Re: Anne and Debbie: Re: Re: End stages question

[Guest guest]

Dear Debbie:

I am sorry about your new setback. Her blood sugar rise was dramatic, but

who knows what is going on in her body. Diabetes is associated with a lower

immune response, thus the infection in the blood. Scepticemia is not easily

reversible in a formerly healthy person, I am glad you mom received antibiotics

quickly, she is probably too weak to fight it on her own.

It is very difficult for the spouse, with usually more than a lifetime

together. How long have your parents been married? My mom and dad were 7 days

short of their 63rd anniversary.

Most LO's do become more awake and aware, being able to speak, before they

pass on. It is hard to tell when that happens, though. My dad was " almost

dead " a few times before the actual passing took place. It is unfortunate,

since

it turns out to be like the boy that cries wolf, the night my dad passed we

went home at about 10 PM to let my mom sleep and be able to be there early the

next day. They called us after 3 AM to tell us that he had died, but when we

got there I realized that he had been dead for quite a while. I think the

overnight sitter didn't realize it at all. Her cup of coffee was still warm in

the windowsill, but she was gone. We never got to talk to her to find out how

he passed. He was already with rigor mortis (sorry). I don't know how long it

takes for that to happen. I wish one of us would have been there for him.

Tell us about your parents. It looks like they have a great relationship and

are very much in love. It is so cute to see that when they are older. My

dad was 89 and my mom 86, but they kept up the romance until the end! My dad

held hands with my mom all the time she was there with him, except when he had

his bouts of dementia, that he didn't recognize anyone and was locked inside

his fear. Poor thing.

Ok, enough about me! It is a great help to be able to remember and speak

about it with people that understand. I am so lucky to have this group! I

wish

you the best for your mom, strength for yourself and your family. Enjoy your

beautiful 19 month old baby girl. My oldest baby is 18 years old now, and I

wish I could carry her! Of course, both my girls, the little one is 15, do

carry me now, as if I were a feather! LOL! They are taller and much, much

stronger. It goes so fast, so really enjoy her and your family. I pray for you

all, hugs,

Josie

[Guest guest]

Josie,

My Mom did the same thing. She waited until I was gone to die. The

nurse said that is often the case.

I had been at the hospital 6 days straight or my daughter was there. I

was so tired and came home and sat down in my usual chair and made the

mistake of not getting the alarm set before I even sat down. I

immediately fell asleep and jerked awake about 4 hours later and didn't

even take the shower I planned to take. I just raced back to the

hospital. I knew before I got there I was so late. I was less than 10

min from the hospital.

Donna