Guest guest Posted May 5, 2004 Report Share Posted May 5, 2004 I'm guess I'm having one of those weeks/months/years. I have usually felt fairly confident about the old saw " God doesn't give you more than you can handle. " I've had my own problems with this one, recently, to be honest with you all. I do not, repeat, *do not* wish to start another topic that leads to more thin-lipped platitudes about faith, however. As much as I enjoy the more – heh – in **this** context, *thick*-lipped platitudes, I've heard most of `em, already. I'm getting old. Not too much in that sphere is new under my sun, these days. (NO offence intended to *anyone*.) I'm fine with my God, thanks. Sometimes, He lets me whine, shamelessly, and remains silent on the subject. To my mind, He obviously trusts me to work it out for myself. That's what *I* think I'm doing, now. I don't believe I found this group by complete accident, you know. I'd just like to ask for your support and prayers, at this time, especially. I'm having a hard time keeping up with my responsibilities, real and assumed. The one that's hardest for me to keep a happy face for is my LO's illness. The demands on that front seem to escalate exponentially, on a daily basis. For many deeply complex and dysfunctional reasons I needn't burden y'all with, I feel responsible – in my heart, **regardless** of the *fact* that it's a totally irrational feeling – for making my LO well, again. Needless to say, it " ain't " working. It would be a little easier if for me if there weren't another totally bone-headed family member who also seems to think we both should be able to " fix " everything, despite every evidence to the contrary. Just a couple more things, and I'll let this go. First, I know we have some spouses who read this group. The rest of us don't really have *any* idea how difficult this is for you. We can imagine, and we can try to understand, but we just don't know what you're going through. No matter how much (or little; and, yes, I need to include that,) you care for your affected spouse, you may still be able to imagine how it would feel to have both your parents **expect** you to " fix " LBD, or something indistinguishable from it. If you can possibly avoid it, please don't do this to your children. If you are *that* frazzled by caring for your wife/husband, do not hesitate – get outside help, or allow your child/children to do so, for all of your sakes. Second, I *do* know that however crap I feel at a given moment, there ***is*** someone out there who feels worse, squared. The same applies in reverse. That's why this group is such a blessing to me. Our " suffering " fluctuates, just as our LO's cognition does. There's always someone here who feels better, or worse, than we do. I just needed to get that off my chest. And, I would appreciate general good-stuff prayers for my family. Sorry this was so long. Thanks, Deborah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2004 Report Share Posted May 6, 2004 Deborah: I read your entire message nodding my fool head off. I agree with all of your points. No platitudes here. I'm struggling myself. I kinda feel as does about God: if he truly does control all and only sends us what we could handle and still he chose to send us this, he does deserve to get a kick in the nuts!! Sorry to be graphic and perhaps rude but LBD does that to me...my God forgives me for my bitterness. Thanks for writing what I feel so eloquently. I'm certain there are tonnes out there who agree wholeheartedly. You and your family have got my prayers. Do me a favour and send some my dad's way in return. Thanks again, Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2004 Report Share Posted May 6, 2004 - Deborah, I am new to this group and hoping to catch on to how things go. I read your feelings this morning and have to say that I too hate platitudes. I sincerly try to avoid saying anything, that i know if said to me does not make me feel any better or more supported. I feel that none of us knows what another is going through, what we experience in life is different for each of us. At the most we can only imagine how someone feels and we should be supportive and caring. Letting another release their frustrations is a good supportive thing to do. I find that although my situation has not been going on for that long that I am reluctant to reiterate to my friends and poor supportive husband how I am feeling again today. I think it's really okay to let yourself be down for small periods of time. After all if we didn't feel that way maybe it would mean we didn't really care that much. I care so much and can do so little. LIfe isn't easy, especially now. Take care of yourself. Rene -- In LBDcaregivers , " Deborah " <celiej@y...> wrote: > I'm guess I'm having one of those weeks/months/years. I have usually > felt fairly confident about the old saw " God doesn't give you more > than you can handle. " I've had my own problems with this one, > recently, to be honest with you all. > > I do not, repeat, *do not* wish to start another topic that leads to > more thin-lipped platitudes about faith, however. As much as I enjoy > the more – heh – in **this** context, *thick*-lipped platitudes, I've > heard most of `em, already. I'm getting old. Not too much in that > sphere is new under my sun, these days. (NO offence intended to > *anyone*.) I'm fine with my God, thanks. Sometimes, He lets me whine, > shamelessly, and remains silent on the subject. To my mind, He > obviously trusts me to work it out for myself. That's what *I* think > I'm doing, now. I don't believe I found this group by complete > accident, you know. > > I'd just like to ask for your support and prayers, at this time, > especially. I'm having a hard time keeping up with my > responsibilities, real and assumed. > > The one that's hardest for me to keep a happy face for is my LO's > illness. The demands on that front seem to escalate exponentially, on > a daily basis. For many deeply complex and dysfunctional reasons I > needn't burden y'all with, I feel responsible – in my heart, > **regardless** of the *fact* that it's a totally irrational feeling – > for making my LO well, again. Needless to say, it " ain't " working. It > would be a little easier if for me if there weren't another totally > bone-headed family member who also seems to think we both should be > able to " fix " everything, despite every evidence to the contrary. > > Just a couple more things, and I'll let this go. > > First, I know we have some spouses who read this group. The rest of us > don't really have *any* idea how difficult this is for you. We can > imagine, and we can try to understand, but we just don't know what > you're going through. No matter how much (or little; and, yes, I need > to include that,) you care for your affected spouse, you may still be > able to imagine how it would feel to have both your parents **expect** > you to " fix " LBD, or something indistinguishable from it. If you can > possibly avoid it, please don't do this to your children. If you are > *that* frazzled by caring for your wife/husband, do not hesitate – get > outside help, or allow your child/children to do so, for all of your > sakes. > > Second, I *do* know that however crap I feel at a given moment, there > ***is*** someone out there who feels worse, squared. The same applies > in reverse. That's why this group is such a blessing to me. Our > " suffering " fluctuates, just as our LO's cognition does. There's > always someone here who feels better, or worse, than we do. > > I just needed to get that off my chest. And, I would appreciate > general good-stuff prayers for my family. Sorry this was so long. > > Thanks, > Deborah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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