Re: A little problem

[Guest guest]

There is no wrong here....you, in writing your brother as you did.

Her, in her response, to have stepped " into this stream of

communication " , that was not hers to enter.

This is awareness, see last several post for more on this.

What needs our attention is drawn to our awareness, for healing.

There is something that, is not receiving love...not enough light.

Light is simply information, or knowledge...expanded knowledge " of a

thing " , is love.

I have repasted the " sending love " posts here for you...the simple

answer is...send this matter love...it is already done.

Sending Love Now...... .... .... ...

D~

========================Send Love==============

As I sit in silence, I open (further) my heart center. As light flows

in through the top of my head, through the channels of energy, each

chakra " lights up " , as if they were the starting lights at a drag

race.

As light energy enters from the top, energy also enters from

the " root " , from the earth...as above, so below.

The energy flows in to the heart, as it increases it's intensity of

light, of over flowing love...getting brighter and brighter, all

consuming, it grows beyond my body...I have " become like the sun

(son?) " .

As the energy of love overflows into my body, each and every cell

vibrates in total response and state of being, infused with love,

perfection, light.

As wave after wave, pulse after pulse, like a giant explosion, LOVE

goes out in every direction - forever. In what I call seconds, love

has already returned to me, overlapped, multipled, doubled in

strenght and power, and went out again. [The " giving " has brought

the " receiving " .]

This is being within the flow - " Being - Within The Flow " .

And as it get goes out and returns over and over, [attracting even

more

love to it,] becoming more powerful in each moment, [it affects

everything, everywhere,] because all has been of it's receiving. Light

and Love come to that which isn't seeing Itself as such. And what is

Light and Love, doubles in power and intensity.

Now, I [sent it, direct it], to anywhere, everywhere I want. I

generally have had those places and people I have sent it too

repeatedly, and simply double my last sending by the mere act of

saying so....[then I send love to what comes to my awareness...]

I picture what has come...a person, a place, an ailment...and I direct

a beam of light into " it's heart " ...instantly, [the heart opens to

receive], and as it begins to fill with this energy, it starts to

infuse every cell, every chakra, [every state] surrounding the heart.

As this body fills to overflowing, it spills out into the outer bodies

that exist...each in turn filling with love - im-measurable. This flow

has also " jump started " the heart center from a no, or low flow

condition. The heart leads to the same source of the love I'm sending,

it reconizies Itself. By this, it flows, and expands, and increases

the love flowing.

I increase the light, and the love flowing in it's being, until they

are nothing but this light. Their entire enviroment becomes consumed.

Everyone who comes in contact with, is drawn to them, is affected. It

expands out to their home, family, co-workers, community...ever

increasing, ever expanding, ever becoming....

Totally Consumed In Love !

To heal, or be healed...simply send it love with intensity of light.

D~

" Loving Words Into Being "

c2007knightsintent

http://myspace.com/knightsintent

http://intentionalone.com/yabb/YaBB.pl

" Hi sis, how are you doing? "

Love Your

> Brother.

>

>

>

> I wrote to him and told him I was doing fine with the new diabetic

medicine

> and that I have lost 20 lbs. etc. Then I told him about my son,

told him

> about my husband. I told him that I am still dealing with the

death of our

> beloved dog (July 6, 2007). I told him that I belong to a De-

stress group,

> a grief group for the loss of pets, and I have joined some other

religious

> groups. I then told him that my bestest friend () is an angel

sent to

> me by God because she is always there and it is great to have a

great friend

> like her.

>

>

>

> I told my brother that I love him (as I always do). I signed it

Love your

> sister. I press send and off it went.

>

>

>

> Well about 4 hours later my sister-in-law wrote and said she is

mad, angry,

> disappointed and very very upset with me that I didn't put her name

in the

> e-mail to my brother. She said Jim forward the e-mail to her and

she just

> couldn't believe I didn't mention her name. (She knows that

is my

> best friend and has always been there for me when I had to go

for my

> breast surgery and other surgeries)

>

>

>

> I wrote back and the first thing out of my mouth was " I guess I

don't do

> anything right. The e-mail was to MY brother. He asked me how I

am doing I

> told him what was going on in my life. I am not hiding anything

from you

> Judy, but we write 3 times a day you know I love you. I wrote to

my brother

> and to my brother only. Also, not to open another can of worms but

I don't

> know why my brother forward the e-mail to you. "

>

>

>

> Well that was the wrong thing to say. She said that no matter what

I say or

> how much I apologize she will remain hurt because I didn't mention

her name

> in the e-mail. Then my brother wrote and said that he didn't think

that my

> e-mail was for HIS EYES only. Also he forward it on to Judy

because he

> thought she better know that " I " didn't mention her name.

>

>

>

> So I didn't write to her all weekend. Then yesterday I thought if

I don't

> write then it will go on longer and longer and get deeper and

deeper. So I

> wrote and told her about my son and how he is in the Police Academy

for the

> 3rd week and doing great. Told her some things about my husband.

