Re: I went to the orthopedic surgeon today..

[Guest guest]

Many years ago I sprained my ankle very badly and wore one of those huge

orthopedic boot things. I managed to fall in that and then was put in a

cast. I was told I'd have been better off breaking it. In any case, I

went to a surgeon who kind of poo pooed the pain and intimated I have a

weak pain tolerance. In any case, I pushed for surgery and it was done

to shorten the ligaments in my ankle which were way too stretched out.

Well I still had pain and so began another round of doctor visits and

therapy etc. Finally when one surgeon found that my tendon kept popping

out of the groove it was supposed to be in he said he'd do the surgery,

but wasn't really keen on it. Nevertheless, it fixed the problem and

after some additional therapy etc.. I know how a relatively stable

ankle. But it was me insisting that there was a problem that I wanted

corrected that was how I got the surgery. I don't know the best thing

regarding knees, but it does sound awful to have bones locking together

when there is a surgery that can remedy the issue.

Sandrea

[Guest guest]

Sandrea,

That was an awful experience you went through..

Weak pain tolerance?? Really these doctors make me think what????

I am glad it fixed the problem for you...

Was the recovery time a long time, if you dont mind me asking??

I am actually getting a second and third opinion next month, because I want to

know all my options..

I was in bad pain this morning in the knees, also my shoulder was impinged

again, it comes and goes and usually only pains me every couple of months..

had to virtually feed me my medications...

I was in tears and told him to find a woman that was well, he is 64 and should

be enjoying his life..

He told me he was happy and loved me and he would not even entertain the idea..

I really love my man, nothing fazes him...

I felt a lot better by the afternoon, but I spent 40 minutes in bed just lying

there with my eyes closed, and then slept on and off on the lounge for about 2

hours...

Now it is 7pm and I am feeling my old self again..

I was extra emotional this morning, It could be though because I took my first

sugar pill on the contraceptive pill to get my periods..

I also had some reiki done last Sunday and they said that I could be emotional

during the week because of it...

I was just crying over nothing, I thought I was going crazy LOL

But now I am back to my old self... I held off till 5.30pm to take my oxycodone

because I would rather the pain relief at night.. Being winter in Australia it

is cold during the nights and the pain is always worse..

But I am in a better frame of mind than this morning...

I actually fell asleep last night without my sleeping meds and did not realise

till 6am this morning I had not taken my anti depressants so that could have

made me teary too...

Anyway I am going on now.. LOL

Hope you are not in too much pain today..

Hugs and Healing

Heidi

[Guest guest]

" You are very fortunate to have a loving, caring mate. Hold onto him girl,

they are not easy to come by. Mine will watch me struggle to get a box of

cereal and eat it dry for lack of energy and strength to get the milk and a

bowl out, only to look at me with disgust, but ya know, I gotta eat

SOMETIME!!!!! "

STL Jane

Hi Jane that is the saddest thing I have heard.I would rather live alone.at

least you have virtual support here, if not physical/emotional at home.TC

dear, Aylwin xox

[Guest guest]

Hello Heidi,

For me I don't think it was my hormones but when I was attempting to

deal with my cognitive disfunction, I told my DH to put me in a home

if I get alot worse. I did not want to see him going through what my

mother did....he would not hear of it! I believe we take one step

forward and three steps back in this battle we wage against. I am

glad that you also have a great guy that will stand by you. In many

ways we need affirmation that we are secure as there seems nothing

else we can count on otherwise. I love these ladies here in our

group and I pray if they don't have a significant other helping them

that God would bless them with an extra portion of what they need

most!

I'm glad your feeling a little bit better today.

God bless,

>

> Sandrea,

> That was an awful experience you went through..

> Weak pain tolerance?? Really these doctors make me think what????

> I am glad it fixed the problem for you...

> Was the recovery time a long time, if you dont mind me asking??

> I am actually getting a second and third opinion next month,

because I want to know all my options..

> I was in bad pain this morning in the knees, also my shoulder was

impinged again, it comes and goes and usually only pains me every

couple of months..

> had to virtually feed me my medications...

