Guest guest Posted February 24, 2004 Report Share Posted February 24, 2004 Hi We as a family decided that my Dad who is/was at that time mums fulltime caregiver needed some time out as mum was being very difficult, as we all know naughty, unkind, not sleeping not able to be controlled and some days better than others and so you would think it was okay and then we would revert to the same old pattern again, so we decided to place mum in respite care for 10 days. She didn't object, thankfully and was actually quite relieved secretly I think, she could be as naughty and difficult as she liked but the nurses who are wonderful controlled the situation. Mum asked why we had put her there and was aware that she was unwell mentally, but it was like she sighed a big sigh and we did as well!.We realized that she was totally cared for and we had when she came out which she did on the occasion to her and dads home that she would do her thing and then be ready to go back to her safe haven. We made a family decision that mum would remain there as it worked fantastically well and rather than have dad dead in a month, we might actually have 2 individuals that could function. Eight months down the road mum has deteriorated dramatically, dad has mum out to their home 3 or 4 afternoons a week but mum likes to get back earlier now than the 5 o'clock it used to be, dad goes to vist the other 3 days and one day he has off to vist his friends do his business and garden etc he is a really busy man though he is almost 80. It worked for us and we are sooooooo glad that we did it when we did as it would have been impossible to have thought about it now or even several months down the track as mum wouldn't have gone. Hope you can find the peace you need love from stella in New Zealand Curious > Has anyone used respite care at a nursing home for just a few days? > If so, what was your loved one's reaction and what did you tell them > when you took them? Any suggestions or comments would be helpful. I > am debating with myself about doing this but not sure if it will do > more harm than good. I believe we all need a break right now, though. > Thanks! > > > > > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2004 Report Share Posted February 25, 2004 Thanks Pete and Stella for sharing your respite care experience. I have talked to a couple of other people who said it helped a lot and I have decided to go ahead and schedule a time. It is so nice to know that others are going through or have gone through the same things and I thank God for this site. It has helped me in a number of ways. I have been reading and reading for the last few days and learned a lot! Thanks again! > Hi > We as a family decided that my Dad who is/was at that time mums fulltime > caregiver needed some time out as mum was being very difficult, as we all > know naughty, unkind, not sleeping not able to be controlled and some days > better than others and so you would think it was okay and then we would > revert to the same old pattern again, so we decided to place mum in respite > care for 10 days. She didn't object, thankfully and was actually quite > relieved secretly I think, she could be as naughty and difficult as she > liked but the nurses who are wonderful controlled the situation. Mum asked > why we had put her there and was aware that she was unwell mentally, but it > was like she sighed a big sigh and we did as well!.We realized that she was > totally cared for and we had when she came out which she did on the occasion > to her and dads home that she would do her thing and then be ready to go > back to her safe haven. We made a family decision that mum would remain > there as it worked fantastically well and rather than have dad dead in a > month, we might actually have 2 individuals that could function. Eight > months down the road mum has deteriorated dramatically, dad has mum out to > their home > 3 or 4 afternoons a week but mum likes to get back earlier now than the 5 > o'clock it used to be, dad goes to vist the other 3 days and one day he has > off to vist his friends do his business and garden etc he is a really busy > man though he is almost 80. > It worked for us and we are sooooooo glad that we did it when we did as it > would have been impossible to have thought about it now or even several > months down the track as mum wouldn't have gone. > Hope you can find the peace you need love from stella in New Zealand > Curious > > > > Has anyone used respite care at a nursing home for just a few days? > > If so, what was your loved one's reaction and what did you tell them > > when you took them? Any suggestions or comments would be helpful. I > > am debating with myself about doing this but not sure if it will do > > more harm than good. I believe we all need a break right now, though. > > Thanks! > > > > > > > > > > > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2004 Report Share Posted February 25, 2004 , Here in MI Area on Aging had some money for a while and they were paying for some beds. You could get 2 free weeks of respite a year. I do not know if that program is still going or if it only was here in MI or not. I had a friend who even got more time if he could do spontaneous because the beds are bought and paid for and if no one had scheduled them, he could get his wife in even more weeks. Just a thought for you to check. Donna R. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2004 Report Share Posted February 26, 2004 Hi Good luck with your decisions. Much love pete and stella Curious > > > > > > > Has anyone used respite care at a nursing home for just a few > days? > > > If so, what was your loved one's reaction and what did you tell > them > > > when you took them? Any suggestions or comments would be > helpful. I > > > am debating with myself about doing this but not sure if it will > do > > > more harm than good. I believe we all need a break right now, > though. > > > Thanks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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