>

>

>

> She wrote back and said " oh, have a nice day " without me. "

>

>

>

> Yes I want to tell her to grow up. Yes I want to tell her to get a

life.

> Yes I want to tell her this and that.

>

>

>

> So I wrote to her this morning and said " Good morning Sunshine " (as

I often

> say to her) and she wrote back and said " what do you want me to do

about

> it. "

>

>

>

> So I have decided not to write to her for a bit. I don't need her

stress.

> I have known her for 35 years and she and I have had our time with

arguments

> and stressful situations. But we have grown closer since e-mail

has come

> into our lives.

>

>

>

> I even sent her last Wednesday a beautiful card by regular mail to

both of

> them telling them how much I love them and thought of them. I am

sure she

> got it by now.

>

>

>

> Was I wrong not to mention her name? She really has never given me

positive

> things to think about. She is like my husband " snap out of my

grief " or

> " you will get over these things and it better be now "

>

>

>

> Am I wrong to have what she said bother me? Am I wrong in quitting

writing

> to her for awhile?

>

>

>

> Any suggestions? Help please! :-)

>

>

>

> Sincerely

>

> Lynn/South Carolina

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Lynn,

Believe me, I've been there before in similar situations! First off, we

can't change others. Secondly, some people will say and do things that they

shouldn't, or that are unkind, or that will show you some of their big " hangups "

or idiosyncrisies, etc. That's okay.

As I am a very sensitive person, who is now becoming a bit less sensitive

(after many years of working on this) -- my best advice is to mentally and

emotionally " let it go " -- let their actions & words just go, ...then, don't

dwell on it. Go on and be yourself as you need to be. Don't apologize any more

to them, or try to explain things to them! Because sometimes, these are

" lose- " lose " situations with some of these type people.

Trust me, just do your best to be yourself, and to be true to yourself each

and every day! If others don't understand or can't, you can completely let them

go out of your life, or you can tolerate them and deal with them on limited

times, or whatever you CHOOSE to do. This is your life! Go out and make it a

great day!

There are many negative people out there that we will come across on a

daily basis. That doesn't mean that we have to buy into their negativity,

though. The best thing I've learned is to have less to do with those negative

type people, and instead try to cultivate more uplifting, positive friendships

with others out there!

Of course, some of us will have some negative people that we have to deal

with -- either through our workplace, or through family or relative

associations. But, we can choose to limit the times that we deal with them to a

degree, and to choose ahead of time to not let those people hurt us, as much as

possible. Then, we need to emotionally let go of the hurt, and get on with

life!

One of my favorite sayings that I highly recommend is: " Oh Well, ..... ? "

or " Oh Well! "

In fact, I have a book started that mentions this type of attitude a bit. A

person can think " oh well " , out loud, or to themselves, or even state it out

loud in a calming matter-of-fact voice. Try it sometime! It is tremendous

freeing! When you do it, shrug your shoulders a bit, and even sigh. Go try it

right now! I highly recommend doing this several times a day, even when it

isn't needed ...just to get into the habit of doing it!

Good luck to you, and if you need to talk more, we are here. Just an

email away!

Love & hugs, PJ (group owner)

Lynn Hudak wrote:

Dear Group,

My brother and sister-in-law lives in Indiana and I live in South Carolina.

My sister-in-law and I write to each other about 3 times a day. She works I

don't work. In our e-mails we always end it with LUMI (Love You Mean It) we

always have a pray in it for each other and we said that we are more like

sisters then sisters-in-laws.

I write to my brother about 1 time a week because he is very busy at work.

" Hi sis, how are you doing? " Love Your

Brother.

I wrote to him and told him I was doing fine with the new diabetic medicine

and that I have lost 20 lbs. etc. Then I told him about my son, told him

about my husband. I told him that I am still dealing with the death of our

beloved dog (July 6, 2007). I told him that I belong to a De-stress group,

a grief group for the loss of pets, and I have joined some other religious

groups. I then told him that my bestest friend () is an angel sent to

me by God because she is always there and it is great to have a great friend

like her.

I told my brother that I love him (as I always do). I signed it Love your

sister. I press send and off it went.

Well about 4 hours later my sister-in-law wrote and said she is mad, angry,

disappointed and very very upset with me that I didn't put her name in the

e-mail to my brother. She said Jim forward the e-mail to her and she just

couldn't believe I didn't mention her name. (She knows that is my

best friend and has always been there for me when I had to go for my

breast surgery and other surgeries)

I wrote back and the first thing out of my mouth was " I guess I don't do

anything right. The e-mail was to MY brother. He asked me how I am doing I

told him what was going on in my life. I am not hiding anything from you

Judy, but we write 3 times a day you know I love you. I wrote to my brother

and to my brother only. Also, not to open another can of worms but I don't

know why my brother forward the e-mail to you. "

Well that was the wrong thing to say. She said that no matter what I say or

how much I apologize she will remain hurt because I didn't mention her name

in the e-mail. Then my brother wrote and said that he didn't think that my

e-mail was for HIS EYES only. Also he forward it on to Judy because he

thought she better know that " I " didn't mention her name.

