first >>surgery, my sister was living there while waiting for her townhouse >>to be completed. Like your sister, while my dad sundowned and drove >>my mom nuts, she slept. My mom didn't want to bother her. Then, >>she'd say, " Ah mom. She's such a martyr. I can't stand it!! " >>Meanwhile, my mom was trying to make her life easier since she had to >>go to work the next day and she was attempting to make life easier >>for herself since my sister spends a great deal of time getting >>pissed off at my mom!!! >> >>Our sisters are prizes, huh?? Yours doesn't sound half bad but I'm >>guessing this is because I'm experiencing it from this end. Her >>anger sounds like it's a relatively new thing. My sister has been >>angry for a lifetime. Most people in our family just don't get her >>and I can't say that I blame them... >> >>Hope today is better for you and that your sister's misery is >>relieved soon for everyone's sake. >> >>Abby >> > >_________________________________________________________________ >Check out MSN PC Safety & Security to help ensure your PC is protected and >safe. http://specials.msn.com/msn/security.asp > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2004 Report Share Posted April 4, 2004 , I think that after all you have been through you are allowed to take things much slower now and make some choices of your own. I know most parents would like their children to remain close but the reality is that it doesn't often happen and I've observed that there is usually one sibling who is the one getting everyone together for special occasions. ( I know this is going to sound crazy but I could stand some time away from my family...sorry). Courage Re: Courage >> >>Date: Fri, 02 Apr 2004 11:25:19 -0000 >> >>MIME-Version: 1.0 >> >>X-Originating-IP: 69.197.40.8 >> >>X-Sender: BBagam@... >> >>Received: from n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.83]) by >> >>mc10-f28.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Fri, 2 Apr >>2004 >> >>03:27:48 -0800 >> >>Received: from [66.218.67.195] by n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 02 >>Apr >> >>2004 11:25:58 -0000 >> >>Received: (qmail 63312 invoked from network); 2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 >> >>Received: from unknown (66.218.66.218) by m2.grp.scd.yahoo.com with >>QMQP; >> >>2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 >> >>Received: from unknown (HELO n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com) (66.218.66.99) by >> >>mta3.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 >> >>Received: from [66.218.67.144] by n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 02 >>Apr >> >>2004 11:25:20 -0000 >> >>X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jHcZkV7sbCt0nktOxjqtfRg >> >>X-eGroups-Return: >> >>sentto-2141318-27944-1080905156-cat86443=hotmail.com@.... >>com >> >>X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >> >>Message-ID: <c4jiiv+kakbeGroups> >> >>In-Reply-To: <010301c41876$a0111c60$864fefd8@gaat> >> >>User-Agent: eGroups-EW/0.82 >> >>X-Mailer: Yahoo Groups Message Poster >> >>X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 66.218.66.99 >> >>X-Yahoo-Profile: abbybb1 >> >>Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >> >>LBDcaregivers-owner >> >>Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >> >>Precedence: bulk >> >>List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >> >>Return-Path: >> >>sentto-2141318-27944-1080905156-cat86443=hotmail.com@.... >>com >> >>X-OriginalArrivalTime: 02 Apr 2004 11:27:48.0843 (UTC) >> >>FILETIME=[8718B3B0:01C418A5] >> >> >> >>You asked in your message, when do you get to hold someone's hand and >> >>how can anyone even get to hold your hand since your hands are full. >> >>I know just what you mean....and it's tiring. >> >> >> >>You and I can at least join forces based on our shared difficult >> >>sisters. For two months when my dad was home after his first >> >>surgery, my sister was living there while waiting for her townhouse >> >>to be completed. Like your sister, while my dad sundowned and drove >> >>my mom nuts, she slept. My mom didn't want to bother her. Then, >> >>she'd say, " Ah mom. She's such a martyr. I can't stand it!! " >> >>Meanwhile, my mom was trying to make her life easier since she had to >> >>go to work the next day and she was attempting to make life easier >> >>for herself since my sister spends a great deal of time getting >> >>pissed off at my mom!!! >> >> >> >>Our sisters are prizes, huh?? Yours doesn't sound half bad but I'm >> >>guessing this is because I'm experiencing it from this end. Her >> >>anger sounds like it's a relatively new thing. My sister has been >> >>angry for a lifetime. Most people in our family just don't get her >> >>and I can't