Yin/Yang Anima/Animus (was Re: PLEASE HELP!!!!! Grieving)

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Tammy, I have had very similar struggles. My Nada hated men in a

very dismissive, contemptuous kind of way, thought they were stupid

and useless. But she hated her own femininity even more; she totally

repressed all her feminine qualities and behaved in a " pure Yang "

kind of way, and everything she valued was pure Yang, too.

My Myers-Briggs type is INFP, which is the most Yin of all the types,

which exacerbated the conflict between us, and I ended up going

against my nature very much. I have learned that my " true vocation "

is to work with people, but I started out in hard science, and was

going to status and prestige and facts, all in a desperate attempt to

please Nada.

Which is not to say that I don't have genuine natural abilities for

traditionally-male activities. These days I work in IT, and I'm a

talented and productive software developer, if I do say so myself.

But I program very intuitively, and what motivates me is what the

technology can do for the people I work with :-)

Hugs,

> I've always had a real issue with my feminity because of my nada's

> abuse. By the time I was 13, I decided that it wasn't okay to be a

> girl, so I started acting like a boy, basically. After I grew up,

I

> went to college to study electronics and have worked in that field

> for over 20 years. I currently am working as an electrician

> customizing fire trucks. I get really dirty and climb around on

> those trucks like a monkey! I've amazed myself that I've mastered

> some of the more difficult tasks like installing the light bars on

> the cab of the roof. The thing is as big as I am and weighs about

40

> pounds. I don't know if this all fits in with the Jungian theory

or

> not, I don't have a clue about that stuff, but it seems to.