Guest guest Posted December 31, 2003 Report Share Posted December 31, 2003 I can relate to nadas putting on an act if I had a dime for everytime my nada told me she was too good to her kids and that is why we took such advantage of her...I believed her for a long time even though it felt like a surreal B movie. She always, always compared me to everyone elses' daughter. My cousins were so good to their parents because their parents were stricter and gave less and that produced children who were good to their parents unlike me who was a selfish " witch " according to her. I always had an image of myself as selfish because she told me that so many times but now I see it is what she wanted me to believe so that she had reason to feel victimized which is a deep seeded need in her....she's never at fault even though she fights with everyone...coworkers, relatives, in-laws, my brother, myself, etc. etc. It is so maddenning that in her bizarre world she is kind, good and never at fault.. For years I was waiting for her to " wake up " and apologize to me and say " you know what, you are a good daughter " but now I know that will never happen she will go to her grave blaming me for our failed relationship and that still hurts believe it or not. I do get validation from family members including her own sister who is my beloved aunt so I know what reality is but nadas can be so convincing that we have to continually remind ourselves that we are living in reality not them. Happy nada-free New Year to y'all. God Bless. Stay strong Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2003 Report Share Posted December 31, 2003 > For years I was waiting for her to " wake up " and apologize to me and say " you know what, you are a good daughter " but now I know that will never happen she will go to her grave blaming me for our failed relationship and that still hurts believe it or not. Another terrible part of the KO's trama. Now I keep thinking she will see and be remorseful for the damage she is passing down the generations but I too think she will take her distortions to the grave with a smile on her surgically uplifted face. She is so vain she will have her eyelids lifted when she is given the news she has only a few weeks to live, my luck she will live another 20 years, her parents did. To 100 years old, she is ONLY 80. Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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