Abby Re: Coyote

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Hey, its funny that you should say you have told your sister about

the site, but your glad she's not on here. I feel the same way about

my Mom. I share stuff I want her to know...but I wouldnt want her

reading all my posts. lol.

Anyway, you are right...save your positive energy to help your dad

get through this, he will need your energy directed his way as

opposed to focussing on who is right and who is wrong. Even though

neither of us would choose surgery if we had a choice, the ultimate

choice is your Mom's and she is probably happy to have your sister's

support. And hey, who knows, maybe we are wrong and everything will

be ok for long enough to make it worthwhile. We can always pray, huh?

As for my Dad, he is doing well in the NH. I really could not have

hoped for a smoother transition. Although I cried a few tears over

this in the beginning, I think I'm ok now. I thought people in NH's

just vegged in their rooms til they died, but I was wrong. They have

so many activities and Dad enjoys them! I thought they were fed

dogfood, but again I was wrong...they get home cooked REAL food,

good stuff and get a choice of 2 different menus at each meal. If

they dont like either choice, the staff will fix them something

else! I feel secure again, knowing that he is SAFE and for me that

just feels like " ahhhhhhh " ...a huge weight has been lifted off my

shoulders. I used to lie awake at night worrying that he might go

somewhere in the night and Mom might not be awake to know! So the

sense of relief is tremendous. Thanks for asking about him

Take care of yourself.

Coyote

> Thanks again for understanding.

>

> I don't know what my sister is thinking. I'm a bit more clear

about

> what my mom is thinking and I get how she can't let go but my

sister

> should know better. I've told her about this site and that she

> should spend some more time researching exactly what LBD is but in

my

> heart of hearts I think she doesn't believe he's got LBD. In the

end

> though, I'm glad she's not on this site. It would definitely

impact

> what I said on here because I'd have to hold so much back in order

to

> hold the peace in real life.

>

> Nevertheless, I'm sort of in a better spot with their decision. I

> still don't agree but I've decided that fighting it now would take

> too much energy. Like I said yesterday, I'm not going to win this

> one so I need to get myself in a good spot so I can direct my

energy

> to my dad and not on my mom and my sister. It's easeir for me to

do

> that since I know that even my mom and my sister are choosing

surgery

> because they honestly believe it's what is best for my dad. The

> people on this site, in a gentle and sensitive way, showed me they

> are making their decision out of their love for my dad.

>

> I'm trying Courage. Keep reminding me to not forget my dad and

how

> he doesn't need to have his family divided throughout this. It

truly

> is the only thing that is sustaining me these days.

>

> Abby

>

> PS - How's your dad doing at the nh? Does his transition continue

to

> go as well? How are you doing with the transition?