Thankyou all

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Thankyou all for your prompt responses. I have to tell you the

message you are all sending me is to limit my contact with my mother.

However I am living with my mother, I am my mothers carer and have

been since my father passed away nearly 7yrs ago. I would really like

to read the book/s you have all suggested and it would be helpful to

know where I can purchase them from. I am considering getting some

counselling for myself, however I would like to go into the sessions

with some goal in mind. It would be too easy for me to go in there

and have a big sook session where I would end up bawling my eyes out

and leaving there very distressed and embarassed. I don't want to go

there just for a whinge, I would prefer to be matter of fact but also

objective, thus ensuring the excersise will be productive.

For your interest I have on many occassions spoken to the dr about my

mother, but it seems once you have been diagnosed with depression

once in life, then every single minute problem is because you have

depression. You have no idea how much I hate that word. It has for

more than 50yrs I am sure, stopped my mother looking at the real

issues in her life, and created a safety net for her behaviours (this

is in the eyes of the dr). She was seeing a therapist, however he had

no interest in speaking with me and refused me the time. Her dr did

nothing to support me but break my confidentiality and my trust. He

is one of the very reasons I am at my wits end. How long have I said

I would feel better if I got the support from the medical

proffession, however I may as well ask my mother for the support, you

get the same response.

Thx