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i have noticed that when others try to " clarify " things for others (andy), i

often feel the opposite may be happening.

as following the stories of TFAH (neo) and all of andy's understandings, i

notice how it takes me away from my own understanding. it seems there is a

need to teach/convince/share for the sake of " helping " but often i find it

not helpful at all. it is confusing and can bring up the idea in me that i

am lacking some understanding.

so here is my work: (being petty in the process)

andy should not clarify things for others.

is it absolutly true?

no. obviously he needs to clarify things, and he may be learning essential

things in the process. others may enjoy his stories and learn something from

this exchange as well.

how does it make me feel?

i feel annoyed. i am sad that i don't have more compassion for loooong

stories. i feel protective over others who may think they need andy's

understanding in finding their own truth. i am afraid to post my thoughts

because andy could jump in and clarify things for me.

who would i be without that thought?

i have no clue? maybe more understanding, open to letting this happen too.

not annoyed with andy's words. not afraid that andy could clarify things for

me. not afraid that andy could un-clarify things for me.

turn around:

andy should clarify things for others (because it is what he is doing)

i should not clarify things for others (i clarify things for my kids all the

time)

my thinking should not clarify things for me. (yes, without it i am already

clear)

love

andrea