Re: Shut down

[Guest guest]

Hi Bel,

I don't believe reaching out to people who care is whining or

complaining. I'm sorry you are having such a rough go of it. When

someone you thought of as a friend turns out to be toxic that cannot

help your mood. Take whatever time you need to be ok. If you need us

give a shout.

I'm not in the best place right now I am lurking in the periphery.

Take care of you. Big gentle huggles.

Love ya,

Di

Dionné Steiner in Feasterville-Trevose, PA )

[Guest guest]

With a friend like that who needs emamys. If I feel like it or not I don't do

any more than I have to cause I know I will pay for it in the long run. You have

enough to take care of as it is. then did this trip. Don't get me wrong I feel

for you. I am sorry that you had to go threw all of that. It suchs when all

poeple want to do is use you. I hope and pray that you are doing better.

Rox.

Bel wrote: I'm feeling like my body is shutting down.

When I get up in the morning I

feel like someone has worked me over with a baseball bat. I feel totally

out of it during the day and I feel shaky, weak and totally exhausted. I

could barely carry plates of food to my table today at work. One of my

co-workers took one look at my face and then came after me and took the

plates from me.

[Guest guest]

Dear Bel, you don't have to respond to get support, and as for " whining " ,

what a HORRIBLE experience! I am so sorry your friend was no real friend but

a user IMHO. I hope she realizes what a negative impact her " favour " has had

on your health. But, probably not <sigh>. No wonder you feel so ghastly, and

trying to work and move (which I am in the middle of too) plus financial

stresses is just too much. I urge you dear to drop anything not absolutely

essential and put in some quality couch/bed time ASAP.when you're not

working, that is. Perhaps you have a doc that would give you a slip for some

sicktime? Even just a week to recover from your " holiday " . So sorry it was

not the vacation you hoped for. TC, Aylwin xox

[Guest guest]

OH Bel,

We ALL need to " whine and complain " sometimes - shoot, that's part of the reason

we're here right? To support each other.....unlike others, WE UNDERSTAND what

you're going thru............... And hon, it's no wonder you feel your body is

shutting down! It IS - to me, that has been one of the hardest things to learn,

listening to our bodies. But I also know it is near impossible to continue

working, double shifts no less, and try to keep all our plates up in the air.

(pardon the pun- eek!)

I do hope that you can get the rest you so desperately need. Small things can

wipe us out for days, but a trip like that is pure hell to pay! And to add to

that, the financial strain -sure makes you wonder what our " friends " are

thinking doesn't it? I know how sticky friendships can be sometimes, but is it

possible to talk to her about the money situation? Even if she cannot repay you

in money, she could be invaluable as far as the stress of moving; could she be

helpful to you there? Just a suggestion

Please, take care of yourself............let the housework go, computer time,

all that stuff and just veg and try to eat something! That seems to compound

the problem for me personally, but I too, lose my appetite during the worst

times.

Your in my thoughts and prayers and we'll see you when you get back, ok?

STL Jane

[Guest guest]

Had a bit of a break down at work today. Tired, nauseous, dizzy and lots of

pain in my neck. So I arranged to be first out even though I needed to

close lunch to make the rest of my rent money. The girl I switched with

ended up having to host for a couple of hours so I had to cover her section

as well as my own. I was running 8 tables constantly for almost 3 hours

during an extremely busy lunch. Couldn't take anymore and broke down. The

big big boss was there too and if it wasn't for him I'd still be stuck there

My front of house manager was being a total jerk which didn't help matters

any. So of course my co-workers probably think I'm a big cry baby but I

couldn't help it. I'm still crying. Going to take a nap and see if that

helps

Bel

[Guest guest]

just to say i'm thinking of you Bel, take it easy get plenty of rest.

Hugs

Antoinette

Jane wrote:

OH Bel,

We ALL need to " whine and complain " sometimes - shoot, that's part of the reason

we're here right? To support each other.....unlike others, WE UNDERSTAND what

you're going thru............... And hon, it's no wonder you feel your body is

shutting down! It IS - to me, that has been one of the hardest things to learn,

listening to our bodies. But I also know it is near impossible to continue

working, double shifts no less, and try to keep all our plates up in the air.

(pardon the pun- eek!)

I do hope that you can get the rest you so desperately need. Small things can

wipe us out for days, but a trip like that is pure hell to pay!

