Re: Nada in everything - Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome

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I recognize that I have some PTSS, but I don't know how to find out

more info or what to do to help it. It's hard raising a large family

of young kids in a small house, because the mess and the loud noises

actually trigger my PTSS, and they are a constant in my life.

FlyLady has helped with the mess, but sometimes it's just still

there. And on my bad days, taking charge of the house automatically

puts me into " fight " mode, so I *have* to allow myself to be in

the " flight " mode instead (in order to protect the kids from

my " fight " behavior), and I sit around and read a book or stare off

into space in order to calm myself down. But then I'm not really

emotionally present to the children the way I'd like to be, and the

next day the house is a disaster and I have an even messier house

to " fight off " and a house of kids who are more eager than ever to be

active with me (therefore, giving me more triggers to fend off).

In fact, I'm becoming physically ill because of fighting off so many

triggers on a daily basis. I am actually controlling my behavior

relatively well, but the effort to do so is making me sick because of

the stress. Is there any hope for a cure (a relatively quick one)?

Does anyone know of any resources or sites I could use to help

myself? I've done several searches on the web-site to no avail (I've

only get found brief definitions of PTSS, mostly related to war-

induced PTSS).

Thanks!

>

> > I always feel so tense when I am setting a boundary with someone,

> > and then mysteriously, I live through it. I think the

physiological

> > response I get (extreme terror, heartrate up, hot cheeks,

churning

> > stomach) when I am about to attempt a boundary with Nada bleeds

over

> > into everything else. It makes sense, I just have to give it

time.

> >

>

>

> That's part of the normal fight-or-flight response that the body

cranks

> up during emergencies. For lots of us KOs, our fight-or-flight

response

> turned into PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). My PTSD resolved

> spontaneously after I'd been on the first Oasis list for about a

year. I

> still have some residual hypervigilance but I can live with it. Its

> nothing compared to what I've been through in my life.

>

> - Edith