Re: **SPAM: Phone Calls from Mom

December 17, 2003

Dee, as long as you are consistant and your mom understands the boundary and you

have the strength to enforce it, it should get better with time after some

initial kicking and screaming. BP's behavior is triggered with abandonment and

they try to do everything to hoover you back in to the situation. Your

husband's support is wonderful, it will take a while for you to get over the

fact that you've asked to stay away. More than likely, when you mother finds

out that she can't engage with you anymore, she will be on to her next victim.

a vampire can't go long without blood and if the source has dried, they find

another--hold tight and make sure it isn't you! stay strong, tiki

**SPAM: Phone Calls from Mom

Hey, I've gotten this same call many times only the thank you part

was never included. I think I'd fall over dead if it was ever

acknowledged that I had ever done anything for her. She is the only

one who does for others in her eyes.

My husband wrote my mother a little note 2 1/2 weeks ago. So most of

you know what I am in for. He left it at her house with something of

hers that was left here. It said leave your daughter alone. I have

yet to hear from her. It has been nice and kept me from getting the

usual call with subtle innuendoes and the usual bit about me having

problems. I had no idea he wrote the note until days later and I

know that I will be lectured and guilted for him having done that. I

told him he didn't know what he had done. He doesn't understand why

I can't just forget her and move on.

I am relieved and sick at the same time. She has called my daughter

and now she has called my husbands cell phone and left a message for

him to call her. She'd like to talk to him she is concerned about

me.

God this will just go on and on and on because I took a stand for

what I wanted over what she wanted.

Dee

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