Re: Rage, Shame and the Death of Love tiki

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Hey Tiki,

Just wanted to say welcome. ModOasis is a great place to vent

frustrations, be a sounding board for others, share experiences, and

just let it all out. This is a very safe place because a common

thread runs through everyone and we understand those things that even

the best of friends or coolest spouses can't fully appreciate. Also,

the anonymity is nice too.

I have had migraines since age 7, usually following an extremely

stressful time, not during. I haven't experienced nausea as a

result, but often have a " nervous stomach " and panic during nada

stress (or any other for that matter. That's interesting, though

about vomiting, like your body forced you to purge yourself of this

garbage.

Anyway, keep posting. Lots of people in Modoasis have been cleaning

out the cobwebs and wearing a flea collars for years and are a true

source of inspirition and sound advice for us newly released.

Blessings,

> Hi ModOasis, I am a new member, and happy to be at a place that

specifically deals with BP parents. My brief story is that I got

severe depression and anxiety when dealing with my family. It caused

migraine headaches and in one situation, my body rejected the

behavior by throwing up. I have been in therapy, seen great experts

and have a therapist and well functioning husband. I made a

difficult decision to stay away from my family, they would not get

help or negotiate compromises. I read the book stop walking on

eggshells and had my aha light bulb moment. I too, will be looking

at this Rage Shame and The Death of Love in little sips. I am here

to clear out any cobwebs that may be left over and to examine myself

to make sure that I am rid of any fleas. tiki

> Re: " Rage, Shame and the Death of Love "

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> I like this part:

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> " Important steps must be taken to discover what lies hidden

inside

> us, to look into the origins of our pain, and to explore how,

where,

> when and why the original wounding occurred. Then, and most

> important, we must learn to embrace our wounds. This embrace

means

> that we keep the wound close to our hearts, and neutralize the

> poison. The antidote to shame is to become a support toward

> ourselves. To be an advocate toward the harsh voices from within

will

> lead to a cure for shame. To actualize such a revolution takes

time.

> We must learn to sense the hurt child inside, accept that

something

> did happen to us, and respect our good intentions to process our

> pain, even if some of those methods do not seem to work at first.

The

> secret to the cure for shame lies in our ability to relate to

> ourselves and others with compassion, respect, understanding,

empathy

> and acceptance. "

>

> Yes! I'll admit it! I peeked at the end and made sure there was a

> happy before deciding to wade through the muck.

>

> I think I will embrace the happy ending for awhile - and then go

back

> and see what takes me there.

>

> Free

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