> I was in tears and told him to find a woman that was well, he is 64

and should be enjoying his life..

> He told me he was happy and loved me and he would not even

entertain the idea..

> I really love my man, nothing fazes him...

> I felt a lot better by the afternoon, but I spent 40 minutes in bed

just lying there with my eyes closed, and then slept on and off on

the lounge for about 2 hours...

> Now it is 7pm and I am feeling my old self again..

[Guest guest]

OMG Sandrea, you hit the nail on the head! The loneliness is unbearable at

times, when I know I live with 4 other people - my daughter is the most helpful,

but she is waxing and waning as she gets older and busier. I also think that my

kids would help more if they saw their father help out more. But if he just

blows me off, why should they take on the responsibility, you know?

I helped my dad thru Alzheimers a few years ago and as painful as that was, and

emotionally and physically draining that was, I feel blessed that I got to share

in this ultimate experience of dying, with my dad. I just wanted to be with him

214/7

And that is what hurts so much, sometimes I think I'd be better off alone, becuz

the stress level here is painfully high - and we ALL know how good that is for

us!

Thank you for listening to me whine......sometimes I feel like I'm just weak and

should be able to " butch up " and take it - I can't tell you how much your

support means to me.

You take good care too!

STL Jane

Sandrea Kornblum wrote:

I don't know Jane. Maybe he is being passive aggressive rather than

just coming out and saying he can't deal with your illness or something.

The way that he treats you sounds cruel. I wouldn't treat an animal

that way. I don't have anyone to help me but in reality I think I am

better off alone than being seen as a burden and a pain in the neck or

something.

[Guest guest]

Hi Jane, Aylwin here again…I don’t want you to feel bad because everyone is

slagging your husband. It is a huge shift to make when you have always been

the caretaking type and as you say, he’s just not like that. Of course I

want him to wake up & smell the coffee, in sickness and in health goes both

ways you know! I guess time will tell if he will come around, you will get

fed up, or whatever. You may need to have a serious conversation with him

about all this, in front of a counselor if you have to. IMHO Aylwin ps I

just made some delicious super healthy lemon muffins and I hereby virtually

place one in front of you. Yum! xox

[Guest guest]

Aylwin, I'm just grateful to wake up and start over another day! LOL

STL Jane

Aylwin wrote: Hi Jane, well

I just cannot take being around other people most of the time

because it is too stimulating and exhausting <sigh>. I have gone through

this denial in family for years and years too. I love my kids to visit…one

or two days max, it is very exhausting but I love them so much. I also went

through nursing my Dad through Alzheimer’s BTW, it had some lovliness about

it though it was very hard. TC XOX Aylwin

[Guest guest]

-Yanno guys, this has nothing to do with orthopedic surgeons roflmao!

Jane and Alywin,

We all went throught our fathers and caring for them before their

deaths. Seems the things we have in common keep adding up, don't they?

sorry I havent posted much lately. When awake and up to it, I've beem

speeding round on my new wheels, down to the post office to get my mail

with my lil assist shitizu. I have run through one flower bed (not

kidding! LMAO!) but I went back and " patted " in an attempt to fix it.

Otherwise, I have a nurse coming to do a overnite pulmonary, oxgen

concentration type test on me. My doctor wants me on oxygen at night.

He feels a " blowby " can help in rejuvination of cells that might help

me wake up more refreshed.

He also is taking me off my morphine patches as I am getting alot more

intense constant pain. He is going to put me on oxycontin and will

keep taking the percodan also. Hope it works. At least he listens now

with real understanding. So different from when he thought I was just

depressed.

Anyway, god bless and luv you guys!

-- In CFAlliance , " Aylwin " wrote:

>

> Hi Jane, well I just cannot take being around other people most of

the time

> because it is too stimulating and exhausting <sigh>. I have gone

through

> this denial in family for years and years too. I love my kids to

visit…one

> or two days max, it is very exhausting but I love them so much. I

also went

> through nursing my Dad through Alzheimer's BTW, it had some lovliness

about

> it though it was very hard. TC XOX Aylwin

>