Re: Aunt's p.o.v. about nada Rached

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This is almost identical to what has been going on with me and my aunt (nada's

sister). Aunt knows nothing about bp but I started stronger communication with

her about a year ago.

Nada knows we have slight contact but we keep it discreet. I am sure nada has

been suspicious and is probably very deeply angry that I have contact with aunt.

After all, she is the queen that is the only one allowed to have contact with

anyone - all of us minions should not connect with anyone - they should go

through and be controlled by her.

Anyway, my aunt has slowly drawn me a photo of what went on with her and my

mother (nada). Another sister was put on a pedestal, a crybaby, catered to,

never made to take on any " chores " chaufered around. My aunt on the other hand,

had to work, walk to and from, pay rent, do inside and outside work after

getting home from work, even shovel snow.

This proves to me it is somewhat responsible for my nada's behavior (she was

treated like my aunt). I am more than convinced, my nada made my sis the (aunts

pampered sister) as my sis was raised the same way while I was made to do all

the helping and receive the emotional abuse.

, let the chips fall. My nada raged on me for half hour a month ago -

something she has not done since my marriage 30 yrs ago. Right now, I don't care

what the b---- knows. She can't hurt me now, she's already done the worse and

it's costing her dearly. She's too dumb to get with the program, had a relapse

that she can stomp all over me and I will bounce back (kiss her a--) like I did

in early childhood.

No more family secrets, no more get togethers. History. Now, one of my biggest

fears (in her last days) that she would snub me while sis mushes and gushes all

over her(rejection of me from nada - she dismissed me while I was trying to get

to her hospital bed to show my love) is gone. Haahahah! Nannernannernanner!

Sometimes it's better for us to face what's real! And believe me, this has been

painful. That is why I let her rage on for half an hour - now I've heard the

hate - the truth. All those little phony glimmers that she still held any love

for me died. It was a dellusion I needed to hold onto since I was 4 years old. I

took way too much away from me and my hubby these 30 years and I am terribly

angry about that. (Every holiday ruined, her sly intrusiveness, practically

hounding us with showing up not calling first. One week every night in a row at

9:30 p.m.) She would always blame my father " that he wanted to get out of the

house " . I think now that was harrassment because we had bought our dream home

and I saw other signs of ugliness and jealousy. They would come in, I'd no more

than get the coffee poured, they'd take a sip and leave. I remember these deep

feelings of (like depression, but couldn't verbalize them) So I am repeating

myself, I thin she was harrassing me and I was too dumb to know or face it.

Have fun with your aunt , and be thankful that you have someone understand

you, warm wishes, Trompalina

> This is part of an email I got from my aunt tonight. I had told her

> that after hearing nada was in contact with some family members, I

> felt a little twinge of fear that nada would soon know that I was in

> contact with her (my aunt). I also told her I realized there was

> nothing at all " wrong " with me being in contact with her, and that it

> truly has nothing to do with nada. But everything is a betrayal to

> nada.. This is part of my aunt's response.

> >>>> " As far as your mom finding out about me being in contact with

> you. I don't care. The only reason I didn't push it before was to

> protect you girls. I just wish I could have done more when you were

> younger. I will be in contact with you as long as you want and I

> don't care if anyone likes it or not. There is no doubt that your

> mom knows about me being in contact with you because aunt *W* knows.

> Soooo I say bring it on. She can't hurt you anymore now. " <<<<<

> Just wanted to share with everyone.

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> This is almost identical to what has been going on with me and my

aunt (nada's sister). Aunt knows nothing about bp but I started

stronger communication with her about a year ago.

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My aunt didn't know anything about it either. After a few emails

back and forth, I gave her the link to bpdcentral.com and told her if

she was interested in what my mom's problem is, that would help

explain! lol She wrote me back saying that yeah, that sounded about

right.

> , let the chips fall. My nada raged on me for half hour a

month ago - something she has not done since my marriage 30 yrs ago.

Right now, I don't care what the b---- knows. She can't hurt me now,

she's already done the worse and it's costing her dearly. She's too

dumb to get with the program, had a relapse that she can stomp all

over me and I will bounce back (kiss her a--) like I did in early

childhood.

>

> Have fun with your aunt , and be thankful that you have

someone understand you, warm wishes, Trompalina

I'm not worried about nada being furious with ME really, I think she

probably already was before this. I stopped talking to her about a

year ago. My aunt was right, nada can't hurt me any more.