Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 Sometimes I really envy the people whose LOs go quickly and suddenly...like my aunt who had a massive heart attack in her sleep and never even woke up...even though I know that would be traumatizing, we wouldnt have to " mourn " for 5-7 years or whatever... BEFORE they die! I tell ya, if I have a choice of inheriting my Mother's " heart attack " genes over my father's LBD genes...I'll take the heart attack!! > Your dad sounds like such a sweet man. I hate how LBD so often seems > to ravish these kind souls who mean so much to a family and are proof > of the existence of goodness. > > For me, the vulnerability that LBD leaves our LOs in is the very > worst part. I hate that grown people start sounding either terrified > or angry and unrelenting depending on the day. > > Thanks for sharing that conversation with us Coyote. I do that too. > I write down meaningful convos with my dad because I don't know how > many I have left. > > Hang in there friend, > > Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 > Sometimes I really envy the people whose LOs go quickly and > suddenly...like my aunt who had a massive heart attack in her sleep > and never even woke up...even though I know that would be > traumatizing, we wouldnt have to " mourn " for 5-7 years or > whatever... BEFORE they die! I tell ya, if I have a choice of > inheriting my Mother's " heart attack " genes over my father's LBD > genes...I'll take the heart attack!! Same here...If only we had a choice, Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2004 Report Share Posted March 19, 2004 Coyote: Yes, it's really hard to cope with days like the one you had. I remember that when my father was in the hospital, he started talking about a party in the garden and that he wanted to go there, asking whether the invited people arrived already, and so on. My sister and I looked each other, trying to ask him what party he was talking about, but he insisted to go in the garden and that we should go at the elevators to receive the guests... My sister and I went to the doctor and told him what was going on. What followed was pretty funny because the doctor said it was normal he was confused, but he went to my dad, asked us to wait outside and we could hear he was asking my dad his name, his address and so on. My dad answered perfectly, then the doctor asked him about this party and, a couple of minutes later, the two nurses who were also in the room, recalled that they were talking about a party while changing the bed in the morning, so it became clear that my dad heard the two nurses talking about a party and then made up a story. The funny thing was when my sister and I went back in te room and he looked at us and said smiling: " you two stupid girls, what did you tell the doctor? Did you tell him that I said nonsense? " . We laughed a lot. This just to say that LBD patients in some momento do not get everything and try to make sense somehow out of what they heard. The problem is that it's hard for us to understand them... I wish you better days. All the best, la Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2004 Report Share Posted April 3, 2004 Hi: Nice to " talk " to you again. I know we've both been so busy and haven't been on here much lately but you're never far from my thoughts (nor is your dad as I wonder often if he's faring well at the nh. I recall you had a few rough days - a dining room broohaha erupted when your dad tried to leave the table early right?) Well, I hope that's resolved itself or at least you've reached some happy medium. What are you doing to celebrate your dad's 73rd? Do you feel confident taking him out of the nh? In our case, we generally ask the nh to give us their party room ro conference room if it's just us and we bring the food there. Whatever you do to celebrate, have an awesome day with him! I was fortunate enough to have been born on my dad's birthday so his birthday will be one I can never forget. I hope my dad has a much better day today too. God, that wouldn't take much. He was absolutely horrible yesterday, Coyote! It was frightening! For the most part, LBD has created this gentle, easy- going character in my father. No sign of that now! I'm hoping we get some of it back. His nurse told me he slept very, very little and was extremely agitated all night. He also talked to himself all night and in Italian. The poor people who are in his room (there were no semi=private beds available when my dad came out of ICU so he's in a quad room. Bet that will change real fast now that this beast has returned with a vengeance.) She said he was somewhat quieter now and appears a bit more lucid. I'm looking at this as possibly an indication that he's turned a corner - or so I hope!! Thanks for your good wishes Coyote. They do mean so much to me. I hope your dad has a fabulous birthday and that your celebration with him brings laughter to you all. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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