From one therapy crisis to another :-\

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Ugh... today I found out that my sister's normal therapist is no

longer going to be doing her counseling as of the end of the month.

That is not good, but what's worse is that the person taking over for

her also works with my mother, was previously convinced by my mom

(who has a knack for taking an ounce of truth and creating a pound of

crap out of it) that I said something I didn't, and this led to my

sister being removed from my care for a week. It's set up that my

sister has an hour a week of counseling, and each month during that

hour it's she and I with the counselor.

So I don't even know how to respond to this woman! I absolutely do

not trust her. She let my mom manipulate her (and doesn't even see

it), and I don't believe she really understands how good my mom is at

this (nobody does--they all admit she's 'off', but no way she's

smarter than they are). What I worry is that my mom will once again

take a fact about me or my personality, exploit it, and then I might

say something in one of these sessions which will lead this woman to

again assume the worse and cause problems for me. I could either go

into the sessions guarded (impairing her ability to really 'help'

us), I could go into them as if nothing had happened (putting myself

at risk), or I can I guess request to talk to this lady on her own to

explain my concerns. I am just worried that if I do the last I will

seem like my mom-- that I took something personally and refuse to get

over it, etc etc. Especially because I don't think she'd ever admit

she was wrong in making the assumption she made.

Any advice or anything. I know I have so far to go with all this,

but this is really a touchy subject for me and I'm actually not as

worked up about is as I'd normally be.

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scoutbonon wrote:

> Any advice or anything. I know I have so far to go with all this,

> but this is really a touchy subject for me and I'm actually not as

> worked up about is as I'd normally be.

Advice? Sure. Hand the therapist your copy of Lawson's book,

" Understanding The Borderline Mother " , and tell her which pages

to read ...

- Edith

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>

> > Any advice or anything. I know I have so far to go with all

this,

> > but this is really a touchy subject for me and I'm actually not

as

> > worked up about is as I'd normally be.

>

>

> Advice? Sure. Hand the therapist your copy of Lawson's book,

> " Understanding The Borderline Mother " , and tell her which pages

> to read ...

>

> - Edith

I was actually thinking about doing this very thing. You don't think

she would find that preachy or suggestive?

[Guest guest]

>>Advice? Sure. Hand the therapist your copy of Lawson's book,

>> " Understanding The Borderline Mother " , and tell her which pages

>>to read ...

>>

>>- Edith

And scoutbonon wrote:

> I was actually thinking about doing this very thing. You don't think

> she would find that preachy or suggestive?

Hmmm, sounds to me like you're second-guessing her. Who cares

what she thinks. She needs to be educated if she doesn't know

this stuff. How else is she going to learn?

Of course its easy for me to say this. I'm not in your shoes.

But, your therapist isn't in your shoes either - she doesn't

have a sister to lose.

My .02 ...

- Edith