say that I blame them... >> >> >> >>Hope today is better for you and that your sister's misery is >> >>relieved soon for everyone's sake. >> >> >> >>Abby >> >> >> > >> >_________________________________________________________________ >> >Check out MSN PC Safety & Security to help ensure your PC is protected >>and >> >safe. http://specials.msn.com/msn/security.asp >> > >> > >> > >> >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. >> > >> > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2004 Report Share Posted April 5, 2004 Well I have two sisters I thouroughly enjoy being with the two brothers I can be with just don't plan things with them and then of course the other sister. Dont really care when or if I see her. M > >Reply-To: LBDcaregivers >To: <LBDcaregivers > >Subject: Re: Re: Courage >Date: Mon, 5 Apr 2004 00:05:26 -0500 >MIME-Version: 1.0 >X-Sender: gaat@... >Received: from n22.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.78]) by mc3-f1.hotmail.com >with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Sun, 4 Apr 2004 21:07:22 -0700 >Received: from [66.218.66.159] by n22.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 05 Apr >2004 04:06:14 -0000 >Received: (qmail 2932 invoked from network); 5 Apr 2004 04:06:11 -0000 >Received: from unknown (66.218.66.217) by m19.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP; >5 Apr 2004 04:06:11 -0000 >Received: from unknown (HELO budah.vif.com) (216.239.64.153) by >mta2.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 5 Apr 2004 04:06:10 -0000 >Received: from gaat (ip216-239-79-8.vif.net [216.239.79.8])by budah.vif.com >(8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id i3545wqM073779for ><LBDcaregivers >; Mon, 5 Apr 2004 00:05:59 -0400 >(EDT)(envelope-from gaat@...) >X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jHb9sKTgL3ZuQ24HRu1GYIv >X-eGroups-Return: >sentto-2141318-28173-1081137973-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >Message-ID: <004401c41acb$9c132480$084fefd8@gaat> >X-MSMail-Priority: Normal >X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 4.72.3110.1 >X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V4.72.3110.3 >X-vif-MailScanner-Information: Please contact the ISP for more information >X-vif-MailScanner: Found to be clean >X-MailScanner-From: gaat@... >X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 216.239.64.153 >X-Yahoo-Profile: twodogsand3cats >Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >LBDcaregivers-owner >Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >Precedence: bulk >List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >Return-Path: >sentto-2141318-28173-1081137973-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-OriginalArrivalTime: 05 Apr 2004 04:07:22.0723 (UTC) >FILETIME=[7F240B30:01C41AC3] > >, >I think that after all you have been through you are allowed to take things >much slower now and make some choices of your own. I know most parents >would like their children to remain close but the reality is that it >doesn't >often happen and I've observed that there is usually one sibling who is the >one getting everyone together for special occasions. ( I know this is going >to sound crazy but I could stand some time away from my family...sorry). >Courage > > Re: Courage > >> >>Date: Fri, 02 Apr 2004 11:25:19 -0000 > >> >>MIME-Version: 1.0 > >> >>X-Originating-IP: 69.197.40.8 > >> >>X-Sender: BBagam@... > >> >>Received: from n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.83]) by > >> >>mc10-f28.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Fri, 2 >Apr > >>2004 > >> >>03:27:48 -0800 > >> >>Received: from [66.218.67.195] by n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; >02 > >>Apr > >> >>2004 11:25:58 -0000 > >> >>Received: (qmail 63312 invoked from network); 2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 >-0000 > >> >>Received: from unknown (66.218.66.218) by m2.grp.scd.yahoo.com with > >>QMQP; > >> >>2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 > >> >>Received: from unknown (HELO n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com) (66.218.66.99) >by > >> >>mta3.