Affirmations for Fearful Emotions

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" Affirmations for Fearful Emotions "

Written by Louise Hay

" Fears are merely thoughts, and thoughts can be released. "

" FEARFUL EMOTION CHECKLIST:

" Check the items below that you believe are applicable to you. By the end of

this message, you will be able to counter these negative thoughts with positive

ones.

1) " I'm anxious all the time. "

2) " Nothing works for me. "

3) " Growing older frightens me. "

4) " I'm afraid of flying. "

5) " People scare me. "

6) " What if I become homeless? "

7) " I have difficulty expressing my feelings. "

8) " My temper is out of control. "

9) " I can't focus on anything. "

10) " Everyone is against me. "

11) " I feel like a failure. "

12) " What if I have to endure a painful death? "

13) " I'm scared of being alone. "

" In any given situation, I believe that we have a choice between love and

fear. We experience fear of change, fear of not changing, fear of the future,

and fear of taking a chance. We fear intimacy, and we fear being alone. We fear

letting people know what we need and who we are, and we fear letting go of the

past.

" At the other end of the spectrum, we have love. Love is the miracle we're all

looking for. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. I'm not talking about

vanity or arrogance, because that's not love. That's fear. I'm talking about

having great respect for ourselves, and gratitude for the miracle of our body

and mind.

" Remind yourself when you're frightened that you're not loving and trusting

yourself. Not feeling " good enough " interferes with the decision-making process.

How can you make a good decision when you're not sure about yourself?

" Jeffers, in her marvelous book " FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY " , states

that " if everybody feels fear when approaching something totally new in life,

yet so many are out there 'doing it' despite the fear, then we must conclude

that FEAR IS NOT THE PROBLEM. " She goes on to say that the real issue is not

the fear, but how we HOLD the fear. We can approach it from a position of power

or a position of helplessness. The fact that we have the fear becomes

irrelevant.

" We see what we THINK the problem is, and then we find out what the REAL

problem is. Not feeling " good enough " and lacking self-love are the real

problems.

" Emotional problems are among the most painful of all. Occasionally we may

feel angry, sad, lonely, guilty, anxious, or frightened. When these feelings

take over and become predominant, our lives can become emotional battlegrounds.

" What we DO with our feelings is important. Are we going to act out in some

way? Will we punish others or force our will upon them? Will we somehow abuse

ourselves?

" The belief that we're NOT GOOD ENOUGH is often at the root of these problems.

Good mental health begins with LOVING THE SELF. When we love and approve of

ourselves COMPLETELY -- the good and the so-called bad -- we can begin to

change.

" Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people's opinions. Many of the

things that we've chosen to believe about ourselves have absolutely no basis in

truth.

" For example, a young man named was a client of mine several years ago

when I was seeing people privately. He was devastatingly handsome and made a

good living as a model. He told me how difficult it was for him to go to the gym

because he felt so unattractive.

" As we worked together, he recalled that a neighborhood bully from his

childhood used to call him " ugly. " This person would also beat him up and

constantly threaten him. In order to be left alone and feel safe, began to

hide. He bought into the fact that he wasn't good enough. In his mind, he WAS

ugly.

" Through self-love and doing positive affirmations, has improved

tremendously. His feelings of anxiety may come and go, but now he has some tools

to work with it.

" Remember, feelings of inadequacy start with negative thoughts that we have

about ourselves. However, these thoughts have no power over us unless we act

upon them. Thoughts are only words strung together. They have NO MEANING

WHATSOEVER. Only WE give meaning to them, and we do so by focusing on the

negative messages over and over again in our minds. We believe the worst about

ourselves. And WE choose what KIND of meaning we give to them.

" We're always perfect, always beautiful, and ever-changing. We're doing the

best we can with the understanding, knowledge, and awareness that we have. As we

grow and change more and more, our " best " will only get better and better.

EXERCISE: Letting Go

" As you read this exercise, take a deep breath, and as you exhale, allow the

tension to leave your body. Let your scalp, forehead, and face relax. Your head

need not be tense in order for you to read. Let your tongue, throat, and

shoulders relax. Let your back, abdomen, and pelvis relax. Let your breathing be

at peace as you relax your legs and feet.

" Can you feel a noticeable change in your body since you started reading the

previous paragraph? In this relaxed, comfortable position, say to yourself, " I

AM WILLING TO LET GO. I RELEASE. I LET GO. I RELEASE ALL TENSION. I RELEASE ALL

FEAR. I RELEASE ALL ANGER. I RELEASE ALL GUILT. I RELEASE ALL SADNESS. I LET GO

OF OLD LIMITATIONS. I LET GO, AND I AM AT PEACE. I AM AT PEACE WITH MYSELF. I AM

AT PEACE WITH THE PROCESS OF LIFE. I AM SAFE. "

" Go over this exercise two or three times. Repeat it whenever thoughts of

difficulty come up. It takes a little practice for the routine to become a part

of you. Once you're familiar with this exercise, you can do it anywhere at any

time. You will be able to relax completely in any situation.

