Re: p.s. at last, forgiveness-tiki

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Thanks to all for your supportive words, thoughts, metaphors...I'm

going to email some to myself b4 they get archived, so I can process

them when I'm up to it. Esp. the part about forgiving means it no

longer " owns " you -- that's important.

@--}}} There. That's a flower for you guys. (((HUGS))) too. :-)

~d.

> rhythm method--it's hard to see " forgive the abusers " --because i

still knee jerk and see it as excuse the abusers--and this is no way.

abuse is still very wrong and something to stay away from. forgiving

means that it no longer owns you. i loved this metaphor that said the

ship parting from the anchor benefits the ship, not the anchor. it

frees the ship to travel, no longer holding you back. i still don't

have the concept etched in stone but will refer to this forgiveness

email--i posted it so that i could have a record for myself as to what

forgiveness is. it's so new but it's pretty cool. tranquility. tiki

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> free spirit & tiki -- are you saying eventually you learn to forgive

> the abuser/abusers? I'm glad you could do that -- sounds like a

> healthy thing to do. I am no where near that right now. I still feel

> like confronting everyone involved -- not that it would change

> anything. I'm not going to act, but I think about it a lot. Damn, this

> is hard.

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> ~the beat goes on

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