So I didn't write to her all weekend. Then yesterday I thought if I don't

write then it will go on longer and longer and get deeper and deeper. So I

wrote and told her about my son and how he is in the Police Academy for the

3rd week and doing great. Told her some things about my husband.

She wrote back and said " oh, have a nice day " without me. "

Yes I want to tell her to grow up. Yes I want to tell her to get a life.

Yes I want to tell her this and that.

So I wrote to her this morning and said " Good morning Sunshine " (as I often

say to her) and she wrote back and said " what do you want me to do about

it. "

So I have decided not to write to her for a bit. I don't need her stress.

I have known her for 35 years and she and I have had our time with arguments

and stressful situations. But we have grown closer since e-mail has come

into our lives.

I even sent her last Wednesday a beautiful card by regular mail to both of

them telling them how much I love them and thought of them. I am sure she

got it by now.

Was I wrong not to mention her name? She really has never given me positive

things to think about. She is like my husband " snap out of my grief " or

" you will get over these things and it better be now "

Am I wrong to have what she said bother me? Am I wrong in quitting writing

to her for awhile?

Any suggestions? Help please! :-)

Sincerely

Lynn/South Carolina

[Guest guest]

Did your Brother-in-Law sign the note with her name as well? Proper etiquette

in responding to mail/email is to address the person you are responding to.

Sometimes, you may insert something that may say " Give my best to so-and-so " ;

however, if you are in constant contact with " so-and-so " I would not see the

need to include that.

And, the forwarding of email to others is a common problem with email. That is

why we have to be careful what we write and who we write about. It's too easy

to forward to people and you never know who knows who.

It does seem that this is quite an overreaction and completely unwarranted.

Personally, I would be hurt by both of their attitudes. Why is your

sister-in-law taking such a victim stance?

Blessings,

Charlene

A little problem

Dear Group,

My brother and sister-in-law lives in Indiana and I live in South Carolina.

My sister-in-law and I write to each other about 3 times a day. She works I

don't work. In our e-mails we always end it with LUMI (Love You Mean It) we

always have a pray in it for each other and we said that we are more like

sisters then sisters-in-laws.

I write to my brother about 1 time a week because he is very busy at work.

" Hi sis, how are you doing? " Love Your

Brother.

I wrote to him and told him I was doing fine with the new diabetic medicine

and that I have lost 20 lbs. etc. Then I told him about my son, told him

about my husband. I told him that I am still dealing with the death of our

beloved dog (July 6, 2007). I told him that I belong to a De-stress group,

a grief group for the loss of pets, and I have joined some other religious

groups. I then told him that my bestest friend () is an angel sent to

me by God because she is always there and it is great to have a great friend

like her.

I told my brother that I love him (as I always do). I signed it Love your

sister. I press send and off it went.

Well about 4 hours later my sister-in-law wrote and said she is mad, angry,

disappointed and very very upset with me that I didn't put her name in the

e-mail to my brother. She said Jim forward the e-mail to her and she just

couldn't believe I didn't mention her name. (She knows that is my

best friend and has always been there for me when I had to go for my

breast surgery and other surgeries)

I wrote back and the first thing out of my mouth was " I guess I don't do

anything right. The e-mail was to MY brother. He asked me how I am doing I

told him what was going on in my life. I am not hiding anything from you

Judy, but we write 3 times a day you know I love you. I wrote to my brother

and to my brother only. Also, not to open another can of worms but I don't

know why my brother forward the e-mail to you. "

Well that was the wrong thing to say. She said that no matter what I say or

how much I apologize she will remain hurt because I didn't mention her name

in the e-mail. Then my brother wrote and said that he didn't think that my

e-mail was for HIS EYES only. Also he forward it on to Judy because he

thought she better know that " I " didn't mention her name.

So I didn't write to her all weekend. Then yesterday I thought if I don't

write then it will go on longer and longer and get deeper and deeper. So I

wrote and told her about my son and how he is in the Police Academy for the

3rd week and doing great. Told her some things about my husband.

She wrote back and said " oh, have a nice day " without me. "

Yes I want to tell her to grow up. Yes I want to tell her to get a life.

Yes I want to tell her this and that.

So I wrote to her this morning and said " Good morning Sunshine " (as I often

say to her) and she wrote back and said " what do you want me to do about

it. "

So I have decided not to write to her for a bit. I don't need her stress.

I have known her for 35 years and she and I have had our time with arguments

and stressful situations. But we have grown closer since e-mail has come

into our lives.

I even sent her last Wednesday a beautiful card by regular mail to both of

them telling them how much I love them and thought of them. I am sure she

got it by now.

Was I wrong not to mention her name? She really has never given me positive

things to think about. She is like my husband " snap out of my grief " or

" you will get over these things and it better be now "

Am I wrong to have what she said bother me? Am I wrong in quitting writing

to her for awhile?

Any suggestions? Help please! :-)

Sincerely

Lynn/South Carolina