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 2 Apr 2004 11:25:56 -0000 > >> >>Received: from [66.218.67.144] by n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; >02 > >>Apr > >> >>2004 11:25:20 -0000 > >> >>X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jHcZkV7sbCt0nktOxjqtfRg > >> >>X-eGroups-Return: > >> > >>sentto-2141318-27944-1080905156-cat86443=hotmail.com@.... > >>com > >> >>X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers > >> >>Message-ID: <c4jiiv+kakbeGroups> > >> >>In-Reply-To: <010301c41876$a0111c60$864fefd8@gaat> > >> >>User-Agent: eGroups-EW/0.82 > >> >>X-Mailer: Yahoo Groups Message Poster > >> >>X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 66.218.66.99 > >> >>X-Yahoo-Profile: abbybb1 > >> >>Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact > >> >>LBDcaregivers-owner > >> >>Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers > >> >>Precedence: bulk > >> >>List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > > >> >>Return-Path: > >> > >>sentto-2141318-27944-1080905156-cat86443=hotmail.com@.... > >>com > >> >>X-OriginalArrivalTime: 02 Apr 2004 11:27:48.0843 (UTC) > >> >>FILETIME=[8718B3B0:01C418A5] > >> >> > >> >>You asked in your message, when do you get to hold someone's hand and > >> >>how can anyone even get to hold your hand since your hands are full. > >> >>I know just what you mean....and it's tiring. > >> >> > >> >>You and I can at least join forces based on our shared difficult > >> >>sisters. For two months when my dad was home after his first > >> >>surgery, my sister was living there while waiting for her townhouse > >> >>to be completed. Like your sister, while my dad sundowned and drove > >> >>my mom nuts, she slept. My mom didn't want to bother her. Then, > >> >>she'd say, " Ah mom. She's such a martyr. I can't stand it!! " > >> >>Meanwhile, my mom was trying to make her life easier since she had to > >> >>go to work the next day and she was attempting to make life easier > >> >>for herself since my sister spends a great deal of time getting > >> >>pissed off at my mom!!! > >> >> > >> >>Our sisters are prizes, huh?? Yours doesn't sound half bad but I'm > >> >>guessing this is because I'm experiencing it from this end. Her > >> >>anger sounds like it's a relatively new thing. My sister has been > >> >>angry for a lifetime. Most people in our family just don't get her > >> >>and I can't say that I blame them... > >> >> > >> >>Hope today is better for you and that your sister's misery is > >> >>relieved soon for everyone's sake. > >> >> > >> >>Abby > >> >> > >> > > >> >_________________________________________________________________ > >> >Check out MSN PC Safety & Security to help ensure your PC is protected > >>and > >> >safe. http://specials.msn.com/msn/security.asp > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > >> > > >> > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2004 Report Share Posted April 5, 2004 Couldn't agree more Betty. My sister didn't develop the pics yet but I did recharge the battery on the camcorder so mom and I are going to be making our own little LBD documentary. I wanted to do this months ago but my machine went on the blink. Neither my or my sisters machine is very good but I suppose its better than nothing. Courage Courage >I am anxiously awaiting the pics of the new you. Just taking the >time to tell you how much I admire your continuing support to all >amidst the struggles of your own life. Guess we both have a " Nasty " >to deal with. Time for a wild ride in Sandie's 4X4 truck. :-)) > >Hugs, >Betty > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2004 Report Share Posted April 5, 2004 Courage- The thought of having a LBD documentary of you and your mom is completely thrilling. What a wonderful idea. And, how you will treasure those films at a later date. Please let me know if/when you have done this. I am so excited for you!! Thinking of you, your mom, and your dad tonight. Hugs- Sandie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 Abby, Not to worry about posting as you've got your hands full and two children who need their mommy around, especially around Easter and chocolate. Glad to hear that your dad is feeling better and pray that he continues to do so. I did so enjoy the weather today, cleaned out my small back yard and tinkered with a few tulip shoots that are coming up. The pansies I planted a few weeks ago were wilting with the cold but I talked to them the other day and encouraged them to come back and they did! My bones/joints so enjoyed feeling the sun again. Its been a long winter for me, for us all I'm sure. Courage Re: Courage >My dad was very much more wakeful today. I was with him since 8:30 >and he only dozed once while I read (btw - reading a new book as a >treat called The Romantic by Barbara Gowdy. Have only read 4 >chapters so far but good...quite good). > >Yesterday, my dad slept soundly pretty much the entire day. I got >there after work and stayed til 7 pm and he slept, slept, slept. >Could be his body's way of recuperating but I tend to think it's our >old friend Lewey striking back. Who ever knows with this blasted >disease though. > >Thanks for the post Courage. It was nice to have the nh be so great >about my dad's " homecoming " . > >Abby > >PS - the thing about my dad being a bit stronger is that now he think >he's invincible. He wants to