Guest guest Posted February 20, 2004 Report Share Posted February 20, 2004 Dear : Don't worry about it, we cannot be all things to all people all the time. I certainly take off and don't answer all posts. I have 678 posts in my in box rigth now!You have to take care of yourself and your mom first. We are here to support YOU. You need it now. Let us know what we can do for you, or just let us know what is going on with your mom right now. I am sending you strength and support, take care of yourself, hugs, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2004 Report Share Posted February 20, 2004 , Please know that you are not the only one that struggles with the issues of LBD or even that things are so that you may not be able to support others. I was off-line for several months as my life fell apart. The most difficult time in my life was making the decision to place my mom in LTC last August. It has taken me six months to even begin to support others. I must confess; all the wonderful souls on this site have been here all along to help me through the difficulties. Life taught me to handle these issues on my own. I have learned that while I may be able to talk about LBD issues, I balk at burdening others with so many other situations in my life. My loss. When others are in need, I feel needed. For me, just reading the posts is all that I can handle sometimes. There are other times sharing is what gets me by. You are all that you need to be right now. Please know that we all vacillate between needing help and being helpful. You have my full admiration as you are able to write and say that you are not doing well. It is my belief that in our own humility we attain the greatest growth. I have a lot of growing to do. There is no need for apologies. Instead, I want to thank you for being honest and reaching out. You are helping me by being just who you are; open and honest. It is with open arms that we are accepted here. We are all on this mission together. Isn't it a blessing that to have this site. It is a blessing to have you here too. Hugs, Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2004 Report Share Posted February 20, 2004 , My journey is past caregiving. I am here to help you and you are not to worry about anyone but yourself and your Mom. Please call someone. Social worker from the Alzheimers Assoc. will be glad to talk to you. So will the county nurse who may have some resources. Area on Aging has a phone # too. Or call Hospice. They will be happy to come out and do an evaluation. You do not need to sign up for anything but it will bring someone into your house and they may know something the community has available to you. I know you can get Meal on Wheels for your Mom. Even if she doesn't eat it, you can and it will save you cooking time. You need to not get burned out. That does not help your Mom. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2004 Report Share Posted February 21, 2004 , The beauty of this group is that we don't have to feel that we need to be helpful all of the time. There is a time to help, to be helped, to rant, to rave or just listen. All are equally important and the laughs are really good to boot. Hope you are doing better. Courage Please forgive me >Hello all, and welcome to all new members. > >I have to say I'm sorry because right now I cannot provide any help >to anyone needing advise or help. I am so messed up right now over >my mother and everything that is going on that I am unable to think >straight enough to help others. I am so sorry I know we all need each >other right now. Please bear with me. > > (pa) > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2004 Report Share Posted February 21, 2004 : No one says you need to provide support all the time. You're allowed to be " messed up " over this illness and what it's done to your family. Please know the support that is found here is here for you too. And know that we are praying for all of us and that we care. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2004 Report Share Posted February 21, 2004 In a message dated 2/21/2004 1:52:51 AM Eastern Standard Time, elswittnbrg53@... writes: > When others are in need, I feel needed. For me, just reading the posts is > all that I can handle sometimes. There are other times sharing is what gets > me > by. You are all that you need to be right now. Please know that we all > vacillate between needing help and being helpful. You have my full > admiration as > you are able to write and say that you are not doing well. It is my belief > that in our own humility we attain the greatest growth. I have a lot of > growing > to do. > > There is no need for apologies. Instead, I want to thank you for being > honest and reaching out. You are helping me by being just who you are; open > and > honest. It is with open arms that we are accepted here. We are all on this > > mission together. Isn't it a blessing that to have this site. It is a > blessing > to have you here too. > ditto, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2004 Report Share Posted February 21, 2004 - STOP! NEVER apologise for not being able to respond. When I was caring for my dad and in the thick fog of exhaustion, depression, anxiety and hopelessness I would sit glaring at the posts on this site and bawl!!!! I just couldn't respond to anyone - I was simply overwhelmed. So - I'd read those I could face and delete the rest! I would feel so guilty that I wasn't responding to the obvious cries for help BUT I knew that everyone understood and it would be incredible to see others responding. I'd see that other folks were stepping in and dealing with stuff whilst I stepped back and took deep breaths. When I'd composed myself and felt strong enough I'd step in again. We interweave - we dovetail - we're like angels with a broken wing .... we hold onto each other to fly. You be kind to yourself - we totally understand. You are doing a wonderful job. You have our complete admiration and respect - and love Sally x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2004 Report Share Posted February 21, 2004 do not feel bad for being unable to respond. I too felt guilty at times, seeming only to post when I had a problem, but the thing is, we all have ups and downs with this disease and times when we can help others and times when we can barely read the posts at all never mind respond...do what feels okay and don't sweat it. Just know we are here if you need answers or to vent. Kath Re: Please forgive me > , > > Please know that you are not the only one that struggles with the issues of > LBD or even that things are so that you may not be able to support others. I > was off-line for several months as my life fell apart. The most difficult time > in my life was making the decision to place my mom in LTC last August. It > has taken me six months to even begin to support others. > > I must confess; all the wonderful souls on this site have been here all along > to help me through the difficulties. Life taught me to handle these issues > on my own. I have learned that while I may be able to talk about LBD issues, I > balk at burdening others with so many other situations in my life. My loss. > > > When others are in need, I feel needed. For me, just reading the posts is > all that I can handle sometimes. There are other times sharing is what gets me > by. You are all that you need to be right now. Please know that we all > vacillate between needing help and being helpful. You have my full admiration as > you are able to write and say that you are not doing well. It is my belief > that in our own humility we attain the greatest growth. I have a lot of growing > to do. > > There is no need for apologies. Instead, I want to thank you for being > honest and reaching out. You are helping me by being just who you are; open and > honest. It is with open arms that we are accepted here. We are all on this > mission together. Isn't it a blessing that to have this site. It is a blessing > to have you here too. > > Hugs, > Betty > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2004 Report Share Posted February 21, 2004 My heart just broke when I read your post. Please write about your worries if you think that will help. I know everyone here goes through tough times and we are here to help during those times. You posting about yourself and your worries helps and gives support to members. Please know you are in my prayers. Big hugs~ Please forgive me Hello all, and welcome to all new members. I have to say I'm sorry because right now I cannot provide any help to anyone needing advise or help. I am so messed up right now over my mother and everything that is going on that I am unable to think straight enough to help others. I am so sorry I know we all need each other right now. Please bear with me. (pa) Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2004 Report Share Posted February 23, 2004 Hi, , Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am sending strength your way. We all understand how overwhelming things can get, and sometimes it is just impossible to keep up with things. It is always good to hear from you whenever you have time. Big hugs and much love, Piper Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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