[Guest guest]

Oh Bel, it sounds just impossible…could you not get your doc to write you a

medical letter? Is there no medical unemployment insurance in the US (It’s

mandatory in Canada.)? Sounds to me like you desperately need to go to bed

for awhile…couple of weeks anyway. It’s not your fault the holiday burned

you out…you were really struggling with work before that too. You need to

take care of yourself! I know, money money…there’s just gotta be a way for

you to get the real rest you need. I’ll pray for that. XOX Aylwin

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From: CFAlliance [mailto:CFAlliance ] On

Behalf Of Bel

Sent: Friday, August 10, 2007 3:11 PM

To: CFAlliance

Subject: RE: Shut down

Had a bit of a break down at work today. Tired, nauseous, dizzy and lots of

pain in my neck. So I arranged to be first out even though I needed to

close lunch to make the rest of my rent money. The girl I switched with

ended up having to host for a couple of hours so I had to cover her section

as well as my own. I was running 8 tables constantly for almost 3 hours

during an extremely busy lunch. Couldn't take anymore and broke down.

[Guest guest]

Hi Bel,

It must be difficult working with ME and especially waitressing.

Would a sit down job be any easier? I know for me that just going out

of the house and talking to people would be traumatic when I'm having

an especially difficult flair up. I really give you a lot of credit!!!

Take Care,

Kulia

[Guest guest]

Thank you all for your support. My church gave me money today so I can pay

the balance of my rent. Work screwed up my schedule so I'm not scheduled

tomorrow like I'm supposed to be. I've decided to take the day off and stay

in bed all day. I've been wearing a neck brace and that's helped the neck

pain and I'm no longer having daily headaches. I figure if I wear it for a

week or so it will give whatever is wrong with my neck a chance to heal. I

did better at work Saturday wearing the brace as I didn't have the neck pain

to deal with on top of everything else. Part of everything is that I'm so

very scared because things are getting worse and I don't know what kind of

shape I'm going to be in when I move back to Canada. I have to wait 3

months after I return to get my health care back and am praying/hoping

desperately that I don't need medical attenttion before then. My doc here

is going to give me a prescription for a 3 month supply of my medications

when I leave so I won't have to worry about that. Thanks again for all the

support. It really means a lot to have a safe place I can 'vent' to.

Bel

-- RE: Shut down

Oh Bel, it sounds just impossible…could you not get your doc to write you a

medical letter? Is there no medical unemployment insurance in the US (It’s

mandatory in Canada.)? Sounds to me like you desperately need to go to bed

for awhile…couple of weeks anyway. It’s not your fault the holiday burned

you out…you were really struggling with work before that too. You need to

take care of yourself!

[Guest guest]

That is so wonderfully supportive of your church. I'm so glad that

pressure is off. And what a great mistake they made with your schedule.

The day in bed sounds very necessary. I can't recall the details of

your situation. Where are you living now and why are you waiting to

move back to Canada?

Sandrea

[Guest guest]

That is so wonderfully supportive of your church. I'm so glad that

pressure is off. And what a great mistake they made with your schedule.

The day in bed sounds very necessary. I can't recall the details of

your situation. Where are you living now and why are you waiting to

move back to Canada?

Sandrea

[Guest guest]

I ended up having to go into work anyway. Ran out of power LOL so had to go

earn some money. I live in Phoenix right now and wanting to move back to

Canada because my sons are there as well as my parents...and my health care.

I need to have a place to live and a job lined up for my move which is why

it needed a few months. Time is getting away from me though and I just don

t know if I'm going to get everything done.

Bel

-- Re: Shut down

That is so wonderfully supportive of your church. I'm so glad that

pressure is off. And what a great mistake they made with your schedule.

The day in bed sounds very necessary. I can't recall the details of

your situation. Where are you living now and why are you waiting to

move back to Canada?

Sandrea

[Guest guest]

I ended up having to go into work anyway. Ran out of power LOL so had to go

earn some money. I live in Phoenix right now and wanting to move back to

Canada because my sons are there as well as my parents...and my health care.

I need to have a place to live and a job lined up for my move which is why

it needed a few months. Time is getting away from me though and I just don

t know if I'm going to get everything done.

Bel

-- Re: Shut down

That is so wonderfully supportive of your church. I'm so glad that

pressure is off. And what a great mistake they made with your schedule.

The day in bed sounds very necessary. I can't recall the details of

your situation. Where are you living now and why are you waiting to

move back to Canada?

Sandrea