go to the bathroom by himself, go for >a " walk " by himself (he barely can go five feet with a walker and >that's with us right by him). If anything, he's a bit more dangerous >now that he's more with it. Weird thing is though that he still >complains of having his lips numb and his head hurting. The doctor >told us that that would subside. I guess I'll just have to mention >that to his doctor but there's no followup with the doctor at St. >Mike's. Hmmmm.... > >PPS - How's your dad doing? Sorry I've been a reluctant poster with >my dad's surgery, computer woes and my midterm marking. > >PPPS - Hope you're having an awesome Good Friday Courage. Isn't it >beautiful in TO today? A bit chilly but so much nicer than snow... > > > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 Hi Courage- As much as it hurts us to put our LO's in a NH it is sometimes for the best. It's ok to cry. I still do. It seems so unfair and it hurts like hell. It feels like we've let them down but there somes a time they need 24/7 care and we can't do it. We need to keep ourselves healthy mind and body wise to help them. I've read so many of your posts and you are such a wonderful daughter to your mom. Don't beat yourself up. You've done the best you could. Now it's time for you to have some help. I hate this damn disease not only what it's doing to our LO's but also what it does to us sometimes. Hang in there. Sending you hugs and prayers Sharon Dad >My dad is finally going into assisted living May 1st. We were >shocked as a family that he qualified for assisted living, but the >place we chose after 13 months of caring for him at home will >transition him into their dementia care unit. I have such mixed >emotions about this. I am so sad that we couldn't keep him at home >any longer, but relieved not to have to deal with the incontinence >and being so tied down. > >One thing that has thrown me for a loop is that the long-term health >care policy that he has is sending their nurse out to do an >assessment of him next week. They have to be sure he qualifies to >activate the policy. Something about six things that he must have >two or more of them. We know the incontinence qualifies, but >apparently it doesn't count that he can't monitor his own meds. The >company is Transamerica and the policy we have will pay $3,000 a >month for five years. Has anyone had experience with this company? >We can't afford this without the policy kicking in. > >Our mornings and evenings have been horrible lately with the >hallucinations. We bought him one of those " lift " chairs that brings >him to a standing position because it gets harder and harder for him >to get up. > >Thanks for listening. > > in San Diego > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2004 Report Share Posted May 1, 2004 Courage and in San Diago, I had Mom in a nh for a year and it was not a good one like I hear you guys picking. There are some advantages. The main one is of course, you can still help (and must,) and they have 24/7 care by shifts of people not just one or two. Also the thing I realized is that Mom had a much more predicable schedule. And that is good for LBD people. I guess I am encouraging you to look at some of the good as well as the part you do not like. They make friends and have a social life all day if they want one. There are scheduled activities (another person!)that are specially designed for them. Mom did not have to keep adjusting to what I had to do next, although it was fairly the same. Hope this helps and remember there is adjusting time. For all of you. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2004 Report Share Posted May 2, 2004 > Hi Abby, > So far mom's application for assistance is approved and then its over to the > home for their approval and then we wait for an opening. > It is hard and I'm still trying to come to grips with it. Seems everything > is hard these days. I know what you mean or, as my students have begun saying lately, " I feel ya! " I hope things move slow enough for you to adjust to this idea. I know all about how scary it is. Big huge hug coming your way Courage, Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2004 Report Share Posted May 6, 2004 Courage: She sounds really vile your Nasty neighbour. I love your idea of putting them in a room and I wouldn't even pad it!!! Good for you for not stooping to her level. See you're mature. In my case when I'm being totally honest with myself I admit that the ugly orange chicken fence is a way to menace her while she tries so hard to beautify her lawn!!! I gotta get into your mindset soon or whatever little integrity I have left will be gone forever. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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