EXERCISE: FEARS AND AFFIRMATIONS

" After each category listed below, write down your greatest fear. Then, think

of a positive affirmation that would correspond to it.

1) " CAREER:

" Sample Fear: I'm afraid that no will ever see my value. "

" Sample Affirmation: Everybody at work appreciates me. "

2) " LIVING SITUATION:

" Sample Fear: I'll never have a place of my own. "

" Sample Affirmation: There is a perfect home for me, and I accept it now. "

3) " FAMILY RELATIONS:

" Sample Fear: My parents won't accept me the way I am. "

" Sample Affirmation: I accept my parents, and they, in turn, accept and

love me. "

4) " MONEY:

" Sample Fear: I'm afraid of being poor. "

" Sample Affirmation: I trust that all my needs will be taken care of. "

5) " PHYSICAL APPEARANCE:

" Sample Fear: I think I'm fat and unattractive. "

" Sample Affirmation: I release the need to criticize my body. "

6) " SEX:

" Sample Fear: I'm afraid that I'll have to " perform. "

" Sample Affirmation: I am relaxed, and I flow with life easily and

effortlessly. "

7) " HEALTH:

" Sample Fear: I'm afraid I'll get sick and won't be able to take care of

myself. "

" Sample Affirmation: I always attract all the help I need. "

8) " RELATIONSHIPS:

" Sample Fear: I don't think anyone will ever love me. "

" Sample Affirmation: Love and acceptance are mine. I love myself. "

9) " OLD AGE:

" Sample Fear: I'm afraid of getting old. "

" Sample Affirmation: Every age has its infinite possibilities. "

10) " DEATH AND DYING:

" Sample Fear: What if there's no life after death? "

" Sample Affirmation: I trust the process of life. I am on an endless

journey through eternity. "

EXERCISE: POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

" Choose an area of fear from the last exercise that's most pertinent and

pressing for you. Using visualization, see yourself going through the fear with

a positive outcome. See yourself feeling free and being at peace.

" Now write down a positive affirmation 25 times. Remember the power you're

tapping in to! "

EXERCISE: HAVE FUN WITH YOUR INNER CHILD

" When you're in a state of anxiety or fear that keeps you from functioning,

you may have abandoned your inner child. Think of some ways in which you can

reconnect with your inner child. What could you do for fun? What could you do

that is JUST FOR YOU?

" List 15 ways in which you could have fun with your inner child. You may enjoy

reading good books, going to the movies, gardening, keeping a journal, or taking

a hot bath. How about some " childlike " activities? Really take the time to

think. You could run on the beach, go to a playground and swing on a swing, draw

pictures with crayons, or climb a tree. Once you've made your list, try at least

one activity each day. Let the healing begin!

" Look at all you've discovered! Keep going -- you can create such fun for you

and your inner child! Feel the relationship between the two of you healing.

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" The statements in the checklist at the beginning of this chapter are repeated

below, along with an affirmation corresponding to each belief. Make these

affirmations part of your daily routine. Say them often in the car, at work,

while looking in the mirror, or anytime you feel your negative beliefs

surfacing.

" I'm anxious all the time. "

Affirm: " I AM AT PEACE. "

" Nothing works for me. "

Affirm: " MY DECISIONS ARE ALWAYS PERFECT FOR ME. "

" Growing older frightens me. "

Affirm: " MY AGE IS PERFECT, AND I ENJOY EACH NEW MOMENT. "

" I'm afraid of flying. "

Affirm: " I CENTER MYSELF IN SAFETY AND ACCEPT THE PERFECTION OF MY LIFE. "

" People scare me. "

Affirm: " I AM LOVED AND SAFE WHEREVER I GO. "

" What if I become homeless? "

Affirm: " I AM AT HOME IN THE UNIVERSE. "

" I have difficulty expressing my feelings. "

Affirm: " IT IS SAFE TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS. "

" My temper is out of control. "

Affirm: " I AM AT PEACE WITH MYSELF AND MY LIFE. "

" I can't focus on anything. "

Affirm: " MY INNER VISION IS CLEAR AND UNCLOUDED. "

" Everyone is against me. "

Affirm: " I AM LOVABLE, AND EVERYBODY LOVES ME. "

" I feel like a failure. "

Affirm: " MY LIFE IS A SUCCESS. "

" What if I have to endure a painful death? "

Affirm: " I DIE PEACEFULLY AND COMFORTABLY AT THE RIGHT TIME. "

" I'm scared of being alone. "

Affirm: " I EXPRESS LOVE, AND I ALWAYS ATTRACT LOVE WHEREVER I GO. "

" I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO BE AT PEACE. "

Copyright 2005. " You Can Heal Your Life Affirmation Kit " (Guidebook) Written

by Louise L. Hay, Published by Hay House Inc.

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