Re: Re: LTC Facility for Olivia

[Guest guest]

Hi Abby,

The LTC facility is called Kensington Gardens and it is built over what used

to be Doctors Hospital in downtown Toronto. Its in the area of Little Italy

(about 8 streets away from her home). The neighbourhood and facility has

lots of Italian and Portuguese residents so my mom will be able to meet

other Portuguese and Italian people just like on her own street now. It is

directly across from Kensington Market (on College St.).

As for my dad, he's lost some weight, gets tired very quickly and tells me

that he generally feels bad all over. I suspect it has to do with the meds

and the shots as previous to this his only complaint was not be able to hold

his bladder. We do have an appt. on Monday and thats when other tests with

other doctors will be scheduled. His family doctor said that the way my dad

is being handled is the correct procedure but he agreed that it doesn't hurt

to have a second opinion and even he was concerned that my dad's urologist

hadn't ordered more tests.

Courage

Re: LTC Facility for Olivia

>Courage:

>

>I think it's a great idea. It is always better to be ready rather

>than to have to react to an emergency with no backup plans.

>

>The nh sounds great!!! What is it called? It sounds really well

>equipped for dementia patients. I'm hoping it's a good fit for your

>mom Olivia.

>

>You say your dad's not doing too well. If I can ask, what seems to

>be his major problem? Is he depressed or is he in physical pain?

>Did you get your second opinion?

>

>Sorry for the inquisition. Hope things get brighter for you soon.

>

>Abby

>

>

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>

>

>Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Abby.

Courage

Re: LTC Facility for Olivia

>Courage:

>

>I know it!!! I even saw it not too long ago when I was driving

>around and my dad was in the hospital. (I used to take alternate

>routes to either get home and avoid traffic or get to my dad). My

>mom is just telling me about it now and she's not surprised at the

>cultural populace there given its location.

>

>Sorry to hear about your dad's ill health after the shots and the

>meds he's taken. I think you are absolutely right to get a second

>opinion. Never hurts right? If nothing else, it will put all of you

>at ease.

>

>Sending you tonnes of hugs and fortitude Courage.

>

>Abby

>

>

>

>

>

>Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

We did not put my mother in a nursing home because my dad didnt want it. I

have no regrets in not doing that but I certainly can see the reasons for

doing it. I think which ever way you go, you have to be happy with the

decision. That is one thing I learned, you can have no regrets about the

care you give. You are giving the care out of love and doing the best things

you can for them. It is difficult no matter how you go with the care.

M

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>Thanks so much Abby.

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> Re: LTC Facility for Olivia

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> >Courage:

> >

> >After reading Betty's post to you wherein she described how difficult

> >the choice was to put her mom into a nh and how she has finally

> >arrived at a place where she knows she did the right thing, I had to

> >respond.

> >

> >As you know, my dad is not well. Hasn't been well since this entire

> >process started for us last July. There are so many things I regret

> >insofar as my dad is concerned. I've talked about them repeatedly on

> >this site. The two things I don't regret are: the time I spent with

> >him from July/03 to February of this year and that I still spend with

> >him (albeit no longer for as long as I did then now that I'm back at

> >work) and the second thing I don't regret is placing my father in the

> >nh.

> >

> >I realize my dad may or may not have a lot of time left and it pains

> >me that he'll probably not be able to visit his home again (the home

> >he built and nurtured where everything just seems to speak of him)

> >but I know that home was not the right place for him given his rapid

> >decline.

> >

> >My mother, on her own, couldn't do it. You, even with your father

> >and some siblings that offer some help, can't do it. You don't want

> >something really horrendous to happen before you initiate this

> >process. We were really lucky that the doctors at St. Mike's were

> >good to us and got us in our 2nd choice facility. An Educational

> >Assistant who works with me in my Period 2 class has a mother who was

> >very ill and they ended up having to place her in " Crisis Care " which

> >translates into a facility that is a 25 minute drive for the nearest

> >family member.

> >

> >I think you're being very judicious by checking out your prospects.

> >Smart girl you are, my friend.

> >

> >I visit my dad often even now and there is never a time when I'm not

> >satisfied with his care. That does my heart good. Someone here once

> >wrote that he/she tells his/her mother that the people who care for

> >her are his/her friends and that they love her. That rings so true

> >for me. The care providers don't love my dad - but I know they like

> >him a whole lot. They read the paper to him and sit down with him

> >and have the juice we bring for visitors and us that we keep in the

> >fridge in his room. I leave him now feeling at peace.

> >

> >Best of luck Courage. You are doing an awesome job.

> >

> >Hey, Toronto's supposed to have one helluva summer and right now,

> >outside my bedroom window, the sun is shining and spring has sprung.

> >I hope your adventures with Olivia enrich you both.

> >

> >Abby

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Amen to that.

Courage

Re: LTC Facility for Olivia

>>

>>

>> >Courage:

>> >

>> >After reading Betty's post to you wherein she described how difficult

>> >the choice was to put her mom into a nh and how she has finally

>> >arrived at a place where she knows she did the right thing, I had to

>> >respond.

>> >

>> >As you know, my dad is not well. Hasn't been well since this entire

>> >process started for us last July. There are so many things I regret

>> >insofar as my dad is concerned. I've talked about them repeatedly on

>> >this site. The two things I don't regret are: the time I spent with

>> >him from July/03 to February of this year and that I still spend with

>> >him (albeit no longer for as long as I did then now that I'm back at

>> >work) and the second thing I don't regret is placing my father in the

>> >nh.

>> >

>> >I realize my dad may or may not have a lot of time left and it pains

>> >me that he'll probably not be able to visit his home again (the home

>> >he built and nurtured where everything just seems to speak of him)

>> >but I know that home was not the right place for him given his rapid

>> >decline.

>> >

>> >My mother, on her own, couldn't do it. You, even with your father

>> >and some siblings that offer some help, can't do it. You don't want

>> >something really horrendous to happen before you initiate this

>> >process. We were really lucky that the doctors at St. Mike's were

>> >good to us and got us in our 2nd choice facility. An Educational

>> >Assistant who works with me in my Period 2 class has a mother who was

>> >very ill and they ended up having to place her in " Crisis Care " which

>> >translates into a facility that is a 25 minute drive for the nearest

>> >family member.

>> >

>> >I think you're being very judicious by checking out your prospects.

>> >Smart girl you are, my friend.

>> >

>> >I visit my dad often even now and there is never a time when I'm not

>> >satisfied with his care. That does my heart good. Someone here once

>> >wrote that he/she tells his/her mother that the people who care for

>> >her are his/her friends and that they love her. That rings so true

>> >for me. The care providers don't love my dad - but I know they like

>> >him a whole lot. They read the paper to him and sit down with him

>> >and have the juice we bring for visitors and us that we keep in the

>> >fridge in his room. I leave him now feeling at peace.

>> >

>> >Best of luck Courage. You are doing an awesome job.

>> >

>> >Hey, Toronto's supposed to have one helluva summer and right now,

>> >outside my bedroom window, the sun is shining and spring has sprung.

>> >I hope your adventures with Olivia enrich you both.

>> >

>> >Abby

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

>> >

>> >

>> >