Re: Heidi's (was Jan's) demands -- for

[Guest guest]

> Your

> responses are extremely appropos for me to hear though, and might

be

> exactly what is felt on the receiving end of these thoughts in my

> relationship. I so appreciate hearing how it is for you.

> Love, and wanting to hear more if there is any more for you,

>

> Heidi (Jan?)

, thank you, very interesting indeed, I second Heidi's request.

WE WANT (NEED?) MORE!

1. Is it true that I want/need to show me more?

- Well, reading 's response makes me aware of the potential

unhappiness with the one who's supposed to satisfy my hunger, and it

helps me to un-believe that he should be do that (satisfy my hunger),

and at the same time,

- no, it isn't true that I want/need more because I might find 'more'

inside of myself, and also I don't want to give me something he

doesn't feel like giving.

3. How do I feel when I have the thought that I want/need to

show me more?

- It makes me feel dependent on someone else to show me the truth,

- it makes me feel inadequate,

- it makes me think I'm a lazy bum to have him show me what I could

find out for myself if only I put more effort in it,

- it makes me put pressure on , trying to manipulate him, even

though jokingly, to do what I want/need him to do.

4. What would I be without the thought that I want/need to show

me more?

I'd be silent!

Love,

Eva