Re: 12 SUGGESTIONS FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF

[Guest guest]

Feelings are for expression and temper is for suppression.....

Mark

NYC

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> 12 SUGGESTIONS FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF

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> 1. Learn to air your feelings.

>

> Don't keep them bottled up inside you. Share your sorrows and

disappointments with someone you trust. Remember, expressed feelings

are changed feelings.

>

> 2. Avoid comparing yourself with others by admiring their gifts

and ignoring your gifts.

>

> This kind of envy causes self-disgust. Put no one's head higher

than your own.

>

> 3. Form a small group of people you can call on for emotional

support.

>

> Agree to 'be there' for each other. Offer advice only when it is

asked for. Listen without interrupting. Take turns talking and

listening.

>

> 4. Take time to play.

>

> Remember that play is any activity that you do just because it

feels good. Remind yourself that you deserve to take time to play.

>

> 5. Don't forget to laugh, especially at yourself.

>

> Look for the humor in things around you. Let your hair down more

often. Do something silly and totally unexpected from time to time.

>

> 6. Learn to relax.

>

> You can find books, tapes, programs, classes, instructors and

other materials to teach you how to relax. Relaxation improves the

mind, helps the body heal, and feels so much better than stress and

tension.

>

> 7. Protect your right to be human.

>

> Don't let others put you on a pedestal. When people put you on a

pedestal, they expect you to be perfect and feel angry when you let

them down.

>

> 8. Learn to say no.

>

> As you become comfortable saying no to the unreasonable

expectations, requests or demands of others you will discover that

you have more compassion. When you do say yes to others, you will

feel better about yourself and the people you're responding to.

>

> 9. Change jobs if you are miserable at work.

>

> First, try to figure out if the job is wrong for you or if certain

people are causing you to feel miserable at work. Try paying more

attention to the things you enjoy about your job and less attention

to the things that annoy you. Remember that all jobs have some

unpleasant aspects.

>

> 10. Stretch your muscles.

>

> Break a sweat. Go for a walk. Ride a bike. Park farther from the

door. Take the stairs. You don't need fancy clothes, club

memberships or expensive equipment to add exercise to your daily

life.

>

> 11. Practice being a positive, encouraging person.

>

> Each time you give others a word of encouragement you not only

feel better, but you build up your best self.

>

> 12. Pay attention to your spiritual life.

>

> Slow down. Practice sitting quietly. Listen to your inner voice.

Spend time thinking about the things which bring peace, beauty and

serenity to your life. Find the courage to follow your own spiritual

path if a traditional religion has not been helpful for you.

>

> ~ , LMFT

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you - wonderful post and I am printing it out and saving it!!!

Ann & ish Clan

" I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past. "

- Jefferson

12 SUGGESTIONS FOR TAKING CARE OF

YOURSELF

> 12 SUGGESTIONS FOR TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF

>

> 1. Learn to air your feelings.

>

> Don't keep them bottled up inside you. Share your sorrows and

> disappointments with someone you trust. Remember, expressed feelings are

> changed feelings.

>

> 2. Avoid comparing yourself with others by admiring their gifts and

> ignoring your gifts.

>

> This kind of envy causes self-disgust. Put no one's head higher than your

> own.

>

> 3. Form a small group of people you can call on for emotional support.

>

> Agree to 'be there' for each other. Offer advice only when it is asked

> for. Listen without interrupting. Take turns talking and listening.

>

> 4. Take time to play.

>

> Remember that play is any activity that you do just because it feels good.

> Remind yourself that you deserve to take time to play.

>

> 5. Don't forget to laugh, especially at yourself.

>

> Look for the humor in things around you. Let your hair down more often. Do

> something silly and totally unexpected from time to time.

>

> 6. Learn to relax.

>

> You can find books, tapes, programs, classes, instructors and other

> materials to teach you how to relax. Relaxation improves the mind, helps

> the body heal, and feels so much better than stress and tension.

>

> 7. Protect your right to be human.

>

> Don't let others put you on a pedestal. When people put you on a pedestal,

> they expect you to be perfect and feel angry when you let them down.

>

> 8. Learn to say no.

>

> As you become comfortable saying no to the unreasonable expectations,

> requests or demands of others you will discover that you have more

> compassion. When you do say yes to others, you will feel better about

> yourself and the people you're responding to.

>

> 9. Change jobs if you are miserable at work.

>

> First, try to figure out if the job is wrong for you or if certain people

> are causing you to feel miserable at work. Try paying more attention to

> the things you enjoy about your job and less attention to the things that

> annoy you. Remember that all jobs have some unpleasant aspects.

>

> 10. Stretch your muscles.

>

> Break a sweat. Go for a walk. Ride a bike. Park farther from the door.

> Take the stairs. You don't need fancy clothes, club memberships or

> expensive equipment to add exercise to your daily life.

>

> 11. Practice being a positive, encouraging person.

>

> Each time you give others a word of encouragement you not only feel

> better, but you build up your best self.

>

> 12. Pay attention to your spiritual life.

>

> Slow down. Practice sitting quietly. Listen to your inner voice. Spend

> time thinking about the things which bring peace, beauty and serenity to

> your life. Find the courage to follow your own spiritual path if a

> traditional religion has not been helpful for you.

>

> ~ , LMFT

>

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