Re: Hoovered again (((((Edith...Help)))))

[Guest guest]

Can't believe I did it ... again ... has been Y E A R S since I fell in this

badly.

Re: I've opted out of FOO gatherings, including Christmas, for about 20

years. I see my dad every few weeks; avoid mother altogether. Have had a

tenuous

relationship with my sister, on/off again.

I trusted my sister when she came over to bring Christmas presents a few days

ago...and she wanted to 'share' her frustration with our parents. I confided

in her that I've been on an antidepressant for almost 3 years. My sister

confided in me that she has ulcers, and believes the stress of mother's

hostility

is a cause; that our youngest 'Golden Boy' brother only rarely visits our

parents anymore; and told me that our middle brother has just married his 5th

wife/sees our parents about once a year. My sister told me that SHE has 'had

enough' of mother criticizing HER every move/word/zit. I gave her some books,

she seemed grateful; Children of The Self-Obsorbed/Stop Walking On

Eggshells/Understanding the Borderline Mother. And I emailed her links to a

couple of

sites that support KOs. I also sent the links to our brothers...big mistake.

My sister is visiting her daughters on the west coast for a week...I've no

idea whether she is checking her email...keeping up with this drama. She has

told our brothers about my being on antidepressants! My brothers are in prime

'enmeshed' form.

I was shaken for a few hours after getting the first email, but am ok now.

I'm pasting these; has anyone else been caught up in such a triangle? My

brothers send 'copies' to one another of our emails...we never have one-on-one

conversations.

Thanks for allowing me to vent, Carol

from 'middle' brother:

Carol, You are going to have to fight your battle with your imaginary demons

concerning our parents without me. I, for one, would wish for no other. Please

DO NOT send me any more of this kind of crap.

If you wish to communicate with one another on the level of brother and

sister without the repeated attacks on Mother and Daddy, I would truly love

that.

Otherwise, I wish you well, and wish your family the best of luck.

And from my youngest brother: (the link was an info site on Schizophrenia):

Carol After reading the passing of mail between you and I must say that

I feel the exact same way as him.

I have NO past memories of abuse nor do I believe YOU have any this is a

disease called Schizophrenia one that you have been fighting for many years.

And one that has changed not only your life but the entire familles.

I have reviewed every old movie ever made and I have found NO signs of abuse.

Me and glenda And ny Have tried to communicate and stay in touch from

time to time and as for my self I have called and tried to make plans for us to

do things together and they have never worked out.

I Would love to be able to communicate on a sister brother level as so

stated.

I am sending a link that you may enjoy as well look it over and get back with

me on it.

It will be on a mail of its own.

I hope this family can get together and be the family it should be.